Last time i told you teena is my wife and recently converted to islam so please answer all her queries which she put across you so that she can feel contented and Allah accept her in islam.
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Dear Burhan bhai,
Aasalam Alaikum,
Trust you are doing fine.I am dishearted after not seeing my reply or any mail
from your side.Last time i told you teena is my wife and recently converted to
islam so please answer all her queries which she put across you so that she can
feel contented and Allah accept her in islam.
well, bhai can you tell me who was Maria and how she was related to prophet
muhammad(Pbuh)?Recently one of my non-muslim colleague has asked this question
and was telling me she was Prophet muhammad(Pbuh) kept.May Allah forgive his
sin as i am over sure about our prophet who was blessing for the mankind.I was
embarrased as i have no answer.
Please clarify.
Your response will be highly appreciated!
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Answer:
Slave girls and
maria kibtiya
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask
for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever
He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that
there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
There is a slight difference of opinion amongst the
historians and the scholars in Islam whether or not Hadrat Maria Kibtiyah
(r.a.) was married with the Noble Prophet Mohamed (saws) through the
institution of ‘nikaah’ or was she amongst those lawful women whom ‘one’s right
hand possess’ or what is normally known as a ‘slave girl’.
The vast majority of the historians in Islam are of the
opinion that the Noble Prophet (saws) married eleven women through the
institution of ‘nikaah’; and had two additional lawful slave-girls, namely
Hadrat Maria (r.a.) and Hadrat Rehanah (r.a.), both of whom although not
married to the Prophet (saws) through ‘nikaah’ were treated by the Prophet
(saws) and the believers with the same awe and respect that was deserving of
all the Prophet’s (saws) noble and chaste wives.
Please allow us to clarify the concept of ‘slaves’ and ‘slave-girls’
in Islam:
Whenever the term ‘whom thy right hand possesses’ is used
in the Glorious Quran it refer to the ‘slave girls’ who were captured as
prisoners of war in the various battles that took place.
Since time immemorial,
slavery was an accepted practice;
thus it was not Islam that started this practice, but rather Islam was the first system to
inculcate the freedom of slaves and take steps to make them equal citizens of
society. Slavery was abolished in
modern society only a couple of centuries ago,
and was openly practiced in almost all parts of the civilized world even
until the early 1900s. But Islam made
it a virtue to free slaves, and inculcate
them into society as equal citizens,
almost 1400 years ago!
So, how did people (men and women) become slaves?
There were several ways in earlier times how a free person
would become a slave.
The already existent slaves and their offspring were also considered
slaves.
People used to steal children and then sell them as slaves
in another place.
One tribe would attack another tribe, kill the men,
and take the women and children as slaves and then sell them as
war-booty.
This practice was prevalent all over the world at the
times, thus we must remember that Islam
neither started it, nor encouraged
it. Islam, in fact closed almost all the doors on how a
free man becomes a slave, and in reality
opened all the doors to free these slaves and make them responsible members in
society. Islam was instrumental in eradicating slavery and made it a virtue and
a means of reward from Allah to free slaves and inculcate them into society.
The Messenger of Allah (saws) declared it a sin to kidnap
any free man, woman or child and make them slaves. After the wars, the Prophet (saws) used to exchange the
Prisoners of War if both the warring parties agreed to it. If not,
the captives were set free by taking a ransom for them. If the slaves or their families could not
afford the ransom, most times the
Prophet (saws) showed generosity and released them without any ransom. Only if none of the above were possible, and the captives had no place to return
to, then these captives were made slaves
and all efforts were taken to inculcate them into the existing Islamic Society.
In some instances,
when the enemy was still at war,
there was always a fear that if the Prisoners of War were released, they would go back and join their armies and
attack the muslims again. During these
times, the Messenger of Allah (saws)
allowed the prisoners to be taken as slaves as was the prevalent system of the
times. Rather than put them in
jail, the slaves were distributed to
each household and they were responsible for the welfare of the slaves. The Messenger of Allah (saws) exhorted the
believers to feed them what they ate themselves, and dress them in the clothes that they
themselves dressed.
Thus, there arose a issue with the women who were captured
as Prisoners of War, and were not exchanged, nor ransomed, nor had any place to
return to. Most times the wars were
with tribes, and whoever won these
wars, the losing tribes were completely
annihilated. Thus there was no place to
send the Prisoners of War back to, and
it became imperative that these people were inculcated within the society. Thus there were two choices left with the
slave girls:
Leave them alone in society with no family and no
protection.
Give them under the guardianship and protection of an
existing family.
Option-1. Leave them
alone in society with no family and no protection.
This would not have
been a good option. There was obviously
a fear that these women, who had
absolutely no family and tribe to protect or feed them, would start immoral practices if left to fend
for themselves. And because no one
could determine their lineage, no
honorable person at that time would marry them outright. And also it would not be right to just leave
these women, who had absolutely no
means, no family, and no protection in a foreign land.
Option-2. Give them under the guardianship of an
existing family.
The state would determine which slave girl goes to which
household. Neither the people who
received the slave girl, nor the slave
girl had a choice. Whatever was
allotted by the state was received by them.
This was considered the best and novel system to eradicate slavery and
accept the slaves as members of society.
We must not try to imagine this system of distribution and acceptance in
today’s society, but rather 1400 years
at the time of the Prophet (saws). The
training and discipline of the noble companions of the Prophet (saws), and the true Islamic society which was
created in light of the Holy Quran and the guidance of the Messenger of Allah
(saws) must be kept in view to get a full picture of the condition of the
times.
Question:
What is
a ‘slave girl’?
The slave girl that was allotted by the state to the
respective household, thus became the
consort of one member of the household.
Only this person was allowed to have a sexual relationship with this
slave girl. The difference between this
person’s wife and the slave girl was that his wife came into his house through
the proper marriage contract (Nikaah),
and the slave girl was allotted by the state.
Question:
What is
their status in a man’s life, esp a married person’s life?
The status was like his wife. Only the person who was allotted the slave
girl was allowed to have a sexual relationship with her. If the slave girl was allotted to the father, then the brothers or the sons had absolutely
no right towards this girl. The other
difference was that the Islamic law of equality of time and sustenance did not
apply between the wives and the slave girl.
Question:
What is
the status of the offsprings of this relationship-- to the man, in their lives,
wealth and will etc?
The children were exactly like the other children from the
person’s legally wedded wife. They were
to be given exactly the same rights as his other children. The children of the slave girl would inherit
the property exactly as the other children.
There was absolutely no difference amongst the children. And once any slave girl bore a child, she could not be sold to anybody else and
thus became a permanent member of the household.
Question:
Does she
have to be a muslima, or the religion in this relationship is not of concern?
No, this slave girl
did not have to be a muslima. In
fact, all the wars fought were between
the muslims and the non-believers, thus
most of these slave girls were non-muslims.
But through this system of allocation,
this woman was encompassed into Islamic society, and because of the behavior and character of
the muslims of the times, the
woman, more often than not, would accept Islam.
Question: How is this any different from the modern days concept of
mistress/prostitution/adultery?
There is a huge difference between the slave girls of
those times and the system of prostitution which is so prevalent as a disease
in today’s society.
The slave girl was a social issue of the times, which if not solved by Islam would give rise
to adultery and prostitution.
In prostitution,
the woman sells here services for a fee to anyone who is willing to
pay! The slave girl was taken into a
household as a full member.
In prostitution,
the woman has sexual relationships with many men! The slave girl would have sexual relations
only with the person she was given to;
very similar to the husband-wife relationship, the only difference being that the wife came
into the house through a marriage contract,
and the slave girl was allotted to the person by the state.
Prostitution is a result of illegal lust,
and is a huge sin in the eyes of Allah.
The allocation of slave girls was a issue of the times to envelope the
woman taken as slaves in a war into the Islamic society.
Prostitution and adultery do not have any responsibility
attached to it! The man-woman have a
one-off relationship and depart. The
slave girls were a responsibility of the person, who spent on them, gave them a place to live, fed them,
clothed them, and raised their
children as his children.
The children from adultery and prostitution are regarded
as born out of wedlock and grow up without the name and without the shadow of a
father. The children of the slave girls
were known as the children of the person,
grew up with his other children,
and had exactly the same rights and inheritance as the other offspring.
The system of slave girls was accepted and respected by
the Islamic society of the times. The
slave girl was treated like his wife,
and the children from these slave girls were treated like their children
by society.
No religion, no
state, no moral society accepts and
respects the institutions of prostitution and adultery. This
is a disease of society and every moral society has tried to eradicate this
disease with little success.
Again, I reiterate
that this system of slaves was not started by Islam, but was prevalent in the society in those
times. Islam tried to encompass the
slaves into Islamic society and gave them the respect and honor of being equal
members and citizens of society. Almost
all the doors and ways of creating new slaves were closed, and several options were created to free
these slaves and entwine them into the Islamic society. It was considered a virtue in Islam to free
slaves and a means of great reward from Allah Subhanah. Islam created a society whereby the compensation
for repentance for many sins like murder,
breaking of promises, missing of
fasts, etc. was the freeing of
slaves. In this way, Islam created an environment whereby slaves
were made free and allowed to inculcate themselves into the normal Islamic
society. We must be careful not to look
into this ‘slave-girls’ issue in isolation,
but rather look at the whole picture of the Islamic society at the time
of the Messenger of Allah (saws). The
training, the discipline, the character, and the morals of the noble companions was a
direct result of their association and teachings and guidance of the Prophet
(saws) himself. The values and degree
of ‘Taqwa’ (God consciousness) and the love for the promised
The main difference between a ‘free’ woman whom one
married, and the ‘slave girls’ was that one would choose and propose marriage
to a ‘free’ woman, and the ‘free’ woman had a right to accept or refuse the
proposal. The ‘slave girl’ on the other
hand was assigned by the Islamic State under the care of a particular
individual, regardless of whether she agreed or not.
We reiterate once again that the concept of slaves or
slave-girls was not started by Islam, but slavery was practiced by man since
time immemorial. Islam was the first
system which started the inculcation of slaves into mainstream society in the
most honorable and effective manner.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only
due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me
alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is
the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan
