I always knew that adultery is the worst sin that a Muslim woman can do and I did.
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.
(May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has asked
this question:
I reverted 3 years
ago.
I don’t’ know too much about Islamic matters but I always knew that adultery is
the worst sin that a Muslim woman can do and I did.
I felt so guilty that I didn’t manage to stay with my husband anymore.
I went to live with my daughter in another house.
I kept on meeting the other man.
After a while I waited a baby and he told me to have an abortion.
My husband and I did divorce. I asked the other man not to call me anymore.
One month ago I met my husband. We went outside with our daughter and we were
happy.
I told him about my sin and about abortion. He was angry but he understood my
suffering.
I didn’t tell him that I made that mistake before the divorce as he told me he
would have killed me.
Now we would like to save our family but we don’t know if we can overcome our
past.
We don’t know whether we can marry again.
I started to read the Noble Qur`aan to understand what I can do to be saved by
Allah.
I found out that there is no forgiveness for my mistakes and I am so afraid of
what I did.
I am so weak that I can’t talk to him and I can’t sleep in the night. I am so
guilty for what I did and for that baby.
I asked Allah to forgive me but I know it is not enough. What I can do to be
saved from hell?
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Answer:
Zina and forgiveness
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask
for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever
He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that
there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Beloved Sister in Islam, for what we have been able to
understand you have posed two questions:
Question-1:
Can a couple who are divorced re-marry according to Shariah Law?
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah
Baqarah verses 229-230:
229 A divorce is only permissible twice: after that the parties should either hold together on equitable
terms or separate with kindness. It is
not lawful for you (men) to take back any of your gifts (from your wives)
except when both parties fear that they would be unable to keep the limits
ordained by Allah. If ye (judges) do
indeed fear that they would be unable to keep the limits ordained by Allah
there is no blame on either of them if she give something for her freedom.
These are the limits ordained by Allah; so do not transgress them. If any do transgress the limits ordained by Allah
such persons wrong (themselves as well as others).
230 So if a husband divorces his wife (irrevocably) he cannot after that
remarry her until after she has married another husband and he has divorced
her. In that case there is no blame on
either of them if they reunite provided they feel that they can keep the limits
ordained by Allah. Such are the limits
ordained by Allah which He makes plain to those who understand.
Shariah Law permits only three pronouncements of divorce
in any one marriage, the first two of which are revocable and the third one is
irrevocable.
If you and your have husband have obtained a divorce only
once, and a time period of more than three menstruations have elapsed….the two
of you are well within the Shariah Law to choose to remarry again by performing
a brand new ‘nikaah’.
Question-2:
Can the abominations of ‘zina’ (adultery) and ‘abortion’ ever be forgiven by
Allah Subhanah?
Dear and beloved Sister in Islam, as grave and as heinous
the crime and abomination of ‘zina’ (adultery) and abortion may be in the Sight
of Allah Subhanah….if one is sincerely ashamed and repentant, and turns unto
their Lord in sincere ‘taubah’, it is expected that they will find their Lord
Forgiving and Merciful.
Whatever deeds one might have done, if one turns to Allah Subhanah in sincere
Taubah and seeks forgiveness, Allah
Subhanah has promised in the Holy Quran that He will forgive all the sins of
such a believer, even if one has
committed the gravest sin of all: ‘Shirk’!
Not only that, our Lord is so
Merciful and Generous, that He not only
will forgive the sins of the believer,
He will change his evil deeds done into good deeds!
The conditions or ways to seek sincere Taubah or
Repentance from the Merciful Lord are:
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah
Zumur verses 53-54:
(O Prophet) say: “O My servants who have wronged
their own souls….Do not despair of Allah’s Mercy! Surely,
Allah forgives all sins. He indeed
is the All Forgiving, All Merciful. Return to your Lord and submit to Him before
the scourge overtakes you; for then you
may get no help from anywhere.”
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale
Imraan verse 135-136:
Allah likes such good people very much,
who, if ever they commit a base deed or
wrong their own soul by the commission of a sin, remember Allah instantly, and ask for forgiveness from Him for their
shortcomings. For who, but Allah,
can forgive sins? (And Allah
loves those) who do not knowingly persist in the wrongs they did. These will be rewarded with forgiveness from
Allah, and with Gardens beneath which
canals flow, and they will reside
therein forever! How excellent is the
reward of those who do good deeds!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 25 Surah
Furqaan verses 63-71:
The (true) servants of the Merciful are those
who walk humbly on the earth. When the
ignorant people behave insolently towards them,
they say, “Peace to you”; (And
those) who pass their nights in prostrating themselves and standing before their
Lord and pray, “O our Lord, save us from
the torment of Hell, for its torment is
killing! It is an evil abode, and an evil resting place”. (And those) who, when they spend are neither extravagant, nor miserly,
but keep the golden mean between the two extremes. (And those) who do not invoke any god but
Allah Alone, nor kill a soul
unjustly, which Allah has forbidden, nor commit adultery… He who does this shall
be punished for his sin, and his torment
shall be doubled on the Day of Resurrection,
and he shall abide in a state of ignominy; EXCEPT THE ONE WHO MAY HAVE REPENTED (AFTER
THOSE SINS), AND HAVE BELIEVED AND DONE
RIGHTEOUS DEEDS. For then, Allah will change his evil deeds into good
deeds, and He is very Forgiving and
Merciful. In fact,
one who repents and does righteous deeds, returns to Allah as one rightly should!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah
Anaam verse 54:
When those come to you who believe in Our
Signs, say: "Peace be on you! Your Lord had inscribed for Himself (the rule
of) Mercy. Verily if any of you did evil
in ignorance, and thereafter repented
and amended (his conduct), Lo! He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2357 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Mas'ud
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "He who
repents of a sin is like him who has committed no sin."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2338 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Umar
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "Allah
accepts a servant's repentance (taubah) till he gives up his spirit in
death."
Thus my beloved Sister in Islam, never never never ever
despair of the magnitude and vastness of the Mercy and Grace of your Lord Most
Merciful…..absolutely regardless of whatever sins one might have committed in
one’s past, if one turns to their Lord Most Gracious and seeks sincere
repentance, it is expected that they will find their Lord Forgiving and
Merciful.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only
due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me
alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is
the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan
