I am in love with a boy , hes also interested in me and we r getting engaged very soon.
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa
Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
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this question:
aoa,
respectable brother, i am in love with a boy , hes also interested in me and we
r getting engaged very soon. we use to talk on phone and chat on net.he always
likes to see me on the web cam but one day he asked me to show up nude.
Firstly
i was reluctant but as he was angry i agree and i did show myself nude to him
on the cam for 10 min.....since i have performed this stupid action i feel
guilty but my fiance convinces me saying that there is no harm in showing to
one u are marrying....and he demands it again.please help me and tell me what
does islam say abt it.
thank u
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Answer:
Relationship before marriage
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask
for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever
He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that
there is no one (no idol, no person, no
grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai,
nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Your
Question: please help me and tell me what does islam say abt it.
Beloved Sister in
Islam, Allah Subhanah, the Creator and Sustainer of the heavens and the earth,
has clearly described ‘zina’ as absolutely ‘haraam’ and forbidden for the
believers.
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 17 Surah Israa verse 32:
Do not even go near
‘zina’ (fornication or adultery) for it is a very indecent thing and a very
evil way!
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 24 Surah Noor verse 2:
The woman and the man
guilty of ‘zina’ (fornication), flog
each one of them with a hundred stripes,
and let not pity for them restrain you in regard to a matter prescribed
by Allah; if indeed you believe in
Allah and the Last Day! And let a
section of the believers witness the punishment inflicted on them.
Zina
(fornication and adultery) are considered amongst the gravest sins in
Islam. One can imagine the severity of
the sin, by the punishment Allah and
His Messenger (saws) have decreed for the sin.
And if the person dies without making Taubah or asking repentance from
Allah Subhanah in the life of this world,
the punishment of the Hereafter in the Just Court of Allah Subhanah is
even more severe than the punishment of the world!!
As is the principle in Islam,
any act which has been declared as ‘haraam’ or absolutely forbidden, all the
roads or paths or processes that lead to the ‘haraam’ will also be considered
forbidden.
Zina is considered such an evil
and such a grave sin that Allah has advised the believers in the Holy Quran
17:32 .. ‘Do not even go near ‘zina’….’. We are commanded by Allah not to
even go near zina, if indeed we fear Allah and the Last Day!!!
For a believing man or woman to talk ‘vain’ talk with a
non-mehram member of the opposite sex is an act which leads to the path of
‘zina’, and thus forbidden in Islam!
For a believing man or woman to form an illicit
relationship with a non-mehram member of the opposite sex is an act which leads
to the path of ‘zina’, and thus forbidden in Islam!
For a believing man or woman who sincerely fears Allah and
the Last Day to expose one’s full ‘satr’ to anyone other than their legally
wedded spouse is an act which leads to the evil and heinous path of ‘zina’, and
thus absolutely forbidden in Islam!
Not only is ‘zina’ declared ‘haraam’ by Allah and His
Messenger (saws), but every act which leads one to the evil path of ‘zina’ is
also considered absolutely forbidden in Islam!
Your
Statement: since i have performed this stupid action i feel guilty
Your this ‘guilt’ is evidence that you are one who fears
The Inevitable Tribunal of your Lord Most Majestic; for every single human
being will be gathered and brought forth in the Presence of their Majestic Lord
to give a full accounting of his/her deeds.
All Praise is due to Allah Subhanah Alone Who has guided
you to fear him. Beloved Sister in
Islam, with immediate effect, in all fear, and humility, and hope, beseech and
implore your Lord Most Merciful to forgive you your act you did in ignorance,
and make a solemn covenant with your Lord that you will never ever go even
close towards the things which transgress His Boundaries. Allah is our witness, if you are sincere in
seeking repentance from your Lord, it is expected that you will find Him
Forgiving and Merciful.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah
Zumur verses 53-54:
(O Prophet) say: “O My servants who have wronged
their own souls….Do not despair of Allah’s Mercy! Surely, Allah forgives all sins. He indeed is the All Forgiving,
All Merciful. Return to your
Lord and submit to Him before the scourge overtakes you; for then you may get no help from anywhere.”
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale
Imraan verse 135-136:
Allah likes such good people very much,
who, if ever they commit a base deed or
wrong their own soul by the commission of a sin, remember Allah instantly,
and ask for forgiveness from Him for their shortcomings. For who,
but Allah, can forgive sins?
(And Allah loves those) who do not knowingly persist in the wrongs they
did. These will be rewarded with
forgiveness from Allah, and with Gardens beneath which canals flow, and they
will reside therein forever! How
excellent is the reward of those who do good deeds!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam
verse 54:
When those come to you who believe in Our Signs,
say: "Peace be on you! Your Lord
had inscribed for Himself (the rule of) Mercy.
Verily if any of you did evil in ignorance, and thereafter repented and
amended (his conduct), Lo! He is Oft-Forgiving,
Most Merciful."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2357 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Mas'ud
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "He who
repents of a sin is like him who has committed no sin."
Your
Statement: my fiance convinces me saying that there is no harm in showing to
one u are marrying....and he demands it again.
Beloved Sister, as slave-servants of Allah Subhanah, the
believers have chosen to be bound by His Declared Boundaires; and it is the
right of Allah and His Messenger (saws) alone to declare and inform us which
things will bring harm to one in this world and the Hereafter, and which things
are safe from harm!
‘Engagement’ and ‘fiance’ have absolutely no legal basis
or standing in Shariah or in the Sight of Allah Subhanah. Unless and until a couple have actually
united themselves in the sacred institution of ‘nikaah’ (marriage), it is
absolutely impermissible and forbidden for them to enjoy their
relationship!
If the boy sincerely loves you, he will understand and
appreciate the Truth when you tell him in absolutely plain and clear terms to
fear Allah, and dishonor you not in demanding things which have been clearly declared
as forbidden by Allah and His Messenger (saws); and ask him to prove his ‘love’
by doing the righteous thing and honor you by approaching your parents and
seeking your hand in marriage.
As your brothers and sincere well-wishers in faith, we
implore you not to give in to the absolutely illegal, immoral, and indecent
demands of the person, but rather fear Allah and dishonor not the honor Your
Lord Most Gracious has bestowed upon you as a believing woman.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to
Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only
Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in
Islam,
Burhan