Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,

As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)

 

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Assalamualakum wa rah matullahi wa barakatuhhu,

brother i want to ask u that i study abroad n here i need to talk with boyz for help for studies so my question is whwether in ISLAM it is permissible for a girl to talk with na muharrim (other than father, brother ,father's brother........)so here i made friend ship with brothers but from my heart i believe they are like my brothers n they too believe me as thier sister so the question is whther iam doing anything wrong talking with them or is it permissible in islam to talk till some lmits so plz i am in great trouble n fear that iam doing something against Allah's command plz guide me to staight path plz

JAZAKALLAH KHAIRAN

 

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Answer:

 

Talk interact with non mehram

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

 

Your Question: ….but from my heart i believe they are like my brothers n they too believe me as thier sister

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 33 Surah Ahzaab verse 6 (part):

Blood-relations among each other have closer personal ties in the Decree of Allah than (the brotherhood of) Believers and Emigrants.

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 58 Surah Mujadila verse 2:

2        If any men among you divorce their wives by ‘Zihar’ (calling them mothers) they cannot be their mothers: none can be their mothers except those who gave them birth.  And in fact they use words (both) iniquitous and false: but truly Allah is one that blots out (sins) and forgives (again and again).

 

Respected sister in Islam, one does not become one’s brother, or sister, or father, or mother or a ‘mehram’ relative simply by the mere utterances of one’s mouth….. ‘mehram’ relations are created only by birth, through ‘suckling’, or through the sacred bond of marriage in the Sight of Shariah Law and of Allah Subhanah.

 

Your Question: …..so the question is whther iam doing anything wrong talking with them or is it permissible in islam to talk till some lmits so plz i am in great trouble n fear that iam doing something against Allah's command plz guide me to staight path plz

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 33 Surah Ahzaab verses 30-31:

30      Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for them: and Allah is well acquainted with all that they do.

31      And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their ….. (mehrams, womenfolk, children, etc.)

 

Respected sister, as long as all the conditions of ‘hijaab’ are scrupulously honored, there is absolutely no harm if one has a genuine need and talks or interacts with a member of the opposite sex in a strictly business-like manner.  What is categorically prohibited and indeed a sin in the Sight of Allah Subhanah is that two non-mehram members of opposite sex meet in privacy, or talk vain or casual talk, or develop or maintain an illicit or lewd relationship. 

 

Al-Tirmidhi HadithHadith 3118         Narrated byUmar ibn al-Khattab

The Prophet (saws) said, "Whenever a man is alone with a (non-mehram) woman, the Shaitaan is the third."

 

If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws),   one can be assured of never ever being misled;   but if one believes, obeys and follows any other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of being led astray.  

 

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone.  Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

 

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

 

 

Burhan