Is husband responsible for his wife regarding islam?
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa
Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be
upon all of you)
One of our
brothers/sisters has asked this question:
As-Salaam-Wa-Lekum-Wa-Rehmathulahi-Wa Barkatha
Hu
What does the Koran
say about the following:
A Married Couple are very happy with each other, except when Islam is brought
in. For example, The
wife gets really upset or mad when the husband relates every thing about life
to the guidance of Allah Subhanu Tala...
What i means is...when there is argument, lets say eating Halaal food, the husband wants to only eat halaal; but, the wife says as long as it's not the fat of a
swine it's okay. The husbands
tells the wife that Allah Subhanu Tala did not guide us to believe what she has just claimed.
But the wife eats the 'Haraam' food anyways.
What i want to know is...
If Wife doesn't
follow the guidance of Allah Subhanu Tala would the Husband be punished for what the wife does?
I was told it's upto the husband to 'make' the
wife follow the right path, if she doesn't the husband will be held accountable
on the Day of Judgement, is that true?
And it doesn't
just relate to eating Halaal, but every day
activities (ie: wearing specific clothes, talking in
a specific way (in regards to respect) etc.)
And also what if
the couple has a Child and the husband is teaching the child, Islamic ways of
life; but, the wife keeps on saying to the Husband 'why are you brain washing
my child?' what should the husband do then?
I know deep inside
the wife knows the truth and Insha Allah she will be
guided towards that truth.
please reply as soon as
possible
and may Allah Subhanu Taala accept our duas, forgive our sins and guide as to the right path
Thank You very much, Brother Burhan and
the Brothers and Sister working with you
Jazak Allah
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Answer:
Is
husband responsible for his wife regarding islam?
In the name of Allah, We praise
Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness.
Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray,
none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person,
no grave, no prophet, no
imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone,
and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of
His Messengers.
Beloved brother, the portrayal you
have depicted is indeed not uncommon when two people who are married to each
other have completely different ideologies and beliefs; and unfortunately, what you have stated is the state of many
couples. Sometimes, the husband wants to adhere to the
tenets of Islam, and the wife does
not! And sometimes, the wife wants to be obedient to Allah
Subhanah, and
the husband does not.
The source of such conflict is
that sometimes the un-godly world and culture so influences a person, that he
whole-heartedly accepts a pagan culture and beliefs, and denies the Truth from their Creator.
If Allah Subhanah
has blessed one of the partners with guidance, he must try with wisdom and
patience, to make his/her spouse understand
the Truth of the Message of their Creator.
If the believer is truly a well-wisher of his partner, he will have to exercise extreme
patience, fortitude, and tolerance. He must realize that it is not always easy for a person to change their ideologies
and belief which they have inherited over a long period of time. It is only through love, wisdom,
patience, tolerance, and steadfastness that one will be able to
convince his loved one of the Truth of the life of this world, and especially the life of the Hereafter.
Now to answer your specific
questions:
Your question: If Wife doesn't
follow the guidance of Allah Subhanu Tala would the Husband be punished for what the wife does?
Your question: I was told it's upto the husband to 'make' the
wife follow the right path, if she doesn't the husband will be held accountable
on the Day of Judgement, is that true?
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 17 Surah Israa verse 15: Who receiveth
guidance receiveth it for his own benefit: who goeth astray
doth so to his own loss: no bearer
of burdens will bear the burden of another:
nor would We visit with Our Wrath until We had
sent a Messenger (to give warning).
If the husband has tried his
best with patience and wisdom to invite his wife to the Truth of Al-Islam, and even after
that, if his wife does not accept and
follow the Truth; he will not be held
responsible for the deeds of his wife.
Your question: And also what if
the couple has a Child and the husband is teaching the child, Islamic ways of
life; but, the wife keeps on saying to the Husband 'why are you brain washing
my child?' what should the husband do then?
If the matter is between halaal and haraam things; there can be
absolutely no compromise. But if the
matter is not of disobedience to Allah and His Messenger (saws) or some small, petty issues; it would be wise of the husband to show
patience and compromise. No believing
parent, however
sinful they may be, will ever want their
children to be evil people. All good
values that a parent teaches his/her children are Islamic values…good manners, obedience to
parents, honesty, truthfulness,
the concept of sharing, being
kind, benevolent, hard-working, etc. If the values and teachings are good, they have to be
Islamic. No Islamic value can ever be
bad for the human being and his offsprings!
Whatever written of Truth and
benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error
is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He
is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,
Burhan
