Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,

As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)

 

One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

I think that many people have done things im not satisfied with , should i wait and pray ? or should i face them even knowing that their respond will be something i might not like or that would make me feel bad about saying something about it ?

if i should be facing them .. how do i do it ? and what is the appropriate way so that they dont have hatred towards me? 

 

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Answer:

 

How to repel evil

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

 

Your Question-1: ……It hurts me a lot because my mother has helped and always wanted good for others whereas they are thinking and doing bad to her and me. Please suggest what to do in this matter?

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 41 Surah Haa Meem verses 34-35:

34      Nor can goodness and evil (ever) be equal!  Repel (evil) with that which is better (goodness): then will he, between whom and thee was hatred, become as it were thy friend and intimate!

35      And no one will be granted such goodness except those who exercise patience and self-restraint; none but persons of the greatest good fortune.

 

Dear and beloved Sister in Islam, Islam guides that the character, dealings, and relations of a believer should always be ‘straight’, absolutely regardless of how the other party chooses to treat them….if one finds that the other party deals with them ‘straight’ and with justice, one should treat them with in a manner which is even ‘straighter’ than theirs….and if one finds that the other deals with them in a ‘crooked’ manner or with injustice, Islam guides that the believer should still treat them in a ‘straight’ manner and with justice. 

 

Although it requires a world of courage and patience to repel the evil of others by doing genuine goodness towards them, without an iota of a doubt, if that person who did evil to you has even an iota of good in their hearts, there will come a time when they will feel ashamed and remorse at their evil, and their enmity and hatred will turn into sincere and lasting friendship by the Will of Allah.

 

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone.  Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

 

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

 

 

Burhan