I would like to know one thing, my wife delivered a boy on the 1st of June 2007 and the kid was born dead.
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ASSALAMALEIKUM,
Dear Brother,
I would like to know one thing, my wife delivered a boy on the 1st of June 2007
and the kid was born dead. We are worried as to why the kid was born dead, is
it because of the sins of us (husband and wife) or exactly what it is. As
because of this we both are disturbed, as this incident has left a very bad
memory on us.
We are believer of allah and we know that whatever he does he does it for our
good. But still we are too tensed up for the loss of our baby.
Waiting for your earliest email in this regards.
Khuda
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Answer:
Dead deceased child
patience
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His
help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide,
and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear
witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness
that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 21 Surah
Anbiyaa verse 35:
35 Every soul shall have a taste of death: and We test you by
evil and by good (only) by way of trial: to Us must ye return.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 57 Surah
Hadid verses 22-23:
22 No misfortune can happen on earth or in your souls but is recorded
in a Decree before We bring it into existence: that is truly easy for Allah.
23 In order that ye may not despair over matters that pass you by nor exult over favors bestowed upon you. For Allah loveth not any vainglorious boaster
The life of this short transitory world is but a test, and
Allah Subhanah put every human being through good and through evil conditions
by Decree to see who amongst them are grateful for the bounties and mercies
they receive from their Lord and who amongst them are ungrateful.
Allah says in the Holy Quran in Chapter 67 Surah
Al Mulk verse 2:
He (Allah) created death and life that He
may test you, to see which of you is the best in deeds.
Dear and beloved brother in Islam, rest absolutely assured
that the unfortunate loss of your baby has absolutely nothing to do with your or
anyone’s sins….it was but the Will of Allah Subhanah to put you through this
enormous trial to see whether your trust and belief in Him and His Powers remain
unchanged, or does the Shaytaan succeed in developing some doubts regarding
Him.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah
Baqarah verses 155-157:
155 Be sure We shall test you with something of fear, and
hunger, some loss in goods, or lives, or the fruits (of your toil); but give
glad tidings to those who patiently persevere.
156 Who say when afflicted with calamity: "To Allah we belong and
to Him is our return."
157 They are those on whom (descend) blessings from Allah and Mercy; and
they are the ones that receive guidance.
Fiqh-us-Sunnah Fiqh 4.1
Abu Hurairah narrates that the Prophet (saws)
said: "When Allah wants to be good to someone, He tries him with some
hardship."
Abu Hurairah reports that Allah's Messenger
(saws) said: "For every misfortune, illness, anxiety, grief, or hurt that
afflicts a Muslim -even the hurt caused by the pricking of a thorn - Allah
removes some of his sins."
Ibn Mas'ud said: "I visited the
Messenger of Allah (saws) while he (saws) had a fever. I exclaimed: 'O
Messenger of Allah (saws) ! You have a high fever!' He (saws) said: 'My fever is as much as two
among you [might have].' I asked: 'Is it
because you have a double reward?' He
(saws) replied: 'Yes, that is right. No Muslim is afflicted with any hurt, even
if it is no more than the pricking of a thorn, but Allah wipes off his sins
because of it and his sins fall away from him as leaves fall from a
tree'."
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.545 Narrated by Abu Said Al Khudri and Abu
Huraira
The Prophet (saws) said, "No fatigue, no
disease, no sorrow, no sadness, no hurt, no distress befalls a Muslim, even if
it were the prick he receives from a thorn, but that Allah expiates some of his
sins for that."
Dear and beloved brother in Islam, a human being better than you, me, and all of
mankind put together was put through a trial similar to yours……Ibraheem, the
beloved and infant son of the Noble Messenger of Allah (saws) lost his breath
in the Prophet’s (saws) very arms….and brother you would know better than most
that there is no bigger burden and trial on this earth than the weight of one’s
deceased infant on its fathers shoulders….but this is the recorded reaction and
statements of the Prophet of Allah (saws) during his trial:
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 2.390 Narrated by Anas bin Malik
We went with Allah's Messenger (saws) to the
blacksmith Abu Saif, and he was the husband of the wet-nurse of Ibrahim (the infant
son of the Prophet (saws)). Allah's Messenger (saws) took his son Ibrahim and
kissed him and smelled him and later we entered Abu Saif's house and at that
time Ibrahim was in his last breaths, and the eyes of Allah's Messenger (saws)
started shedding tears. Abdur Rahman bin 'Auf said, "O Allah's Messenger
(saws), even you are weeping!" He (saws)
said, "O Ibn 'Auf, this is mercy." Then he (saws) wept more and said, "The
eyes are shedding tears and the heart is grieved, but we will not say aught
except what pleases our Lord. O Ibrahim! Indeed we are grieved by your
separation."
My dear and beloved brother in Islam, as difficult and
insurmountable your loss and your trial may seem to be for you and your family
at the present time, rest absolutely assured that the loss of the life of your
infant child has absolutely nothing to do with your or anyone else’s sins or
deeds….it is but a trial your Lord has Willed and Chosen for you to see whether
you accept the Will of your Lord with grace and beautiful patience which befits
the character of a true believer, or is your faith and trust in your Lord
shaken so you start to rebel and revolt against the Decrees and Decisions of
your Lord.
Abu Musa al-Ash'ari (r.a.) narrates that the
Prophet (saws) said: "When a child of a servant of Allah passes away,
Allah asks (although He Knows absolutely everything) to the Angels: 'Did you
take the soul of My servant's child?' They
(the Angels) reply: 'Yes.' He, the
Almighty asks: 'Did you take away the apple of my servant's eye?' They (the Angels)
reply: 'Yes.' He, the Almighty asks (although He Knows): 'What did My servant
say at this?' They (the Angels) reply:
'He praised You and said: "Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'a un (Verily
we belong to Allah and to Him shall we return)." At this Allah, Glorious
and Exalted, Declares: 'Build for My servant a mansion in
Related by At-Tirmidhi.
May Allah Subhanah bestow upon you and your family His
choicest Mercies, Blessings, and Grace and grant the parents of the deceased
infant patience to accept their insurmountable loss. As your humble brothers and well-wishers in
this world and the Hereafter, we humbly beseech the Lord Most Gracious to make
you and your wife the fortunate inhabitants of the ‘Al-Bayt al-Hamd’ in
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only
due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me
alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is
the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan
