Suspicious about wife's character
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ASSALAMALIKUM WELL MY QUESTION IS THIS ...BEFORE OUR MARRIAGE MY WIFE HAVE FRIENDS AND SHE CONFESS TO ME ..........AND I FORGIVE HER IN THE NAME OF GOD ........STRICLY SAID TO SHE NEVER DO SUCH THINK IN FUTURE.. SHE PROMISEME OK.....MY QUESTION IS IF SHE DO AGAIN SAME MISTAKE CHATTING ONLINE....CALLING FRIENDS ....ARE PHONE SEX....SUCH BAD THINK........IF SHE CAUGHT RED HANDED BY ME IN FUTURE ....WHAT FUNISHMENT IS THERE IN ISLAM FOR HER ....WHAT SHOULD I DO AS PER ISLAM ...
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Answer:
Suspicious about wife's character
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 49 Surah Hujuraat verse 12:
12 O ye who believe! Avoid suspicion as much (as possible): for suspicion in some cases is a sin: and spy not on each other nor speak ill of each other behind their backs. Would any of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? Nay, ye would abhor it...but fear Allah: for Allah is Oft-Returning Most Merciful.
Respected brother, unless and until you have yourself seen with your very eyes your wife committing the act of adultery, or you can bring forth four reliable witnesses who will bear witness under oath that they have seen your wife committing the actual act of adultery…..you have absolutely no right and no basis of assuming or accusing your wife of the heinous crime of adultery!!!
If Allah forbid you were to do so, you would involve yourself in one of the gravest sins in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 4.28 Narrated byAbu Huraira
The Prophet (saws) said, "Avoid the seven Great Destructive Sins." The companions enquired "O Allah's Messenger (saws)! What are they?" He (saws) said,
1. To join others in worship along with Allah,2. to practice sorcery,3. to kill the life which Allah has forbidden except for a just cause, (according to Islamic law),4. to eat up riba (usury),5. to eat up an orphan's wealth,6. to give back to the enemy and fleeing from the battlefield at the time of fighting,7. and to accuse chaste women of committing ‘zina’ (fornication or adultery).Thus my respected brother, if you have not seen your wife committing the actual act of adultery with your own very eyes, nor are you able to bring forth four reliable witnesses to that effect…..you have absolutely no right to accuse your wife of adultery or to ask her, leave alone coerce her, to take an oath to absolve herself from the heinous sin of ‘zina’!
But as her husband united with her in the sacred bond of marriage, you are obviously well within your rights in Islam to question her and warn her firmly regarding what you have indeed seen. ie. meeting and/or talking in private, and (Allah forbid) kissing, ‘non-mehram’ men, etc. Such behavior is absolutely not acceptable of believing woman who sincerely fear Allah and the Last Day.
If after your clear warning, she is unable to bring herself from such unacceptable behavior, you are obviously well within your rights to initiate divorce proceedings against such an impious woman. But we reiterate again, to accuse her of adultery, or to ask her to take an oath that she is not an adulterer, without absolute concrete evidence would be to commit one of the greatest sins in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,
Burhan
