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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

sallamu alakum brother and sister. my question is, when a woman got married and she is the taking the responsibity of the house, that is like, feeding the house paying bills, like all the duty of the husband and also chasing women out side , and the wife is not happy, and the weeding is just nine months and all this time she is the one taking care of every thing, the only thing he those is to make he monintor her movement. and he doesnt have pity when it comes to money he will make sure he spend it any how. and when she talk to him he will just say Allah will bring it. what do u think, is it ok in islam? SECONDLY what of if she refuse to spend her money again is there any sin in doing that? PLS HELP i need to know. THANKS AND MAY GOD BLESS.

 

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Answer:

 

Husband & wife rights

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 34:

34   Men are the protectors and maintainers of women because Allah has given the one more than the other, and because they support them from their means.  Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient and guard in (the husband's) absence what Allah would have them guard (their chastity, their husband’s honor, property, etc.)

 

The complete financial responsibility of the upkeep and maintenance of the house and the family is the responsibility and duty of the men in Islam.  It is the responsibility and duty of the men in Islam to protect and maintain the women.

 

It is the responsibility of the men in Islam to make sure that food is provided to the womenfolk and family in their care, that clothing is provided for them, that a place is provided for them to reside in, etc.;

 

My dear beloved sister, Islam has specifically made the husband responsible for all the expenses of the family

The wife has absolutely no financial responsibility or obligation laid upon her by Shariah to provide for even a grain of rice for the family, even if she is a multi-millionaire in her own right!  It is the husband’s responsibility to provide her for all her needs according to his means.  If the wife works and earns some money, or she has inherited some wealth from her family; that wealth belongs solely to her and she may do with her personal wealth whatever she wills.  The husband has absolutely no right to use or demand anything from his wife’s earnings or personal wealth.  But if the wife, of her own free will, and without any force or coercion whatsoever, wishes to spend from her wealth on the house, or help her husband financially, there is no harm.    

 

The wife is well within her rights to spend of her wealth on herself, or give her money to anyone she wills, including her mother or her relatives or her friends, etc. If the wife has given some money to run the house to her husband as a loan, she is also well within her rights to demand the money back from her husband; and the husband has to repay the loan back to her. 

 

Beloved sister in Islam, the Shariah Law states that the complete and absolute financial responsibility of running a household is on the shoulders of the man, and the woman (no matter how rich she may be) is not required or obligated to spend even one cent on running the house.  But if the wife, of her own free will, and without any force or coercion whatsoever, wishes to spend her money on running the household, there is no harm.  If for any reason, the husband forces or coerces the wife in any way to share from her own personal wealth in help running the household, he will be guilty of not fulfilling his responsibility in the Court of Allah Subhanah. 

 

The wife's duty are house-hold bound. She does not have to contribute a single penny towards the house expenses if she does not wish to.

 

If your husband does not bring in any income, you are not bound to spend anything from your sources. You are within your rights not to bear any of the expenses and there will be no sin upon you whatsoever.

 

In return for everything the husband does for the wife in the sacred bond of marriage, the guidance of Islam commands and guides the wife to be grateful and devoutly obedient to her husband.

 

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3272        Narrated by Abu Hurayrah

When Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) was asked which woman was best he replied, "The one who pleases (her husband) when he looks at her, obeys him when he gives a command, and does not go against his wishes regarding her person or property by doing anything of which he disapproves."

 

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3272        Narrated by Abu Hurayrah

When Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) was asked which woman was best he replied, "The one who pleases (her husband) when he looks at her, obeys him when he gives a command, and does not go against his wishes regarding her person or property by doing anything of which he disapproves."

 

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 285         Narrated by Abu Hurayrah

The Prophet (saws) said: ‘Had it been permissible that a person may prostrate himself before another, I would have ordered that a wife should prostrate herself before her husband.’

 

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 284         Narrated by AbuAli Talq ibn Ali

The Prophet (saws) said: ‘When a man sends for his wife for the satisfaction of his need, she should go to him even if she may be occupied in baking bread.’

 

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 1.28 Narrated by Ibn Abbas

The Prophet (saws) said: "I was shown the Hell-Fire and found that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful." It was asked, "Do they disbelieve in Allah? (or are they ungrateful to Allah?)” He (saws) replied, "They are not thankful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors done to them. Even if you were to do good to one of them all your life, when she seems some harshness from you, she will say, "I have never seen any good from you!"

 

If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws),   one can be assured of never ever being misled;   but if one believes, obeys and follows any other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of being led astray.  

 

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is only ones. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

 

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

 

 

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