Suspicion of adultery on wife.
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.
(May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has asked
this question:
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.
I would like to know that if it was ok for me to ask my wife to swore on the
quran that she did not have sex with a another male because I have found out
that she was talking to another male but she doesnt admit that she had sex with
him but she did kiss him but I can not stop thinking about it because this is
the 2nd time in the last year i have caught her speaking to this male for weeks
on end the only reason im still with her is because i have a child and dont
want him to have his parents split up and give him bad start to life and i also
love my wife very much but i need to know just for my mind otherwise i feel
like i will go crazy.
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Answer:
Suspicion of
adultery on wife
In the name of Allah,
We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah
guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide
them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah
Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the
seal of His Messengers.
Allah Says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 49 Surah Hujuraat verse 12:
12 O ye who believe! Avoid
suspicion as much (as possible): for suspicion in some cases is a sin:
and spy not on each other nor speak ill of each other behind their backs. Would any of you like to eat the flesh of his
dead brother? Nay, ye would abhor
it...but fear Allah: for Allah is Oft-Returning Most Merciful.
Respected brother, unless and
until you have yourself seen with your very eyes your wife committing the act
of adultery, or you can bring forth four reliable witnesses who will bear
witness under oath that they have seen your wife committing the actual act of
adultery…..you have absolutely no right and no basis of assuming or accusing
your wife of the heinous crime of adultery!!!
If Allah forbid you were to do
so, you would involve yourself in one of the gravest sins in the Sight of Allah
Subhanah.
Sahih Al-Bukhari
Hadith 4.28 Narrated byAbu Huraira
The Prophet (saws)
said, "Avoid the seven Great Destructive Sins." The companions
enquired "O Allah's Messenger (saws)! What are they?" He (saws) said,
Thus my respected brother, if
you have not seen your wife committing the actual act of adultery with your own
very eyes, nor are you able to bring forth four reliable witnesses to that
effect…..you have absolutely no right to accuse your wife of adultery or to ask
her, leave alone coerce her, to take an oath to absolve herself from the
heinous sin of ‘zina’!
But as her husband united with
her in the sacred bond of marriage, you are obviously well within your rights
in Islam to question her and warn her firmly regarding what you have indeed
seen. ie. meeting and/or talking in private, and (Allah forbid) kissing,
‘non-mehram’ men, etc. Such behavior is
absolutely not acceptable of believing woman who sincerely fear Allah and the
Last Day.
If after your clear warning, she
is unable to bring herself from such unacceptable behavior, you are obviously well
within your rights to initiate divorce proceedings against such an impious
woman. But we reiterate again, to accuse
her of adultery, or to ask her to take an oath that she is not an adulterer,
without absolute concrete evidence would be to commit one of the greatest sins
in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.
Whatever written of
Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever
of error is of me alone. Allah Alone
Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan
