A friend of mine wonders why a girl can`t pray on her period if it is a normal, natural thing from God himself

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Assalamu Alaykum

I have a hard time talking to people about Islam. I recently converted, and I know there is so much more I need to know about Islam, but people tend to probe me with questions that even I can`t really explain. So I`m going to ask a few, I`m not trying to be rebellious, I just want to know the answers.

 

Firstly, People tend to think women are oppressed in Islam. A friend of mine wonders why a girl can`t pray on her period if it is a normal, natural thing from God himself, why is it considered unpure? Also, why is the woman allowed to get a light beating after all has failed, but a man does not? A man can easily step out of line more than once just like a woman, so why doesn`t he get the same punishment after so many times? Also, the issue of a man having four wives comes up, and this issue is the toughest one to talk about, especially with the women. Some women today argue that a woman can feel just like the man when it comes to sexual needs, and alot of women these days cheat as well, so why can`t a woman have more than one husband? If polygamy prevents a man from commiting adultery, then what happens for the woman when she feels like she needs another man? Why is it ok for the man and not for the woman? When women hear this, they see it as unfair and they don`t see how it makes sense at all, because they see another woman having sex with their husbands, and then coming home to have sex with them, and they wouldnt feel the least bit good about it at all... So I`m just trying to figure out how this works.

 

Another thing, people constantly say muslims hate everyone that isnt muslim, and they want to kill women that don`t dress properly in the middle east, and they blow them selves up for God, and Women are like slaves to their husbands, .. . Of course they all get this from the television, but what I wanted to know is, even if these muslims in the middle east do commit these awful crimes, these things aren`t in the quran.. and should not be done, and if they are done, they are sinning.. is my thinking right?

People then say, well if its not in the quran then why are most muslims commiting all these crimes and saying that it is for God? Where are they getting it from then? I`m just trying to get a better understanding about these things. My parents are catholic and they go crazy when they think about me being one of the wives of my husband when i get married if he ends up having more than one. And I don`t know how to explain this properly to them, because they think its bascially cheating with a marriage license.. So i`d like to understand this topic a bit more, if you can help i`d appreciate it, thank you!

 

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Answer:

 

Revert polygamy wisdom

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

 

Your Statement: I`m not trying to be rebellious, I just want to know the answers.

Beloved sister in Islam, never ever hesitate or apologize for asking any questions in the deen; for the deen or ‘way of life’ called Al-Islam is based on the Perfect Wisdom and Knowledge of the All Knowing Lord, and every single command of the All Wise Lord is abundant in common-sense and logic.  Asking any type of questions in Islam to gain more knowledge, or to confirm the Truth so that one’s heart is more content, or to understand and thus follow with more conviction the dictates of the deen is not only permissible, but absolutely encouraged in Islam.  It is the right of the brother or sister to ask anything they wish to clarify in the deen; and it is the responsibility and duty of the good scholars to address the question asked to the best of their knowledge and ability, and in the most polite and humble manner.

 

What is discouraged in Islam is if one asks questions for the sake of asking, or arguing to ridicule the Truth with absolutely no intention of obeying or following when the Truth is made clear to them, etc.   But if one asks questions to clarify and seek knowledge so that one may better follow the deen; such seeking of the Knowledge of Truth is absolutely encouraged in Islam

 

Your Question: A friend of mine wonders why a girl can`t pray on her period if it is a normal, natural thing from God himself, why is it considered unpure?

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 222:

222    They ask thee (O Prophet (saws)) concerning women's courses (menstruation).  Say: ‘They (the menstruation) are a hurt and a pollution; so keep away from women (sexual intercourse) in their courses and do not approach them until they are clean.  But when they have purified themselves ye may approach them in any manner time or place ordained for you by Allah.  For Allah loves those who turn to Him constantly, and He loves those who keep themselves pure and clean.

 

Respected sister in Islam, indeed the menstruation of a woman is absolutely natural and an occurrence ordained and decreed by the Lord according to their nature. 

 

Allow us to relate and example: Suppose one works in an office, and the boss tells his employee who has a slight medical problem which lasts about five days, that they need not do their regular obligatory duties for those five days….without any reduction in their salary. 

 

Would any employee turn against such a caring and merciful boss and demand to know why he is exempted from doing his duty, or would the employee be thankful and grateful to the boss for his exemption???

 

Respected sister in Islam, the Lord Most Merciful knows the condition of each in His creation; and in His Infinite Mercy towards His slaves, has exempted the believing woman who experiences her natural menstruation from offering her obligatory prayers, which she does not even have to make up later. 

 

One should determine for oneself which is closer to piety and righteousness?  To accept this mercy and gift from their Lord Most Gracious and be grateful and thankful for His favors; or to throw back the Lord’s Mercy at Him and demand that their exemption be lifted!!!

 

Your Question: Also, why is the woman allowed to get a light beating after all has failed, but a man does not? A man can easily step out of line more than once just like a woman, so why doesn`t he get the same punishment after so many times?

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verses 34-35:

34      Men are the protectors and maintainers of women because Allah has given the one more than the other, and because they support them from their means.  Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient and guard in (the husband's) absence what Allah would have them guard.  As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (next) refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly); but if they return to obedience seek not against them means (of annoyance): for Allah is Most High Great (above you all).

35      If ye fear a breach between them twain appoint (two) arbiters, one from his family and the other from hers; if they wish for peace Allah will cause their reconciliation: for Allah hath full knowledge and is acquainted with all things.

 

The above aayah of Surah Nisa has been a mode of challenge for many of the disbelievers, who challenge the Quran and the deen of Islam.  They have always used this aayah to prove to the world that Islam allows the subjugation and abuse of women.   Allah is our witness, nothing could be further far from the truth, in the context of the Holy Quran and in the context of the wisdom and guidance of Islam.

 

It is obvious from the above aayah that Allah has not created man and woman as equals in Islam.  This term of ‘equality’ between man and woman is a unnatural philosophy propagated by the ignorant and ungodly cultures.   They have propagated man and woman as ‘equal’, and in doing so, they have ‘separated’ them and their sacred unity. Although there are many discrepancies in the west making man and woman as equals, they have partly succeeded in making them ‘equal and separate’.   

 

The Islamic viewpoint, in light and guidance of the Holy Quran is that Allah has created man and woman as ‘balanced’,  each with its own sphere of equally important responsibilities.  If we follow Allah and His Messenger (saws), and the guidance of the Holy Quran, we will be able to treat man and woman as ‘balanced and united’, rather than ‘equal and separate’ as propagated by the ungodly societies.

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 30 Surah Rum verse 21:

21      And among His Signs is this that He created for you mates from among yourselves that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts); verily in that are Signs for those who reflect.

 

Allah created man, and from the man created his mate, to be his partner and his comfort.  Allah says in the Holy Quran, that He has put love and mercy between the husband and wife in the sacred union of marriage, so that they may enjoy each others company and live a harmonious life in mutual respect and unity.  

 

In the above quoted Aayah of Surah Nisaa, The Creator gives guidance about the characteristics of a virtuous and righteous woman.  She is obedient to her husband (as long as the boundaries set by Allah are not violated).  She guards her rights of chastity for her husband.  She guards the husbands property and children in his absence.   And she does all these duties under the care and watch of her All-Knowing, All-Seeing Lord, Allah Subhanah.

 

But if the husband fears that the wife is transgressing the boundaries of Allah, Allah has given him 5 options to resolve the matter, four of which are mentioned in the above quoted verses 34-35 of Surah Nisaa.

 

Option 1:  Admonish them.

