Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,

As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)

 

One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

Asalam-alakum,
ive been married for ten years and have two children. my husband has never hit me but any arguments during this period ends up with my husband not talking to me for weeks sometimes months or having any sort of relationship with me at all during this period. he stops me seeing my family and i can`t seem to satisfy his family in any way, anything good i do is not even acknowlaged but turned back to me in a negative way. alot of the time ive been thinking about getting a divorce but in fear of allah i think i`ll be doing something wrong. i dont feel i have the energy to satisfy my husband or his family any more.

 

Please could you shed some light on this matter and tell me if i`ll be doing something wrong by getting divoce 

 

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Answer:

 

Unhappy marriage divorce lawful

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

 

Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2173  Narrated by Abdullah ibn Umar

The Prophet (saws) said: ‘Of all the lawful acts’ the most detestable to Allah is divorce.’

 

Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2172  Narrated by Muharib

The Prophet (saws) said: ‘Allah did not make anything lawful more abominable to Him than divorce.’

 

Respected sister, Islam has recognized that two human beings who at one time in their lives intended and committed to unite in the sacred institution of ‘nikaah’, might not get along for any reason and may wish to go their separate ways…..thus as detestable and as disliked such a separation might be in the Sight of Allah Subhanah, separation through the institution of divorce is indeed considered lawful in Islam.

 

If one fears that one might not be able to live within the prescribed Boundaries of Allah, or one sincerely believes that one’s lawful rights are being compromised in their marriage, or that one is not loved, or honored, or cherished by their spouse as is their lawful right in the sacred institution of marriage….one is at liberty in Islam to seek their freedom through the initiation of a divorce, if indeed they wish and desire to do so.

 

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone.  Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

 

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

 

 

Burhan