Oral sex
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AOA,
My
husband and I engage in oral sex, My question is if I give him oral sex, and
his semen lands on my face or my mouth without him having touched my private
parts or even if he did touch my private parts with his hand and not his
private part, do i still need to take a shower/bath before having to say my prayers
or can i just wash it off with water and perform wudu?
thank
you.
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Answer:
Oral sex
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His
help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and
whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness
that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
My husband and I
engage in oral sex, My question is if I give him oral sex
Because oral sex is a new deviation of
mankind, it finds specific mention neither in the Quran nor the Sunnah!
Dear and Beloved Sister in Islam, it is
obvious that the act of ‘oral sex’, whereby one spouse derives pleasure by
touching the private parts of the other with their mouth is obviously
unnatural, unhealthy, unhygienic, unclean, impure and this act is not practiced
in any of the lower animate creations.
But since the permissibility/impermissibility
of this specific act of what is known today as ‘oral sex’ is not mentioned by
name or act anywhere in the Quran and the Sunnah, the God-fearing and the pious
amongst the scholars in Islam have abstained from declaring it ‘haraam’; the
most they have said is that the act is from the ‘khabaaith’ (impure) and thus
closer to the haraam than to the halaal, and the believers should fear Allah
and abstain from it.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith
3.267 Narrated by An Numan
bin Bashir
The Prophet (saws) said "Both the halaal
(lawful) and the haraam (unlawful) things are (made) obvious, and in between
them are (suspicious) doubtful matters. So whoever forsakes those
doubtful things lest he may commit a sin, will definitely avoid what is clearly
unlawful; and whoever indulges in these (suspicious) doubtful things bravely,
is likely to commit what is clearly illegal. Sins are Allah's Hima
(i.e. private pasture) and whoever pastures (his sheep) near it, is likely to
get in it at any moment."
Dear Beloved sister , to answer to your specific question,
oral sex per se is strictly forbidden in Islam. It goes against the natural
fitrah of mankind. All the scholars of Islam are unanimous in their comments
regarding this evil practice and classified it as a grave sin. It is by the
instigation of the shaytaan that some people perform this unclean and unhealthy
act.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 7 Surah
Aaraaf verse 157:
157 Those who follow the Messenger, the
‘Ummi’ (unlettered) Prophet (Mohammed (saws)) whom they find mentioned in their
own (Scriptures); in the Law and the Gospel; for he (Prophet Mohamed (saws))
commands them what is just and forbids them what is evil: he allows them as lawful what is
‘tayyibaat’ (good and pure) and prohibits them from what is ‘Khabaayith’ (bad,
evil and impure); He releases them from their heavy burdens and
from the yokes that are upon them. So it is those who believe in
him, honor him, help him, and follow the Light which is sent down with him: it
is they who will prosper."
Do i still need to
take a shower/bath
The conditions that would make the wudu or ablution of a women
invalid are:
Regarding your question if in the act of oral sex the
semen touches your face and/or mouth there is no need to do ghusl. Only the
washing of the exposed body parts to the semen and then the normal wudhu will
allow you to be available for prayers but perchance if you have been aroused by
this act and if you had a sexual discharge then it would be purer to do a full
ghusl.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah
Maidah verse 6:
6 O ye who
believe! When ye prepare for prayer wash your faces and your hands
(and arms) to the elbows; rub your heads (with water); and (wash) your feet to
the ankles. If ye are in a
state of ‘janaba’ (sexual impurity) bathe your whole body. But
if ye are ill or on a journey, or one of you cometh from offices of nature, or
ye have been in (sexual) contact with women, and ye find no water then take for
yourselves clean sand or earth and rub therewith your faces and
hands. Allah doth not wish to place you in a difficulty but to make
you clean and to complete His favor to you that ye may be grateful.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only
due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is only ones.
Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in Islam,
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