Quran 4:34: ‘As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them’

Basically means guide them, talk to them,  advice them, and let them know that they are transgressing the boundaries set by Allah and His Messenger (saws).   The scholars are of the opinion, that it is not enough that they should be admonished once, but the husband must be merciful and give them plenty of time to realize their mistake, and come back to the guidance of Allah and His Messenger (saws).

 

 

Option 2: Keep them apart from their beds.  

Quran 4:34: ‘(next) refuse to share their beds’

Basically means, that after talking to them and guiding them several times, and the wife still does not listen, then as an extreme measure, and a clear sign of your disappointment with them, punish them (and himself) by not having intimate relations with them.  Because sometimes, if might happen, that the wife might think that the husband is not serious about the  admonition and that he might back off at a later stage,  and she does not comply.   To let her know that the husband is extremely serious about the particular issue,  the husband may take option 2,  to signify his intention that he is extremely serious about it.

 

In most cases, if the woman is God Fearing, loves her husband, and wishes to save the marriage, the husband will never ever need to go beyond this option.  But only in extreme cases where even after a lengthy admonition and keeping away from their beds the wife still does not amend her conduct, the husband is allowed to use the next option.

 

Option 3:  Beat her.  

Quran 4:34: ‘(and last) beat them (lightly)’

After going through the motions of admonishing her,  and even keeping her away from your bed, she is still in defiance, then Allah has recommended as a final resort,  to beat her lightly.  That does not mean by any means that the husband is allowed to abuse the woman and beat her black and blue!  Allah is our witness, if any husband does so, he will be brought to a severe account in the Majestic Presence of his Lord on the Day of Judgment. The ‘beating’ is more of a symbolic, light beating (and never on the face),  but rather on the back,  as a sign of the husband’s ultimate displeasure. 

 

One must try to realize here,  that the Lord Most Merciful is trying to save the sacred sanctity of an Islamic marriage,  and has in His Mercy prescribed so many routes and options to be followed in sequence,  so that the sanctity and unity of an Islamic marriage can be sustained.  

 

Option 4: Arbitration.

Quran 4:35: ‘If ye fear a breach between them twain appoint (two) arbiters, one from his family and the other from hers; if they wish for peace Allah will cause their reconciliation.’

 If admonition, keeping away from their beds, and even the light beating does not break the defiance of the wife, Allah Subhanah has recommended that two righteous arbitrators be appointed, one from the husband’s family and one from the wife’s family; and if the two parties sincerely wish for a peaceful solution to the dispute between the husband and the wife, Allah Subhanah will bring about a reconciliation and thus save the sanctity of their marriage.

 

And finally,  Option 4:  Divorce.  

Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2173  Narrated by Abdullah ibn Umar

The Prophet (saws) said: ‘Of all the lawful acts’ the most detestable to Allah is divorce.’

 

Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2172 Narrated by Muharib

The Prophet (saws) said: ‘Allah did not make anything lawful more abominable to Him than divorce.’

 

A divorce in Islam is an absolutely the very last resort and option, but just look at the mercy of Allah here.   The Islamic way to give divorce is after one has tried and lost hope that any of the above four options will work, one may take the final step of pronouncing a divorce.   And here too, the husband is commanded to pronounce only one revocable divorce, then wait for three monthly periods.   During this time, the wife still stays in the husband’s house, but they cannot enjoy intimacy unless they wish to reconcile and settle their differences and live together in peace in their marriage.  If they wish to reconcile, the husband and the wife can get together and the one revocable divorce that was pronounced will be annulled; thus saving the sanctity of the sacred institution of marriage.  If after the three monthly periods have elapsed, and there is no sign of reconciliation and the husband and the wife wish to separate, the divorce will be established.

 

All these options are given, so that the sanctity, sacredness, and unity of the marriage between two believing slaves of Allah is maintained. The believers who are blessed to live a married life will at times experience a situation where an issue becomes, for any reason whatsoever, deadlocked.  Almost all times the issue is solved if both the partners fear Allah, and sincerely desire a solution and seek a  compromise in the admonition stage.   If the issue ever does go beyond the stage of admonition to the separation of the beds, more often than not, a compromise is reached and the issue gets solved.   The next option of beating the wife lightly is absolutely optional, and should only be applied if the husband sincerely thinks that it might help in saving the marriage.  If the husband beats his wife only to vent his anger or to bolster his ego, and he himself does not wish to seek a solution to the dispute to save the marriage, he is the one who will be the wrong-doer and oppressor in the Sight of the All-Mighty Lord.  One who sincerely wishes to save his marriage may very well go to the next option of arbitration, and if even that does not solve the issue, then and only then should one even think of the eventuality of separation by pronouncing the divorce! 

 

But in the unfortunate times we live in today, divorce is pronounced on the most frivolous of issues, without giving the marriage even a chance to survive; and the disastrous results of divorce and broken families are bare for all to see!  But Allah Subhanah in His Sublime and Infinite Mercy towards the believers and their families, has guided the believers to be extremely careful and try absolutely everything in their power and ability to save the sanctity of the sacred union they once mutually agreed and promised to honor. 

 

Of all the ‘lawful’ acts, nothing is more detestable to Allah Subhanah than a divorce between two people who had once agreed and promised to honor, cherish, live their whole lives together in peace and harmony.  

 

Your Question (again): Also, why is the woman allowed to get a light beating after all has failed, but a man does not? A man can easily step out of line more than once just like a woman, so why doesn`t he get the same punishment after so many times?

Respected sister, it is only obvious that nature has bestowed more strength in the men than the women!  If in the All-Encompassing Wisdom of Allah Subhanah, if the slight beating of the husband by his wife would help restore or save their marriage, the Lord Most Wise would have given it as an option.

 

Just imagine for a second that the woman, who is weaker in strength, beats her husband!  The husband, who obviously is stronger in strength, would then have the moral option to retaliate claiming that it was his wife who hit him first!!! 

 

Thus the Lord, in His Perfect and Absolute Wisdom, to protect the woman from bringing harm upon herself has not given her the option of beating her husband, if for some reason things are not working out in her marriage….but instead she has been given the right in Shariah to initiate a divorce proceedings and seek her freedom.  

 

Your Question: Also, the issue of a man having four wives comes up, and this issue is the toughest one to talk about, especially with the women. Some women today argue that a woman can feel just like the man when it comes to sexual needs, and alot of women these days cheat as well, so why can`t a woman have more than one husband

Please find below an answer to this frequently asked question by our beloved and respected brother and teacher, and one of the most respected scholars in Islam in this day and age, Dr. Brother Zakir Naik of Islamic Research Foundation, India.

 

1. POLYGAMY

 

Question:

Why is a man allowed to have more than one wife in Islam? i.e. why is polygamy allowed in Islam?

Answer:

 

Definition of Polygamy Polygamy means a system of marriage whereby one person has more than one spouse. Polygamy can be of two types. One is polygamy where a man marries more than one woman, and the other is polyandry, where a woman marries more than one man. In Islam, limited polygamyy is permitted; whereas polyandry is completely prohibited.

 

Now coming to the original question, why is a man allowed to have more than one wife?

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 3 (part):

3        If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, marry women of your choice two, or three, or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them) then only one.

 

The Qur’an is the only religious scripture in the world that says,"marry only one".

The Qur’an is the only religious book, on the face of this earth, that contains the phrase ‘marry only one’. There is no other religious book that instructs men to have only one wife. In none of the other religious scriptures, whether it be the Vedas, the Ramayan, the Mahabharat, the Geeta, the Talmud or the Bible does one find a restriction on the number of wives. According to these scriptures one can marry as many as one wishes. It was only later, that the Hindu priests and the Christian Church restricted the number of wives to one.

Many Hindu religious personalities, according to their scriptures, had multiple wives. King Dashrat, the father of Rama, had more than one wife. Krishna had several wives.

In earlier times, Christian men were permitted as many wives as they wished, since the Bible puts no restriction on the number of wives. It was only a few centuries ago that the Church restricted the number of wives to one.

Polygany is permitted in Judaism. According to Talmudic law, Abraham had three wives, and Solomon had hundreds of wives. The practice of polygamyy continued till Rabbi Gershom ben Yehudah (960 C.E to 1030 C.E) issued an edict against it. The Jewish Sephardic communities living in Muslim countries continued the practice till as late as 1950, until an Act of the Chief Rabbinate of Israel extended the ban on marrying more than one wife.


Hindus are more polygynous than Muslims

The report of the ‘Committee of The Status of Woman in Islam’, published in 1975 mentions on page numbers 66 and 67 that the percentage of polygamous marriages between the years 1951 and 1961 was 5.06% among the Hindus and only 4.31% among the Muslims. According to Indian law only Muslim men are permitted to have more than one wife. It is illegal for any non-Muslim in India to have more than one wife. Despite it being illegal, Hindus have more multiple wives as compared to Muslims. Earlier, there was no restriction even on Hindu men with respect to the number of wives allowed. It was only in 1954, when the Hindu Marriage Act was passed that it became illegal for a Hindu to have more than one wife. At present it is the Indian Law that restricts a Hindu man from having more than one wife and not the Hindu scriptures.

Let us now analyse why Islam allows a man to have more than one wife.


Qur’an permits limited polygany

As I mentioned earlier, Qur’an is the only religious book on the face of the earth that says ‘marry only one’. The context of this phrase is the following verse from Surah Nisa of the Glorious Qur’an:

"Marry women of your choice, two, or three, or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one."

[Al-Qur’an 4:3]

 

Before the Qur’an was revealed, there was no upper limit for polygamy and many men had scores of wives, some even hundreds. Islam put an upper limit of four wives. Islam gives a man permission to marry two, three or four women, only on the condition that he deals justly with them.

In the same chapter i.e. Surah Nisa verse 129 says:

 

"Ye are never able to be fair and just as between women...."

[Al-Qur’an 4:129]

 

Therefore polygamy is not a rule but an exception. It is not an order or commandment,  but rather something which is permitted.     Many people are under the misconception that it is compulsory for a Muslim man to have more than one wife.

Broadly, Islam has five categories of Do’s and Don’ts:

i.        Fard’ i.e. compulsory or obligatory

ii.       Mustahab’ i.e. recommended or encouraged

iii.     Mubah’ i.e. permissible or allowed

iv.    Makruh’ i.e. not recommended / discouraged

v.      Haraam’ i.e. prohibited or forbidden

Polygamy falls in the middle category of things that are permissible. It cannot be said that a Muslim who has two, three or four wives is a better Muslim as compared to a Muslim who has only one wife.


Average life span of females is more than that of males

By nature males and females are born in approximately the same ratio. A female child has more immunity than a male child. A female child can fight the germs and diseases better than the male child. For this reason, during the pediatric age itself there are more deaths among males as compared to the females.

During wars, there are more men killed as compared to women. More men die due to accidents and diseases than women. The average life span of females is more than that of males, and at any given time one finds more widows in the world than widowers.


India has more male population than female due to female foeticide and infanticide

India is one of the few countries, along with the other neighbouring countries, in which the female population is less than the male population. The reason lies in the high rate of female infanticide in India, and the fact that more than one million female foetuses are aborted every year in this country, after they are identified as females. If this evil practice is stopped, then India too will have more females as compared to males.

 

World female population is more than male population

In the USA, women outnumber men by 7.8 million. New York alone has one million more females as compared to the number of males, and of the male population of New York one-third are gays i.e sodomites. The U.S.A as a whole has more than twenty-five million gays. This means that these people do not wish to marry women. Great Britain has four million more females as compared to males. Germany has five million more females as compared to males. Russia has nine million more females than males. God alone knows how many million more females there are in the whole world as compared to males.

