Shouldnt we attend any of the celebrations of our friends?
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this question:
Respected
Brother,
Is it
true that if we do whatever is sunnah, it covers up
and
shouldnt we attend any of the celebrations of our friends?? My sister when
invitied by one of her friends for a party, openly refused to attend it saying
that we are not allowed too attend celebrations. Is this good? I think it hurts
other people's feeling when we do so. Please advice.
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Answer:
Pagan festivals
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His
help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide,
and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear
witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear
witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His
Messengers.
Your
Question: Is it true that if we do whatever is sunnah, it covers up
Abu Hurairah (r.a.) reports that the Prophet
(saws) said: "The first thing that the people will be called to account
for on the Day of Resurrection will be the prayers. Our Lord will say to the
Angels although He Knows better: 'Look into the ‘salah’ of my servant to see if
he observed it perfectly or been negligent in it. So if he observed it
perfectly it will be recorded to his credit, but if he had been negligent in it
in any way, Allah would say: ‘See if My servant has any supererogatory (Nafl,
Sunnah, etc.) prayers.’ Then if he has any supererogatory prayers, Allah would
say: ‘Make up the deficiency in My servant's obligatory prayer with his
supererogatory prayers.' Thereafter all his actions will be examined in like
manner"
Related by Abu Dawud.
Supererogatory (Nafl, Sunnah, etc.) worship is obviously
no substitute for the worship which is considered as ‘Fard’ or obligatory in
Islam; but in light of the absolutely clear guidance of the Messenger of Allah
(saws), if one has been negligent or has a shortcoming in fulfilling his
obligatory rites, in His Infinite and Sublime Mercy, The Lord Most Gracious
Most Merciful will fulfill that deficiency of His believing slave through their
supererogatory worship.
Your
Question: ….and shouldnt we attend any of the celebrations of our friends?? My
sister when invitied by one of her friends for a party, openly refused to
attend it saying that we are not allowed too attend celebrations. Is this good?
I think it hurts other people's feeling when we do so. Please
advice.
If one is invited by their believing brethren to partake
food with them, it is considered ‘wajib’ or obligatory in Islam to accept the
lawful invitation of their believing brethren.
Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 3732 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Umar
The Prophet (saws) said: ‘He who does not
accept an invitation which he receives has disobeyed Allah and His Messenger
(saws)’ and he who enters without invitation enters as a thief and goes out as
a raider.’
Al-Muwatta Hadith 28.50
Yahya related from Malik from Shihab from
al-Araj that Abu Hurayra said, "The worst food is the food of a wedding
feast to which only the rich are invited and the poor are left out. If anyone
rejects an invitation, he has rebelled against Allah and His Messenger
(saws)."
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 3.742 Narrated by Abu Huraira
The Prophet (saws) said, "I shall accept
the invitation even if I were invited to a meal of a sheep's trotter, and I
shall accept the gift even if it were an arm or a trotter of a sheep."
Sahih Muslim Hadith 3348 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
Allah's Messenger (saws) said: ‘If any one of
you is invited, he should accept (the invitation) In case he is fasting he
should pray (in order to bless the inmates of the house) and if he is not
fasting he should eat.’
Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 3747 Narrated by Abdur Rahman al-Himyari
A companion of the Prophet (saws) reported
him as saying: ‘When two people come together to issue an invitation, accept
that of the one whose door is nearer in neighborhood; but if one of them comes
before the other accept the invitation of the one who comes first.’
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4643 Narrated by Ali ibn AbuTalib
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "One
Muslim should do six acts of kindness to another: he should salute him when he
meets him, accept his invitation when he gives one, say 'Allah have mercy on
you' when he sneezes, visit him when he is ill, follow his bier when he dies,
and like for him what he likes for himself."
Your
Question (again):….and shouldnt we attend any of the celebrations of our
friends?? My sister when invitied by one of her friends for a party, openly
refused to attend it saying that we are not allowed too attend celebrations.
From your note it seems your sister was invited to attend
an unlawful pagan celebration by her disbelieving friend……
Every
people have their own civilization, their culture and days of celebration. Allah and His Messenger (saws) have appointed
the two Eids for celebration in Islam, and have made every Friday a day of Eid
and celebration for the believers. For
a true believer, every day that dawns is
a Sign from our Merciful Lord, and every
day that Allah gives us life, can be a
day of celebration for us.
There is absolutely no harm if one celebrates or
congratulates one’s non-muslim friends on their personal accomplishments and
happy occasions like their marriage, the birth of their baby, or their
children’s graduation, or a promotion in their job, etc. But it would neither behove nor befit a believer
who believes in Allah and the Last Day to greet or celebrate any of their
religious occasions with them like Christmas, Easter, Diwali, Holi, etc……for
that then would be to intentionally witness a falsehood.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 25 Surah
Furqaan verse 72:
72 (The true slave-servants
of Allah are) Those who witness no falsehood
(intentionally), and if they pass by futility they pass by it with honorable
(avoidance)
In light of the guidance of the Quran and the Sunnah, the
jurors in Islam have listed four categories which would make any celebration or
gathering forbidden:
The pagan beliefs and religions and thus their religious
festivals are based on absolute falsehoods, and it does not behove one who
sincerely believes in Allah and the Last Day as Truth to indulge in
celebrations of falsehood. To greet or
celebrate pagans on their pagan and religious days of festivals would be to
justify their false beliefs.
There are many other and better ways where a believer can
display his well-wishes towards his non-muslims friends, neighbors, colleagues,
etc. by being kind, just, honest, and always truthful with them, giving them
good advice, and being their sincere well-wisher at all times. If the believers strive with their good
character and best manners as always befits a muslim, it would go a long way in
promoting good cordial relations with their non-muslim brethren, rather than
celebrating their pagan festivals with them.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only
due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me
alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is
the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan