Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,

As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)

 

One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

Is a woman sinful in the eyes of Allah if she forces herself to be in the marriage by compromising for the sake of her child`s future although her heart and soul is not in it? Due to years of problems from the marriage she decides to stand up for herself for her own dignity against the wishes of her husband with whom the marriage is just a compromise is a sin in the eyes of Allah? What is better - to seek divorce and to move on which would definately hurt the child and its future or to compromise and carry on with the marriage ? 

 

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Answer:

 

Better to save marriage or divorce

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

 

Your Question: …..What is better - to seek divorce and to move on which would definately hurt the child and its future or to compromise and carry on with the marriage ? 

Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2173  Narrated by Abdullah ibn Umar

The Prophet (saws) said: ‘Of all the lawful acts’ the most detestable to Allah is divorce.’

 

Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2172  Narrated by Muharib

The Prophet (saws) said: ‘Allah did not make anything lawful more abominable to Him than divorce.’

 

Respected sister, Islam has recognized that two human beings who at one time in their lives intended and committed to unite in the sacred institution of ‘nikaah’, might not get along for any reason and may wish to go their separate ways…..thus as detestable and disliked such a separation might be in the Sight of Allah Subhanah, separation through the institution of divorce is indeed considered lawful in Islam.

 

If for any reason the wife cannot get along with her husband, or her husband has unjustly usurped her rights in the marriage, etc….and only for the sake of Allah Subhanah the wife displays patience and strives her absolute utmost to save her marriage….she will have her due and full reward with her Lord All-Knowing for her sacrifices.

 

If the question is merely which option, divorce or saving one’s marriage is better and more meritorious in the Sight of Allah Subhanah….then without an iota of a doubt, as much as the option of divorce is considered lawful in Shariah, the option of striving one’s absolute utmost to save one’s marriage is far far better in the Sight of the Lord.

 

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone.  Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

 

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

 

 

Burhan