 

Restricting each and every man to have only one wife is not practical

Even if every man got married to one woman, there would still be more than thirty million females in U.S.A who would not be able to get husbands (considering that America has twenty five million gays). There would be more than four million females in Great Britain, 5 million females in Germany and nine million females in Russia alone who would not be able to find a husband.

Suppose my sister happens to be one of the unmarried women living in USA, or suppose your sister happens to be one of the unmarried women in USA. The only two options remaining for her are that she either marries a man who already has a wife or becomes public property. There is no other option. All those who are modest will opt for the first.

In Western society, it is common for a man to have mistresses and/or multiple extra-marital affairs, in which case, the woman leads a disgraceful, unprotected life. The same society, however, cannot accept a man having more than one wife, in which women retain their honourable, dignified position in society and lead a protected life.

Thus the only two options before a woman who cannot find a husband is to marry a married man or to become public property. Islam prefers giving women the honourable position by permitting the first option and disallowing the second.

There are several other reasons, why Islam has permitted limited polygany, but it is mainly to protect the modesty of women.

 

POLYANDRY

 

Question:

If a man is allowed to have more than one wife, then why does Islam prohibit a woman from having more than one husband?

Answer:

A lot of people, including some Muslims, question the logic of allowing Muslim men to have more than one spouse while denying the same ‘right’ to women.

Let me first state emphatically, that the foundation of an Islamic society is justice and equity. Allah has created men and women as equal, but with different capabilities and different responsibilities. Men and women are different, physiologically and psychologically. Their roles and responsibilities are different. Men and women are equal in Islam, but not identical.

 

Surah Nisa’ Chapter 4 verses 22 to 24 gives the list of women with whom you can not marry and it is further mentions in Surah Nisa’ Chapter 4 verse 24 "Also (prohibited are) women already married"

 

The following points enumerate the reasons why polyandry is prohibited in Islam:

·         If a man has more than one wife, the parents of the children born of such marriages can easily be identified. The father as well as the mother can easily be identified. In case of a woman marrying more than one husband, only the mother of the children born of such marriages will be identified and not the father. Islam gives tremendous importance to the identification of both parents, mother and father. Psychologists tell us that children who do not know their parents, especially their father undergo severe mental trauma and disturbances. Often they have an unhappy childhood. It is for this reason that the children of prostitutes do not have a healthy childhood. If a child born of such wedlock is admitted in school, and when the mother is asked the name of the father, she would have to give two or more names! I am aware that recent advances in science have made it possible for both the mother and father to be identified with the help of genetic testing. Thus this point which was applicable for the past may not be applicable for the present.

 

·         Man is more polygamous by nature as compared to a woman.

·         Biologically, it is easier for a man to perform his duties as a husband despite having several wives. A woman, in a similar position, having several husbands, will not find it possible to perform her duties as a wife. A woman undergoes several psychological and behavioral changes due to different phases of the menstrual cycle.

·         A woman who has more than one husband will have several sexual partners at the same time and has a high chance of acquiring venereal or sexually transmitted diseases which can also be transmitted back to her husband even if all of them have no extra-marital sex. This is not the case in a man having more than one wife, and none of them having extra-marital sex.

The above reasons are those that one can easily identify. There are probably many more reasons why Allah, in His Infinite Wisdom, has prohibited polyandry.

 

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 33 Surah Ahzaab verse 36:

It does not behove a believing man and a believing woman that when Allah and His Messenger have given their decision in a matter,  they should exercise an option in that matter of theirs.  For whoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger,  has indeed strayed into manifest error.

 

Your Question: , .. . Of course they all get this from the television, but what I wanted to know is, even if these muslims in the middle east do commit these awful crimes, these things aren`t in the quran.. and should not be done, and if they are done, they are sinning.. is my thinking right?

Respected sister in Islam, one may search for a cure for any disease, but it is nigh impossible to search for a cure for the diseases of ignorance and especially, prejudice! 

 

Killing women because she does not dress properly, or blowing oneself up, treating wives like slaves, are only a few of the hundreds of absurd accusations which are given Islamic overtones, and as with everything ‘Islamic’, it more often than not, finds its roots in the ‘Middle East’!!! 

 

I myself have lived my whole life in the ‘Middle East’, and I would never deny that this region, like all other regions and nations of the world, has its fair share of evil people and its fair share of good people…..The Lord Creator did not assign exclusivity of good or evil to any particular race, or people, or region; nor would it be intelligent or wise to call any race or people or nation evil in general terms. 

 

Allah has absolutely forbidden the believers of the Quran to practice prejudice against others, regardless of their beliefs, race, color, or nationality.

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 49 Surah Hujuraat verse 11:

11      O ye who believe! Let not some men among you mock at others: it may be that the (latter) are better than the (former): Nor let some women mock at others: it may be that the (latter) are better than the (former): nor defame nor be sarcastic to each other nor call each other by (offensive) nicknames: Ill-seeming is a name connoting wickedness (to be used of one) after he has believed: And those who do not desist are (Indeed) doing wrong

 

Your Question (again): …..and if they are done, they are sinning.. is my thinking right?

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chatper 36 Surah Yaa Seen verse 54:

54      Then on that Day (of Judgment) not a soul will be wronged in the least, and ye shall but be repaid the meeds of your past deeds.

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 99 Surah Zalzalah verses 6-8:

6        On that Day (of Judgment) will mankind proceed in companies sorted out to be shown the deeds that they (had done).

7        Then shall anyone who has done an atom's weight of good, see it!

8        And anyone who has done an atom's weight of evil shall see it.!

 

Dear and beloved Sister, the very reason the Lord Most High has Decreed that absolutely all life and existence cease, and there be established a Day of Judgment is so that every single human being is recompensed in full for what he chose to do in the test period of one life bestowed upon him by his Lord Creator.

 

If any human being, regardless of his beliefs, or race, or color, etc., transgressed any of the limits or bounds of their Lord and did oppression and injustice to any in the least, he will be held accountable in the Presence of the All-Knowing, All-Just, Majestic and Supreme Lord of the Worlds.   

 

If there are people who kill women or innocent people, or treat others with scorn and hatred without right or cause, or oppress and tyrannize innocent souls, or do any injustice or oppression in the least…..Allah is our witness sister, they will have their full accounting and retribution in the Presence of the Lord Most Majestic on that Inevitable and Tumultuous Day of Judgment!  One who is guilty might be able to get away with his crime in the life of this world, but never never ever will one be able to get away unaccounted and without giving full and due retribution on that Inevitable Day!

 

 Sahih Muslim Hadith 6251    Narrated by Abu Hurayrah

Allah's Messenger (saws) asked: ‘Do you know who is a ‘muflis’ (an absolute and abject pauper)?’  They (the Companions of the Prophet (saws)) said: ‘A ‘muflis’ amongst us is one who has neither dirham with him nor wealth.’  He (the Prophet (saws)) said: ‘The ‘muflis’ (or absolute pauper) of my Ummah would be he who would come on the Day of Resurrection with prayers and fasts and Zakat but (he would find himself bankrupt on that day as he would have exhausted his funds of virtues) since he hurled abuses upon others, brought calumny against others, unlawfully consumed the wealth of others, shed the blood of others, and beat others, and his virtues would be credited to the account of one (who suffered at his hand). And if his good deeds fall short to clear the account, then their sins would be entered in (his account) and he would be thrown in the Hell-Fire!’

 

If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws),   one can be assured of never ever being misled;   but if one believes, obeys and follows any other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of being led astray.  

 

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone.  Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

 

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

 

 

Burhan

 

 
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