Zina repentance.
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As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.
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As
Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. hello brother or sister, i need
alot of help right now becasue im in a bad situation. me and the person i
am with have commited a very bad sin, which is having sexual relations before
marriage. this is something i feel extremly guilty about and repent every day.
but this isnt the only problem that has happened. the person who i am
with does not understand how sever this is and what situation we are
currently in. he basically doesnt understand how imortant this
is. for example he always talks/threatens about leaving me and
how much more better off we will be if we dont have eachother. we have been
fighting a lot latley but i cant stand the thought of ever being away from
him becasue i love this man with all my heart and soul and i know understand
what we have done. could you please send me some aayas from the quran or a
website i could use with proof of how much of a sin it is to
leave someone who you have done this with and abandon them and
basically break their heart and how sever this situation is. thank
you for your help.
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Answer:
Zina repentance
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His
help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide,
and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear
witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear
witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His
Messengers.
Your
Statement: …..me and the person i am with have commited a very bad sin, which
is having sexual relations before marriage. this is something i feel extremly
guilty about and repent every day.
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 17 Surah Israa verse 32:
Do not even go near
‘zina’ (fornication or adultery) for it is a very indecent thing and a very
evil way!
Zina
(fornication/adultery) is considered amongst the gravest sins in Islam. One can only imagine the severity of the sin
by the punishment Allah and His Messenger (saws) have decreed for this
abomination. If one is living in an
Islamic State and gets convicted in a Shariah Court of the sin of zina
(adultery), the punishment prescribed by Allah and His Messenger (saws) in the
life of this world is that the convict should be stoned to death!! And if the person dies without making Taubah
or seeking sincere repentance for their transgression from Allah Subhanah before
they meet with their appointment of death, their punishment of the Hereafter in
the Just Court of Allah Subhanah would be much more severe and lasting!!
Thus first and foremost, one who is guilty of ‘zina’ must
immediately turn unto their Lord in ‘taubah’ and seek His sincere forgiveness
for their abomination….if indeed one is sincere in seeking repentance, it is
expected that they will find their Lord Forgiving and Merciful.
Whatever deeds one might have done in one’s past, if one
turns to Allah Subhanah in sincere Taubah and seeks forgiveness, Allah Subhanah
has promised in the Holy Quran that He will forgive all the sins of such a
repentant believer, even if one has committed the gravest sin of all:
‘Shirk’!
The conditions or ways to seek sincere Taubah or
Repentance from the Merciful Lord are:
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah
Zumur verses 53-54:
(O Prophet) say: “O My servants who have wronged
their own souls….Do not despair of Allah’s Mercy! Surely,
Allah forgives all sins. He
indeed is the All Forgiving, All
Merciful. Return to your Lord and
submit to Him before the scourge overtakes you;
for then you may get no help from anywhere.”
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 25 Surah
Furqaan verses 63-71:
The (true) servants of the Merciful are those
who walk humbly on the earth. When the
ignorant people behave insolently towards them,
they say, “Peace to you”; (And
those) who pass their nights in prostrating themselves and standing before
their Lord and pray, “O our Lord, save
us from the torment of Hell, for its
torment is killing! It is an evil abode, and an evil resting place”. (And those) who, when they spend are neither extravagant, nor miserly,
but keep the golden mean between the two extremes. (And those) who do not invoke any god but
Allah Alone, nor kill a soul
unjustly, which Allah has forbidden, nor commit adultery… He who does this shall
be punished for his sin, and his torment
shall be doubled on the Day of Resurrection,
and he shall abide in a state of ignominy; EXCEPT THE ONE WHO MAY HAVE REPENTED (AFTER
THOSE SINS), AND HAVE BELIEVED AND DONE
RIGHTEOUS DEEDS. For then, Allah will change his evil deeds into good
deeds, and He is very Forgiving and
Merciful. In fact, one who repents and does righteous
deeds, returns to Allah as one rightly
should!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah
Anaam verse 54:
When those come to you who believe in Our
Signs, say: "Peace be on you! Your Lord had inscribed for Himself (the rule
of) Mercy. Verily if any of you did evil
in ignorance, and thereafter repented
and amended (his conduct), Lo! He is
Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2357 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Mas'ud
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "He who
repents of a sin is like him who has committed no sin."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2338 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Umar
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "Allah
accepts a servant's repentance (taubah) till he gives up his spirit in death."
Your
Question: …..but i cant stand the thought of ever being away from him
becasue i love this man with all my heart and soul and i know understand what
we have done. could you please send me some aayas from the quran or a website i
could use with proof of how much of a sin it is to leave someone
who you have done this with and abandon them and basically break their
heart and how sever this situation is.
Respected sister in Islam, if the person with whom you
committed the abomination of ‘zina’, neither understands the severity of the
transgression the two of you have commited, nor is ashamed, nor is repentant,
nor is he willing to turn in ‘taubah’ unto his Lord Creator and seek
forgiveness, nor is willing to amend his conduct……then my respected sister, as
much as you may claim to ‘love’ this person, if you are sincerely repentant for
the sin which you have committed in the Sight of your Lord Creator, and you
sincerely fear your accounting in the Presence of your Lord Most Majestic on
that Inevitable and Tumultuous Day of Judgment…..it is absolutely incumbent
upon you as a believer to fear Allah and immediately distance yourself from
such an impious and evil person!!!
Respected sister, if you are unable to read the
‘writing-on-the-wall’, allow me to read it for you…..
Respected sister in Islam, if you are sincerely ashamed at
your transgression of the Prescribed Boundaries of your Lord….if you are
sincerely repentant for committing the abomination of ‘zina’….if you sincerely
fear your Day of Accounting in the Presence of your Lord Creator on that
Tumultuous Day of Judgment…..if you sincerely wish that your Lord Most Gracious
should accept your repentance and forgive you your abomination of the sin you
committed…….it is you who should immediately distance yourself forever from
this evil and impious person who is neither repentant at his abomination of a
sin, nor fears Allah Subhanah, nor the Last Day! That would constitute piety and righteousness
on your part in the Sight of your Lord.
To commit a grave sin, then seek repentance, then again
take steps or strive to involve oneself in the same sin again……that would be an
absolute abomination in the Sight of the Lord Most Majestic, Most Supreme!!!
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah
Nisaa verses 17-18:
17 Allah accepts the
repentance of those who do evil in ignorance and repent soon afterwards; to them will Allah turn in Mercy; for Allah is full of Knowledge
and Wisdom.
18 Of no effect is the
repentance of those who continue to do evil until death faces one of them and he says "Now have I repented
indeed"; nor of those who die rejecting faith: for them have We prepared a
Punishment, Most Grievous.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale
Imraan verse 135-136:
Allah likes such good people very much,
who, if ever they commit a base deed or
wrong their own soul by the commission of a sin, remember Allah instantly, and ask for forgiveness from Him for their
shortcomings. For who, but Allah,
can forgive sins? (And Allah loves those) who do not
knowingly persist in the wrongs they did. These will be rewarded with forgiveness from
Allah, and with Gardens beneath which
canals flow, and they will reside
therein forever! How excellent is the
reward of those who do good deeds!
If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and
commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws),
one can be assured of never ever being misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any
other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be
assured of being led astray.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only
due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me
alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is
the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan
