Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,

As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)

 

One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

ASLAM ALIKUM ...

.......my question was my dad and my husband was partners in a business....becoz of my husband's carelessness  my father had a bid loss in the business then thay both had a big fight ....now my father hates my husband , now my dad believes tht my husband  is a big lier, cheater  so i should leave him .....my father is asking me to give him divorce but i know my husband loves me alot and i cant live without him.......and my husband is saying tht i hav to chose one either my husband  or my father but i cant leave both......advice me tht wht should i do and in the case of chosing whom should i chose wht the islam says in this type of cases......plz reply me soon i really need ur help........i'll be waiting for ur reply.....{i got married 3 months ago}  thank you

ALLAH HAFIZ

 

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Answer:

 

Chose between father and husband

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

 

Dear and beloved Sister in Islam, under the conditions you have described, it is neither lawful for your father to demand that you divorce your husband….nor is it lawful for your husband to demand that you choose between your father and your marriage; thus there would be absolutely no sin upon you, and it would only be piety and righteousness on your part in the Sight of Allah Subahanh that you preserve your marriage, live with your husband, and strive your absolute utmost, with extreme patience and wisdom, to not only maintain extremely good relations with your father but serve him to the best of your ability until death separates the two of you.

 

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3696        Narrated by An-Nawwas ibn Sam'an

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "A creature is not to be obeyed when it involves disobedience to the Creator."

 

In your particular case, if you disobey your father and save your marriage; and you disobey your husband and strive your utmost to maintain your relationship with and serve your father…..you will be absolute blameless in the Court of your Lord All-Knowing for not obeying the unlawful command of your father or your husband…..for it is not lawful for a believer to obey any in creation (including one’s own father or husband) if it involves disobedience to the Laws of The Creator.

 

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone.  Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

 

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

 

 

Burhan