Overcome depression
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assalamu
alaikum. my mind is always chattering about what i have to say or do but cant
able to say or do and imagining that i am saying or doing. i am not able to do
anything outside the house. always feeling a block. what should i do to
overcome this state of mind?
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Answer:
Overcome depression
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His
help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and
whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness
that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Dear and Beloved
Sister in Islam, it is in the bestowed nature of mankind that the thought
process of every sane human being will always be ‘on’; and the mind will keep
on thinking on the matter which is closest to one’s heart.
Whatever is the
pre-occupation of the heart, the mind will automatically keep thinking about
it! If one’s heart is filled with the love of money, then the mind will keep
thinking about money! If one’s heart is filled with the love of someone,
the mind will keep thinking about that person! If one’s heart is filled
with the hatred of someone, then the mind will keep thinking about it!
Thus whatever is the pre-occupation of the heart, it is only natural that the
mind will follow it!
Sahih Al-Bukhari
Hadith 1.49 (part) Narrated by An Numan bin Bashir
I heard
Allah's Messenger (saws) saying, ‘Beware! There is a piece of flesh in the body
if it becomes good (reformed), the whole body becomes good; but if it gets
spoilt the whole body gets spoilt; and that is: the heart.’
Thus it is only the
contentment of the heart which will bring one contentment and peace of the
mind! If one’s heart is pre-occupied with the transient pleasures or
trials of this world, it is only natural for the mind to be restless; and
although every single human being in the world is searching in vain for this
mirage of how to get ‘contentment of the heart’, the All-Knowing, All Wise Lord
has provided the formula of where and how to seek this contentment in one
Glorious Aayah of guidance in the Holy Quran:
Allah says
in the Holy Quran Chapter 13 Surah Raad verse 28-29: The people who have
accepted (the Message), their hearts find comfort in the remembrance of
Allah. Note it well!, that is Allah’s remembrance
Alone that brings contentment to the hearts! Blessed are those
who have accepted the Message and done righteous deeds. They will
have a good end.
Allah Subhanah
declares that the ONLY way to find contentment of the heart (and mind) is the
constant Remebrance of Allah Subhanah. Only those fortunate ones who fill
their hearts with the love and awe of Allah Subhanah will be delivered from
this state of restless and emptiness! It is only when one understands and
accepts and submits to Allah’s Message, will one be able to relieve himself of
the state of depression and stress and emptiness that follows the transient
pleasures and trials of this world; for regardless of the condition one is in
the life of this world, after the acceptance of the Divine Message, he is absolutely
convinced and content at every Decree of His Lord. And the person who has
this conviction supreme, puts his full trust and belief in the Lord of the
Worlds and his heart and mind is constant in reminding him to prepare himself
for the inevitable meeting with his Merciful and Bounteous Creator!
Thus
my dear and beloved sister, the one and only way to seek the contentment of the
heart and thus the mind, is to be constant in your remembrance of Allah
Subhanah and in the doing of good righteous deeds that would enable you to earn
the Pleasure and Good Will of your Lord, Most Merciful.
In our humble opinion, The best thing you can do is keep doing
good righteous deeds, try to be in the state of wudhu always, offer the
prescribed prayers in time, read the Noble Quran with understanding daily as
much as is easy for you, fast during Ramadhan, keep in the company of good
muslima sisters, do voluntary fasts as
are easy for you and make as much supplications (duaa) as you can. InshaAllah
soon you will find a change and your moods will become normal.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only
due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is only ones.
Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in Islam,
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