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As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)

 

One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

Thanks for your reply. I appreciate the efforts taken by you to help fellow brothers and sisters. May Allah reward you for this both in this world and the Hereafter.

Actually, the advise given by you to humbly remind parents of their duties/approach close friends and relatives in this regard, I have been trying the same for the past 2 years with no success. My mother`s only reply is what is there to hurry, the whole life is still left. Also, my 2 elder sisters were married when they were only 21. In their case they showed all interest and were very much concerned so they have left them to stay in the home country for getting proposals. As a result they got married young and are now happily settled. I`ve tried even with my sisters, but they are also least concerned. My parents have started cursing me and holds me responsible for whatever negative things happens in house. Inspite of giving respect and being kind towards them, they are very harsh on me not only in private but also in public.

Also, earlier i used to be very religious person, performing salahs, and avoiding all kinds of sins to my best level, but now i realise i`m going far from religion, far from family and friends since i feel very down and unsecure. Also i discontinued my studies, coz at times i feel i`ve lost my mental balance and lost all concentration.

Now what I want to know is that if a girl in such a situation commits any sins or goes in the wrong direction, who will be getting the sins, parents or girls. Also, is there any dua for such situations.

 

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Answer:

 

Who bears burden for sin

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

 

Your Question: Now what I want to know is that if a girl in such a situation commits any sins or goes in the wrong direction, who will be getting the sins, parents or girls.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 17 Surah Israa verse 32:

Do not even go near ‘zina’ (fornication or adultery) for it is a very indecent thing and a very evil way!

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 7 Surah Aaraaf verse 33:

33      Say: The things that my Lord hath indeed forbidden are: ‘fahisha’ (shameful or indecent deeds) whether open or secret; sins and trespasses against truth or reason; assigning of partners to Allah for which he hath given no authority; and saying things about Allah of which ye have no knowledge.

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam verse 151:

151    Say: "Come I will rehearse what Allah hath (really) prohibited you from": join not anything as equal with Him; be good to your parents: kill not your children on a plea of want;  We provide sustenance for you and for them;  come not (even) nigh to ‘fahisha’ (shameful or indecent deeds) whether open or secret; take not life which Allah hath made sacred except by way of justice and law: thus doth He command you that ye may learn wisdom.

 

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 24 Surah Noor verse 2:

The woman and the man guilty of ‘zina’ (fornication),  flog each one of them with a hundred stripes,  and let not pity for them restrain you in regard to a matter prescribed by Allah;  if indeed you believe in Allah and the Last Day!    And let a section of the believers witness the punishment inflicted on them.

 

Zina (fornication and adultery) and ‘fahisha’ (indecent and shameless deeds) are considered amongst the gravest sins in Islam.   One can imagine the severity of the sin,  by the punishment Allah and His Messenger (saws) have decreed for the sin.  And if the person dies without making Taubah or seeking sincere repentance for their transgression from Allah Subhanah in the life of this world,  the punishment of the Hereafter in the Just Court of Allah Subhanah is much more severe and lasting!!   

 

Allah Says in the Glorious Quran Chapter 53 Surah Najm verse 38:

38      No bearer of burdens can bear the burden of another;

 

Allah Says in the Glorious Quran Chapter 17 Surah Israa verse 15:

15      Who receives guidance receives it for his own benefit: whoever (chooses to) go astray does so to his own loss: no bearer of burdens can bear the burden of another:

 

Allah Says in the Glorious Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam verse 164:

Every soul draws the meed of its acts on none but itself: no bearer of burdens can bear the burden of another.  Your goal in the end is toward Allah: He will tell you the Truth of the things wherein ye disputed.

 

Islam has absolutely ‘zero-tolerance’ towards the grave sins of ‘zina’ (fornication and adultery) and ‘fahisha’ (any type of shameless or indecent deeds)……and under absolutely no situation or condition is a believer who sincerely fears Allah and the Last Day allowed or permitted to even approach or come near it, leave alone indulge in it!  If Allah forbid, one transgresses the prescribed boundaries of Allah Subhanah and approaches it, the person alone will bear the burden of his manifest crime and transgression.

 

Respected sister, as much as Islam guides the parents of the believing girls to seek to marry them as early as possible….if for any reason one’s parents are negligent of their duty, or they are for any reason whatsoever unable to marry their daughters early….the daughter must fear Allah, display patience, and keep her full trust and belief in the Power of their Lord. 

 

Your Question: ….Also, is there any dua for such situations.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 186:

And if  My servants ask you,  O Prophet, concerning Me,  tell them that I am quite near to them.   I hear and answer the prayer of the suppliant,  when he calls on Me.  So let them respond to My call and believe in Me.  (Convey this to them),  perhaps they may be guided aright!

 

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2257        Narrated by Abu Sa'id al-Khudri

The Prophet (saws) said, "Any Muslim who makes a supplication containing nothing which is sinful, or which involves breaking ties of relationship,  will be given for it by Allah one of three things: He will give him swift answer, or store it up for him in the next world, or turn away from him an equivalent amount of evil."  Those who heard it said they would then make many supplications and he (saws) replied that Allah was more ready to answer than they were to ask.

 

Abu Hurairah reported, "The Prophet (saws) said, "Nothing is more dear to Allah than one's supplication to Him.'' 

Narrated by Tirmidhi and Ibn Majah.

 

Ibn Mas'ud reported that the Prophet (saws), said, "If any servant of Allah afflicted with distress or grief makes this supplication, his supplication will be accepted:  'O Allah, I am Your servant, son of Your servant, son of your maidservant.   My forehead is in Your hand.   Your command conceming me prevails, and Your decision concerning me is just.  I call upon You by every one of the beautiful names by which You have described Yourself, or which You have revealed in Your book, or have taught anyone of Your creatures, or which You have chosen to keep in the knowledge of the unseen with You, to make the Qur'an the delight of my heart, the light of my breast, and remover of my griefs, sorrows, and afflictions'." A supplication in these words will be answered.  Allah will remove one's affliction and replace it with joy and happiness.

 

Salman reported that the Prophet (saws), said, "Your Lord, the Blessed and the Exalted One, is Modest and Generous, and He loathes to turn away His servant empty-handed when he raises his hands to Him in supplication."

Narrated by Ahmad and Ibn Hibban.

 

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2248        Narrated by Abu Hurayrah

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "There are three whose supplication is not rejected:  one who has just ended a fast,  a just imam,  and one who has been wronged,  whose supplication is raised by Allah above the clouds and for which the gates of Heaven are opened.   The Lord says, 'I swear by My might that I shall certainly help you, though it be after some time.'"

 

Abu Hurairah reported that the Prophet (saws) said, "Your supplication will be answered if you are not impatient, and if you do not say, 'I supplicated but my supplication was not heard'."

Narrated by Malik.

 

Although one is at absolutely liberty to call upon their Lord Most Gracious and supplicate Him for anything lawful that their heart desires, one amongst the best supplications one can and should make under these circumstances is:

 

‘Allah hummaj alni minat tawwabeen, waj alni minal muta-tahhereen’

(O Allah, make me of those who constantly turn towards you in repentance, and make me of those who keep themselves pure and clean.)

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 222 (part):

……….Allah loves those who turn to Him constantly and He loves those who keep themselves pure and clean.

 

May Allah Subhanah make your trial easy for you, bestow upon you His Mercy, and give you the wisdom and the courage to save yourself from the temptations of the accursed Shaytaan.  Ameen.

 

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone.  Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

 

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

 

 

Burhan