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Dear brother as-salaam-alaikum,

 

I am 27 year old unmarried female a reserach scholar in profession, i am involved with a muslim guy who is already married for 10 years and have two kids of 5 and 9 years. i want to marry him and he also wants the same but the problem is i dont want to share my husband and neither i want him to divorce her first wife i want him to marry me and stay away from first wife at the same time i want him to support his wife and kids in terms of finances, studies etc., i will only marry in case he is living with me to some other place rather than the same house where his first wife is staying, i am in a big problem because one of my islamic friend told me that this will be haram? please clarify and do help me to find the prosperous way i can marry him. Please advice any solution in the light of quran and authentic hadiths that what are the possible ways in such case. but please reply to me as early as possible.

 

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Answer:

 

Marry 2^nd wife

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

 

Your Question: …i am in a big problem because one of my islamic friend told me that this will be haram?

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.598         Narrated by Abu Huraira

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "No woman should ask for the divorce of her sister (Muslim) so as to take her place, but she should marry the man (without compelling him to divorce his other wife), for she will have nothing but what Allah has Decreed for her."

 

It is indeed not appropriate for a woman who sincerely believes in Allah and the Last Day to put a condition unto a man who is already married that he divorce or abandon his first wife to marry her.

 

But rather the lawful way would be to marry the married man as his second wife, and encourage the man to fear Allah and do justice amongst this two wives.

 

If the woman who intends to become the second wife cannot bring herself to share her prospective husband, she should abstain from marrying an already married person and choose to marry an unmarried man instead.

 

If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws),   one can be assured of never ever being misled;   but if one believes, obeys and follows any other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of being led astray.  

 

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone.  Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

 

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

 

 

Burhan