Please help me i am very up set-Give me something to read from quran.
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Dear Brother Burhan
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My question is ( I am married for the pervious 10 year having 2 kids, it is
love and arrange marraige,my husband was very supportive and loving but my
in-laws never never in my favour, though i supported the family in every mean
of life but in return i ws always betrayed and insulted by them in different
ways. Now my husband is also behaving inthe same way , now he has a ego
problem, if you make mistake he will never forgive you but in case he makes
some mistake he wants to be forgiven, but tell me my brother till what time i
will bear this now he has told me not to talk or even meet my family members,
my family wants to sit and talk to him but he does not want to talk to any one
of them . Please help me i am very up set-Give me something to read from quran.
so that it can help my problem out.
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Problems in marriage
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In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His
help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide,
and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear
witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear
witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His
Messengers.
Your
Question: ….he has a ego problem, if you make mistake he will never forgive you
but in case he makes some mistake he wants to be forgiven
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chatper 24 Surah
Noor verse 22:
22 ……. let them (the believers) forgive and
overlook: do you (as a believer) not wish that Allah should forgive you? For
Allah is Oft-Forgiving Most Merciful.
Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 4923 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Amr ibn al-'As
The Prophet (saws) said: ‘The Compassionate
One has Mercy on those who are merciful. If you show mercy to those who are on
the earth, He Who is in the Heaven will show mercy to you!’
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 9.474 Narrated by Usama bin Zaid
The Messenger of Allah (saws) said: ‘….Allah
bestows His Mercy only on those of His slaves who are merciful (to
others)."
It would indeed be impiety, unrighteousness, injustice,
and absolutely unbecoming of the character of a believer who sincerely believes
in Allah and the Last Day to except to be shown mercy when he himself is
reluctant to show mercy to others, especially towards his closest loved ones.
Your
Statement: …..now he has told me not to talk or even meet my family members
Allah Says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 13 Surah Ar-Raad verse 25:
As for those who break
their covenant with Allah after confirming it, who cut asunder
relationships which Allah has bidden to be joined, and spread chaos on
the earth, their’s shall be the curse,
and they shall have a wretched abode in the Hereafter.
Allah Says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 2 Surah Bakarah verse 27:
And He leads astray
only those who disobey Allah, who break
Allah’s covenant after ratifying it, who cut asunder relationships what
Allah has ordered to be joined, and who produce chaos on the
Earth. These are indeed the people who
are the losers.
Sahih Al-Bukhari
Hadith 8.17 Narrated by Abu Huraira
The Prophet (saws)
said, "The word 'Ar-Rahm (womb) derives its name from Ar-Rahman (i.e., one
of the names of Allah) and Allah said: 'I will keep good relation with the one
who will keep good relation with you (the womb, i.e. kith and kin), and sever
the relation with him who will sever the relation with you (the womb, i.e. kith
and kin).
Sahih Al-Bukhari
Hadith 8.15 Narrated by Anas bin Malik
Allah 's Messenger
(saws) said, "Whoever loves that he be granted more wealth and that his
lease of life be prolonged, then he should keep good relations with his kith
and kin."
It is absolutely impermissible, forbidden, and an
abomination of a sin in the Sight of Allah for one to break or sever ties or
relationships of blood which the Lord Himself has created for them!
The husband, or anyone else in creation for that matter,
has absolutely no right to command another to break relations with their kith
and kin; leave alone one’s own parents!
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3696 Narrated by An-Nawwas ibn Sam'an
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "A
creature is not to be obeyed when it involves disobedience to the
Creator."
Even if one’s husband were to command his wife to break
relations or disown one’s parents or blood-relatives, the command of the
husband would not be obeyed in this matter, for it involves disobedience to the
Guidance and Commands of the Lord All-Mighty.
Your Question:
…….but tell me my brother till what time i will bear this
Beloved Sister in Islam, under the conditions your find
yourself in, you have two lawful options:
Your
Question: Please help me i am very up set-Give me something to read from quran.
so that it can help my problem out.
Dear and beloved sister, the more you recite and
understand the Glorious Quran, the more you will get closer to your Lord….the
more you get closer to your Lord, the more content your heart will be at the
Truth that this life is nothing but a place of trials and tribulations; for the
real life is indeed the life of the Hereafter.
Thus strive as hard as you can to get closer to your Lord
through the understanding of His Glorious Book of Guidance, and whenever the
Shaytaan tries to inspire you towards despair and anxiety with what transpires
in this short and transitory world….keep your trust and faith and belief in the
Mercy of your Lord, seek refuge in Allah from the evil whisperings of the
Shaytaan, recite the Muawidaat (113th Surah Al-Falaq and the 114th
Surah An-Naas) as often as you can, and in all humility, awe, fear, and hope
beseech your Lord Most Gracious to make your trial easy for you, bestow upon
you the patience, the wisdom and the courage to face the trials, and do and say
only that which brings about the Lord’s Pleasure and Good Will.
My dear and beloved sister, rest absolutely assured that
your Lord is well aware of the condition of each in His creation; and Allah is
our witness sister, there is none with true faith who sincerely and humbly, in
absolute awe, fear and hope beseeches and implores their Lord Creator for
something, and their Lord Most Merciful does not respond to their
supplication!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah
Baqarah verse 186:
And if My
servants ask you, O Prophet, concerning
Me, tell them that I am quite near to
them. I hear and answer the prayer of
the suppliant, when he calls on Me. So let them respond to My call and believe in
Me. (Convey this to them), perhaps they may be guided aright!
Salman reported that the Prophet (saws),
said, "Your Lord, the Blessed and the Exalted One, is Modest and Generous,
and He loathes to turn away His servant empty-handed when he raises his hands
to Him in supplication."
Narrated by Ahmad and Ibn Hibban.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 3.628 Narrated by Ibn Abbas
The Prophet (saws) sent Mu'adh to
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only
due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me
alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is
the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan
