Make dua for parents.
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.
(May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has asked
this question:
I will
really be very grateful if you will be kind enough to answer my following
questions:
1. Can
we ask for our prayers from our deceased parents - in particularly from our
mother?
2. How
to ask for forgiveness from our deaseased mother for any wrong doings that we
may have done to her in life.
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Answer:
Make dua for parents
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His
help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide,
and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear
witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear
witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His
Messengers.
Q-1: Can
we ask for our prayers from our deceased parents - in particularly from our
mother?
Abu Hurairah reported, "The Prophet
(saws) said, 'When a person dies all his good deeds cease except for
three:
Related by Muslim and Abu Dawood.
It is not permissible and categorically forbidden in Islam
to invoke or call upon or supplicate anyone in the ‘unseen’ except Allah
Subhanah Alone; for that then would be a manifest form of the absolute
abomination and unforgiveable crime of ‘shirk’ in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.
One is not allowed or permitted to ask, or invoke, or make
supplications ‘from’ their
deceased parents (or anyone else in creation for that matter!)…..but it is
absolutely encouraged and a duty unto a believing off-spring that they make as
many supplications as they will and please unto their Lord Most Merciful ‘for’ their deceased believing
parents (and loved ones).
Here are some of the supplications which the Messenger of
Allah (saws) made for the
deceased beleivers unto the Lord Most Gracious, Most Merciful:
1. Abu
Hurairah said: ‘The Prophet (saws) prayed in one of the funeral prayers:
‘Allahumma anta Rubbuha wa ant khalaqtaha wa anta razaqtaha wa ant hadaytaha
lil lslam wa anta qabadata ruha-ha wa anta alamu bisirriha wa 'alaniyatiha.
Ji'nashuf'ala-hafaghfir laha zanbaha"
(Oh Allah ! You are
her Sustainer, You are her Creator, You provided her with sustenance, guided
her to Islam, caused her to die, and You best know her secret and public life.
We plead to You on her behalf to forgive her her sins.)
2. Wa'ilah
ibn al-Asqa reported: "The Prophet (saws) led us in a funeral prayer for a
man from among the Muslims. I heard him saying: ‘Allahumma inna fulana ibna
fulan fi dhimatika wa habla jawaraka, fa-qihu min fitnatal qabri wa adhabin nar
wa anta ahlal wafa' wal haq, allahumma faghfirlahu war-rahmhufa innaka antal
ghafurur Raheem.’ Related by Ahmad and Abu Dawood.
(O Allah! So-and-so,
son of so-and-so, is under Your protection and Mercy, so protect him from the
trials of the grave, and the torture of Hell Fire. You are the Guardian of the
truthful and the faithful. OAllah!
Forgive him and be merciful to him, as You are the Most Merciful, Most
Forgiving.)
3. Awf
ibn Malik reported: "I heard the Prophet (saws) while offering a funeral
prayer, say: ‘Allahumma-ghfir lahu war-rhamhu wa'fu anhu wa 'afahu wa akrim
nuzulahu wa wassi' mudkhalahu waghsilhu bi-ma' ind wa thalj wa barad wa naqi
minal khataya kama yunaqi athaubudanas minad danas wa abdilhu daran khairan min
darihi wa ahlan khairan min ahlihi wa zaujan khairan min zaujihi wa qih
fitnatal qabr wa adhaban nar.’ Related by Muslim.
(O Allah! Forgive
him, have Mercy on him, pardon him, heal him, be generous to him, cause his
entrance to be wide and comfortable, wash him with the most pure and clean
water, and purify him from sins as a white garment is washed clean of dirt.
Give him in exchange a home better than his home (on earth) and a family better
than his family, and a wife better than his wife, and protect him from the
trial of the grave and the torture of Hell Fire.)
Your
Question: How to ask for forgiveness from our deaseased mother for any wrong
doings that we may have done to her in life.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah
Zumur verses 53-54:
(O Prophet) say: “O My servants who have wronged
their own souls….Do not despair of Allah’s Mercy! Surely,
Allah forgives all sins. He
indeed is the All Forgiving, All
Merciful. Return to your Lord and
submit to Him before the scourge overtakes you;
for then you may get no help from anywhere.”
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale
Imraan verse 135-136:
Allah likes such good people very much,
who, if ever they commit a base deed or
wrong their own soul by the commission of a sin, remember Allah instantly, and ask for forgiveness from Him for their
shortcomings. For who, but Allah,
can forgive sins? (And Allah
loves those) who do not knowingly persist in the wrongs they did. These will be rewarded with forgiveness from
Allah, and with Gardens beneath which
canals flow, and they will reside
therein forever! How excellent is the
reward of those who do good deeds!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 25 Surah
Furqaan verses 63-71:
The (true) servants of the Merciful are those
who walk humbly on the earth. When the
ignorant people behave insolently towards them,
they say, “Peace to you”; (And
those) who pass their nights in prostrating themselves and standing before
their Lord and pray, “O our Lord, save
us from the torment of Hell, for its
torment is killing! It is an evil
abode, and an evil resting place”. (And those) who, when they spend are neither extravagant, nor miserly,
but keep the golden mean between the two extremes. (And those) who do not invoke any god but
Allah Alone, nor kill a soul unjustly, which Allah has forbidden, nor commit adultery… He who does this shall
be punished for his sin, and his torment
shall be doubled on the Day of Resurrection,
and he shall abide in a state of ignominy; EXCEPT THE ONE WHO MAY HAVE REPENTED (AFTER
THOSE SINS), AND HAVE BELIEVED AND DONE
RIGHTEOUS DEEDS. For then, Allah will change his evil deeds into good
deeds, and He is very Forgiving and
Merciful. In fact, one who repents and does righteous
deeds, returns to Allah as one rightly
should!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah
Anaam verse 54:
When those come to you who believe in Our
Signs, say: "Peace be on you! Your Lord had inscribed for Himself (the rule
of) Mercy. Verily if any of you did evil
in ignorance, and thereafter repented
and amended (his conduct), Lo! He is
Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2357 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Mas'ud
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "He who
repents of a sin is like him who has committed no sin."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2338 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Umar
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "Allah
accepts a servant's repentance (taubah) till he gives up his spirit in
death."
If one has wronged one’s own soul through the commission
of a sin, one should turn unto their Lord in ‘taubah’ and seek sincere
forgiveness for their transgressions.
If one has wronged one in creation and that person is
alive, it would only be piety and righteousness in the Sight of the Lord that
one seek forgiveness for their wrong not only from Allah Subhanah, but also
from the person whom they have wronged…..that would be akin to seeking sincere
repentance in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.
If one has wronged one in creation, and that person tasted
the element of death before one could seek their forgiveness….one should turn
unto their Lord in ‘taubah’ and seek sincere forgiveness for the wrong they had
done, and also make supplications for
their deceased victim…..it is expected that one would find Allah Subhanah
Forgiving and Merciful.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only
due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me
alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is
the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan