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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

DEAR

I WANTED TO ASK U SOME THING THAT ONE OF MY FRIEND HAS DONE NIKAH TWO MONTHS BACK BUT HE IS TALKING TO HIS EX GIRLFRIEND AND I DONT KNOW I THINK HE IS STILL MEETING HER AND THEY MIGHT BE KISSING & HUG EACH OTHER WHT I WANTED TO ASK U THAT WILL HIS NIKAH VALID OR NOT OR HE HAS TO DO NIKAH AGAIN PL REPLY SOON I AM WORRIED ABOUT HIM I DONT WANT THEY LIFE TO GET MESSED UP 

 

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Answer:

 

Affair and nikaah validity

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 7 Surah Aaraaf verse 33:

33      Say (O Prophet (saws)): ‘The things that my Lord hath indeed (absolutely) forbidden (declared ‘haraam’) are: ‘fahisha’ (shameful deeds) whether open or secret; sins and trespasses against truth or reason; assigning of partners to Allah for which He hath given no authority; and saying things about Allah of which ye have no knowledge.

 

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3118        Narrated by Umar ibn al-Khattab

The Prophet (saws) said, "Whenever a man is alone with a (non-mehram)woman, the Shaytaan makes the third."

 

Islam absolutely prohibits and categorically forbids the believers from forming a secret or lewd relationship out of marriage, or meeting with a non-mehram member of the opposite sex in private, leave alone having a ‘girlfriend’ or touching or kissing her! 

 

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 17 Surah Israa verse 32:

Do not even go near ‘zina’ (fornication or adultery) for it is a very indecent thing and a very evil way!

 

Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 4886  Narrated by Anas ibn Malik

That he heard the Messenger of Allah (saws) say: ‘The eye commits ‘zina’, and the palm of the hand, the foot, the body, the tongue and private part of the body confirm it or deny it.’

 

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.260         Narrated by Ibn Abbas

I have not seen a thing resembling 'lamam' (minor sins) than what Abu Huraira narrated from the Prophet (saws) who said "Allah has written for the children of Adan their share of ‘zina’ which he commits inevitably. The ‘zina’ of the eyes is the sight (to gaze at a forbidden thing), the ‘zina’ of the tongue is the talk, and the inner self wishes and desires and the private parts testify all this or deny it."

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 36 Surah Ya-Seen verse 65:

65      That Day shall We set a seal on their mouths.  But their hands will speak to Us and their feet bear witness to all that they did.

 

As grave as the sin of developing a secret and illicit unlawful relationship with a non-mehram member of the opposite sex is in the Sight of Allah Subhanah, it does not by itself invalidate the ‘nikaah’ of the person/people involved in the least.  The only act which breaks the secret bond of ‘nikaah’ in Islam is the institution of divorce. 

 

If the couple involved in the illicit and lewd relationship do not immediately stop their manifest transgression of the prescribed boundaries of their Lord and do not turn unto their Lord in sincere ‘taubah’, they should prepare for an extremely severe accounting in the Presence of their Lord Most Majestic Most Supreme! 

 

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone.  Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

 

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

 

 

Burhan