If wife committed zina should husband know?
Mu' meneen Brothers
and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa
Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be
upon all of you)
One of our
brothers/sisters has asked this question:
Salam, I am an unmarried 21-yr old girl & i have committed the sin of adultery.i have a query to make.i read an answer to your previous question which stated that if we seek forgiveness for the sin of adultery it will be forgiven by Allah. what i wuld like to know is, if Allah forgives me will i be forgiven completely or will i be punished in such a way that my husband finds out about it & does not forgive me. in case if my husband doesnot find out what do u think, should i let him know before my marriage or should i keep it hidden for the rest of my life.
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Answer:
In the name of Allah, We praise
Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can
misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We
bear witness that there is no one (no idol,
no person, no grave, no
prophet, no imam, no dai,
nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 39 Surah Zumur verses 53-54:(O Prophet) say: “O My servants who
have wronged their own souls….Do not despair of Allah’s Mercy! Surely, Allah forgives all sins. He indeed is the All Forgiving,
All Merciful. Return to your
Lord and submit to Him before the scourge overtakes you; for then you may get no help from anywhere.”
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan verse 135-136:Allah likes such good people
very much, who, if ever they commit a
base deed or wrong their own soul by the commission of a sin, remember Allah instantly, and ask for forgiveness from Him for their
shortcomings. For who, but Allah,
can forgive sins? (And Allah
loves those) who do not knowingly persist in the wrongs they did. These will be rewarded with forgiveness
from Allah, and with Gardens beneath
which canals flow, and they will reside
therein forever! How excellent is the
reward of those who do good deeds!
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 25 Surah Furqaan verses 63-71:The (true) servants of the Merciful
are those who walk humbly on the earth.
When the ignorant people behave insolently towards them, they say, “Peace to you”; (And those) who pass their nights in
prostrating themselves and standing before their Lord and pray, “O our
Lord, save us from the torment of
Hell, for its torment is killing! It is an evil abode, and an evil resting place”. (And those) who, when they spend are neither extravagant, nor miserly, but keep the golden mean between the two extremes. (And those) who do not invoke any god but
Allah Alone, nor kill a soul
unjustly, which Allah has forbidden, nor commit adultery… He who does this shall
be punished for his sin, and his
torment shall be doubled on the Day of Resurrection, and he shall abide in a state of ignominy; EXCEPT THE ONE WHO MAY HAVE REPENTED
(AFTER THOSE SINS), AND HAVE BELIEVED
AND DONE RIGHTEOUS DEEDS. For
then, Allah will change his evil deeds
into good deeds, and He is very
Forgiving and Merciful. In
fact, one who repents and does
righteous deeds, returns to Allah as
one rightly should!
No matter what sins one might
have done in ignorance, if he/she
sincerely repents for those sins, and
amends their conduct; it is the Promise
of Allah Subhanah that He will forgive them and wipe off their sins completely
from their records! Even if one has
committed sins as grave as murder, or
zina, or disobedience of parents, or even ‘shirk’, etc., if he turns to his Lord in sincere
repentance and Taubah before his appointment of death, he will Insha Allah, find his Lord Merciful and Forgiving.
Your Question: what i wuld like
to know is, if Allah forgives me will i be forgiven completely or will i be
punished
If you have done sincere Taubah
and repented for your sins, and
subsequently amended your deeds, and
made a solemn covenant with Allah that you will never ever commit the evil deed
again; it is expected that you will
find your Lord Merciful and Forgiving.
If Allah Subhanah accepts your
repentance, rest assured that His Mercy encompasses everything and He forgives
completely and absolutely; for He, The
All-Merciful, The All-Loving, always
accepts the sincere repentance of His believing slaves.
Not only does He forgive the
sins of His slaves when they beseech Him in sincere repentance, and subsequently amend their deeds; but He changes their evil deeds into good
deeds! Such is the Mercy of the One
Who is the Most Merciful!
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 25 Surah Furqaan verses 70-71: EXCEPT THE ONE WHO MAY HAVE
REPENTED (AFTER THOSE SINS), AND HAVE
BELIEVED AND DONE RIGHTEOUS DEEDS. For
then, Allah will change his evil deeds
into good deeds, and He is very
Forgiving and Merciful. In fact, one who repents and does righteous deeds, returns to Allah as one rightly should!
Your Question: in case if my husband doesnot find out what
do u think, should i let him know before my marriage or should i keep it hidden
for the rest of my life.
When one has sincerely
repented, and subsequently amended
his/her conduct; then one should hope
for Allah’s Mercy and Forgiveness. Thus,
when Allah Subhanah has covered the sins and faults of his believing
slaves, we too should not put
ourselves in a trial by exposing ourselves unnecessarily. If your husband does not find out, there is absolutely no need to mention your
past evil deeds to him and destroy or sow seeds of mistrust in the sacred bond
of marriage. If one has done an evil
in ignorance in the past, and has
subsequently sincerely repented for his/her deeds, and amended their conduct;
then it would be best to leave the past in the past and concentrate on
doing righteous good deeds in the future.
Whatever written of Truth and
benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error
is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He
is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in
Islam,
