Husband wishes brother to stay with them.
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.
(May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has asked
this question:
I want
the answer to my question as soon as possible My question is as follows:
My
husband wants my brother in law to join a job in the country where we are
staying and wants him to stay with us in our house to which I disagree and so
there is an argument between us so what has to be done please answer according
to islamic point of view, should I allow my husband to let his brother stay
with us?
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Answer:
Husband wishes
brother to stay with them
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His
help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide,
and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear
witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear
witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His
Messengers.
Respected sister in Islam, as much as your husband has to
give you your due rights in the marriage, he also has rights which he needs to
render to his kith and kin, close relatives, friends, loved ones, etc. It would neither be piety nor righteousness
on your part sister to claim the love or the sacrifices of your husband all for
yourself!
Thus sister, if it is your husband’s desire and wish that
his brother migrate to a place where he lives and earn his livelihood there,
and he intends to shelter his brother in his house for some time…..he is well
within his rights to do so; and if you could bring yourself to obey and welcome
this decision of your husband wholeheartedly, it would indeed be considered
righteousness on your part in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah
Nisaa verse 34:
34
Men are
the protectors and maintainers of women because Allah has
given the one more than the other, and because they support them from their
means. Therefore the righteous women are
devoutly obedient and guard
in (the husband's) absence what Allah would have them guard (their chastity,
their husband’s honor, property, etc.)
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3272 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
When Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him)
was asked which woman was best he replied, "The one who pleases (her
husband) when he looks at her, obeys
him when he gives a (lawful) command, and does not go against his (lawful) wishes
regarding her person or property by doing anything of which he
disapproves."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 285 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
The Prophet (saws) said: ‘Had it been
permissible that a person may prostrate oneself before another (human being), I
would have ordered that a wife should prostrate herself before her husband.’
Respected sister, sometimes it becomes easier to make the
right decision when one puts oneself in the other’s shoes! Just imagine for a moment that you had your
own brother or your sister or a close relative who was struggling in earning
their livelihood in the place they reside, and your Lord Most Gracious had
blessed you with the opportunity to arrange a job for them in the place where
you reside. Would you then not desire
that your husband would allow and welcome your loved one into your home for
some time until they are settled??
Your
Question: ….should I allow my husband to let his brother stay with us?
If you know that your husband would be pleased, not only
should you ‘allow’ your husband to let his own brother stay in your husband’s
house, but you should welcome this lawful decision of your husband
wholeheartedly…..that would be piety and righteousness on your part in the
Sight of your Lord Creator.
And if for any reason your heart does not allow you to do
so, and you do it only for the Sake of and because your Lord Creator has
Commanded you to be obedient to every lawful wish and desire of your
husband……you cannot even begin to imagine the rewards you would receive from
your Lord Most Gracious for your sacrifice and your obedience.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3254 Narrated by Anas ibn Malik
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "When a
woman observes the five times of prayer, fasts during Ramadan, preserves her
chastity and obeys (the lawful commands of) her husband, she may enter by any of the gates of
If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and
commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws),
one can be assured of never ever being misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any
other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be
assured of being led astray.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only
due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me
alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is
the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan
