Divorce before rukhsati.

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Assalamu Alaykum,


I am a male who did katb ktab on a girl who is in a different country, we have been engaged for a year, but only seen each other twice. we did an engagement party only, but so far, even tho we did katb ktaab (nikah) i have not yet touched the girl or anything. now the girl wants to call our relationship off. (ask for divorce - or khul`aa). Her reason is that she does not feel confortable with our relationship and she does not want to continue, there was no mistake on my end what-so-ever. my question is: my family is requesting from her family to return all the things we gave her, the mahr (gold) and gifts, plus cash compensation for the engagement party and other expenses such as driving school that i paid for, immigration papers costs and allowance i used to send her. Is it allowed shar3an to ask for all these to be returned to me? Thank you. 


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Divorce before rukhsati

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If a ‘nikaah’ contract has taken place but the couple have not solemnized their marriage, and if during this period the girl wishes to break the ‘nikaah’ contract through a ‘khula’, the husband is well within his rights to demand that the ‘mehr’ paid and expenses occurred by him be compensated to him by the girl (or her family).


But if the husband, of his own free will, wishes to forgive all or a part of the ‘mehr’ and the expenses occurred, he is also well within his rights to do so; and it would account as piety and righteousness on his part in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.


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