Can husband put jam or honey on breast of his wife and like it from there
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can
husband put jam or honey on breast of his wife and like it from there, can he
kiss the vagina of his wife and buttocks also can the wife perform oral sex on
him while he wears perfumed condom, can the couples use sex toys between them?
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Answer:
Sex liberties
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask
for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever
He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that
there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah
Baqarah verse 223:
223 Your wives are as a tilth unto you; so
approach your tilth when or how ye will.
Abu Dhar al-Ghafari reported: ‘The Messenger
of Allah (saws) said: “there is a reward for you [even] in sex with your
wife."’ The companions asked: ‘O Messenger of Allah (saws) is there a
reward if one satisfies his passion?" He (saws) said: "Do you know
that if he satisfies it unlawfully he has taken a sin upon himself? Likewise, if he satisfies it lawfully, he is
rewarded."
Related by Ahmad and Muslim.
Islam has allowed the husband and the wife in marriage
every possible liberty to enjoy conjugal relations with each other, except three:
Other than the above three restrictions, one may enjoy
conjugal relations with one’s wife any place, any time, and any how their
heart’s desire.
Your Question: can
husband put jam or honey on breast of his wife and like it from there. can the
couples use sex toys between them?
If that is indeed what the husband and the wife desire,
there is absolutely no restriction in Shariah.
As long as the above three listed conditions are not
violated, the husband and the wife bonded in the sacred institution of marriage
in Islam have every liberty to enjoy their conjugal relationship with each
other however they so will and please.
Your Question: can
he kiss the vagina of his wife and buttocks also can the wife perform oral sex
on him while he wears perfumed condom
Dear and Beloved Brother in Islam, it is obvious that the
act of ‘oral sex’, whereby one spouse derives pleasure by touching the private
parts of the other with their mouth is obviously unnatural, unhealthy,
unhygienic, unclean, impure and this act is not found even in any of the lower
animate creations!
Because oral sex is a new deviation of mankind, it finds specific
mention neither in the Quran nor the Sunnah, just as there is no mention of the
permissibility/impermissibility of man deriving pleasure by trying to enter the
woman through her nose, ears, navel, etc.!!!
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 7 Surah
Aaraaf verse 157:
157 Those who follow the Messenger, the ‘Ummi’ (unlettered) Prophet
(Mohammed (saws)) whom they find mentioned in their own (Scriptures); in the Law
and the Gospel; for he (Prophet Mohamed (saws)) commands them what is just and
forbids them what is evil: he allows them as lawful what is ‘tayyibaat’
(good and pure) and prohibits them from what is ‘Khabaayith’ (bad, evil and
impure); He releases them from their heavy burdens and from the yokes
that are upon them. So it is those who
believe in him, honor him, help him, and follow the Light which is sent down
with him: it is they who will prosper."
But since the permissibility/impermissibility of this
specific act of what is known today as ‘oral sex’ is not mentioned by name or
act anywhere in the Quran and the Sunnah, the God-fearing and the pious amongst
the scholars in Islam have abstained from declaring it ‘haraam’; the most they
have said is that the act is from the ‘khabaaith’ (impure) and thus closer to
the haraam than to the halaal, and the believers should fear Allah and abstain
from it.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 3.267 Narrated by An Numan bin Bashir
The Prophet (saws) said "Both the halaal
(lawful) and the haraam (unlawful) things are (made) obvious, and in between
them are (suspicious) doubtful matters.
So whoever forsakes those doubtful things lest he may commit a sin, will
definitely avoid what is clearly unlawful; and whoever indulges in these
(suspicious) doubtful things bravely, is likely to commit what is clearly
illegal. Sins are Allah's Hima (i.e.
private pasture) and whoever pastures (his sheep) near it, is likely to get in
it at any moment."
Beloved brother in Islam, given the unbelievable liberty
Islam has granted to the husband and the wife to enjoy conjugal relations in
their sacred bond of marriage, in our humble opinion, it would be best for the
believers who sincerely fear Allah and the Last Day to strive to abstain from
this doubtful act of ‘oral sex’; and Allah Alone Knows Best.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to
Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only
Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan
