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can u plz let me know the right way of qulha

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Answer:

 

Khula Divorce

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When a divorce is initiated by the wife in a marriage, it is known in Fiqh or Islamic Jurisprudence terms as a ‘Khula’ divorce. 

 

There are basically three ways for a wife can seek a divorce:

1. Ask her husband that she no longer wishes to remain his wife, and the husband accedes to her request and pronounces a divorce on her.
2. If the husband refuses to divorce her, she has the right to Initiate a divorce proceedings in a Shariah Court, whereby the Judge will study the conditions and reasons for seeking divorce, and then summon the husband and give him an option: either he accedes to the wife’s divorce request and pronounces divorce on her, or the Court will use its authority and divorce the couple.
3. If the husband does not pronounce the divorce and the Judge sees valid reason for divorce, he has the authority to divorce the couple.

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verses 229-231:

229    A divorce is only permissible twice: after that the parties should either hold together on equitable terms or separate with kindness.  It is not lawful for you (men) to take back any of your gifts (from your wives) except when both parties fear that they would be unable to keep the limits ordained by Allah.  If ye (judges) do indeed fear that they would be unable to keep the limits ordained by Allah there is no blame on either of them if she give something for her freedom. These are the limits ordained by Allah; so do not transgress them.  If any do transgress the limits ordained by Allah such persons wrong (themselves as well as others).

230    So if a husband divorces his wife (irrevocably) he cannot after that remarry her until after she has married another husband and he has divorced her.  In that case there is no blame on either of them if they reunite provided they feel that they can keep the limits ordained by Allah.  Such are the limits ordained by Allah which He makes plain to those who understand.

231    When ye divorce women and they fulfil the term of their (`Iddat) either take them back on equitable terms or set them free on equitable terms; but do not take them back to injure them or to take undue advantage; if anyone does that He wrongs his own soul.  Do not treat Allah's Signs as a jest but solemnly rehearse Allah's favors on you and the fact that He sent down to you the Book and Wisdom for your instruction.  And fear Allah and know that Allah is well acquainted with all things.

If it is the woman who initiates the divorce or ‘khula’ in marriage, she is required to repay the husband back the ‘mehr’ he paid her at the time of ‘nikaah’, unless of course the husband, of his own will, wishes to let his wife keep the ‘mehr’ he paid her.  But if the husband initiates the divorce, it is absolutely forbidden for him to demand any payment or recompense of the ‘mehr’ or any other gifts he might have given his wife during their marriage.

 

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone.  Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

 

 

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

 

Burhan