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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

Respected Sir,

Salam

 

My wife go to his father house without my will. I intend to serve her divorce notice. But one of my friend said first complaint to her father and do not send notice. So I stop and did not send notice. I am a student too she called but to stop her call, and avoid for disturbance call I send a SMS “ Now, we have no relation.” however she come to my house on the next day. She asked me what was ur meaning to send me the notice. I said “ if you did not come then I will serve you notice. I did not say divorce verbally and did not send notice by any other mean. Does it divorce among us.

 

Thank u very much.

 

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Answer:

 

Intend to divorce

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

 

My dear beloved Brother as we stated earlier, actually saying anything other than 'divorce' will not constitute a divorce. So if you have said 'if you do not come then I will serve you notice' no divorce has been pronounced and you are yet legally married.

 

My dear Brother,  with hikmah and humility and fear of Allah swt forgive and forget the past and save your marriage with tact and patience. Do not bring others in the picture, but talk to your wife in a soft and conciliatory manner and henceforth promise each other to be co-operative, civil, loving, caring and nice. InshaAllah if you are truthful, Allah swt will Bless your marriage and guide you both to live within the boundaries of Islam.

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 24 Surah Noor Verse 22:

22      Let not those among you who are endued with grace and amplitude of means, resolve by oath against helping their kinsmen, those in want, and those who have left their homes in Allah's Cause: let them forgive and overlook: do you not wish that Allah should forgive you? For Allah is Oft-Forgiving Most Merciful.

 

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is only ones. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

 

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

 

 

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