Unfortunately I have sinned badly which I did not think at that time and slowly but surely made the biggest mistake of my life by become an adulteress.....
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selamunAleykum
brother burhan
I am not sure how this is works through the internet but I am in
despare...Insheallah you can help me..Elhamdulillah I am a practicing married
woman of 5 years ago.I have gone to my country to leave my two girls in madrasa
to increase their faith in islam...whilst they were they i stayed in my town
with my inlaws..unknown to me my husbands nephew who is 23 stayed there
too....eventhough I objected at first soon we became friends and in time
developed a special bond between us....unfortunately I have sinned badly which
I did not think at that time and slowly but surely made the biggest mistake of
my life by become an adulteress.....
first question....Is my talak to my husband valid???
2nd
question... we are intending to go to hac this year would that be valid???
3rd
question...how would i expidate this big mistake as I am back with my husband..
I would be grateful if you can inlight me in this matter and I am feeling very
guilty upon myself
and my
husband.
if any other question please dont hesitate to ask me
fi amanillah
i need
an urgent reply
please
help me!!!
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Answer:
Adultery repentance
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask
for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever
He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that
there is no one (no idol, no person, no
grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai,
nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Your
Question-1:....Is my talak to my husband valid???
A ‘talaaq’ or divorce in Islam in only established if the
husband declares a divorce on his wife, or a wife seeks divorce from her
husband in a Shariah Court. The
adultery committed by a husband or a wife in their marriage does NOT constitute
an automatic divorce in Islam. Thus regardless of whatever you might have
done, you remain the wife of your husband, unless he specifically announces
divorce on you.
Your Question-2:...
we are intending to go to hac this year would that be valid???
Regardless of the
past deeds of a believer, if one fulfills all the rites of Hajj with sincere
humility and devotion, their pilgrimage of Hajj will be accepted by their Lord
Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
Your Question-3:...how
would i expidate this big mistake as I am back with my husband..
Regardless of whatever deeds one might have done,
if one turns to Allah Subhanah in sincere Taubah and seeks
forgiveness, Allah Subhanah has
promised in the Holy Quran that He will forgive ALL the sins of such a
believer, even if one has committed the
gravest sin of all: ‘Shirk’! Not only
that, our Lord is so Merciful and Generous, that He not only will forgive the
sins of the believer, He will change his evil deeds done into good deeds!
The conditions or ways to seek
sincere Taubah or Repentance from the Merciful Lord are:
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 39 Surah Zumur verses 53-54:
(O Prophet) say: “O My
servants who have wronged their own souls….Do not despair of Allah’s
Mercy! Surely, Allah forgives all sins. He indeed is the All Forgiving, All Merciful. Return to your Lord and submit to Him before the scourge
overtakes you; for then you may get no
help from anywhere.”
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan verse 135-136:
Allah likes such good
people very much, who, if ever they
commit a base deed or wrong their own soul by the commission of a sin, remember Allah instantly, and ask for forgiveness from Him for their
shortcomings. For who, but Allah,
can forgive sins? (And Allah
loves those) who do not knowingly persist in the wrongs they did. These will be rewarded with forgiveness
from Allah, and with Gardens beneath
which canals flow, and they will reside
therein forever! How excellent is the
reward of those who do good deeds!
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam verse 54:
When those come to you
who believe in Our Signs, say:
"Peace be on you! Your Lord had
inscribed for Himself (the rule of) Mercy.
Verily if any of you did evil in ignorance, and thereafter repented and amended (his conduct), Lo! He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."
Thus my beloved sister in Islam, regardless of whatever happened
in the past in ignorance, do not ever despair of the endless and infinite Mercy
of your Lord Most Gracious! Immediately
turn to your Lord in absolute humility, fear, and hope and seek sincere
repentance for whatever has happened, and make a solemn covenant with Him that
never ever will you allow the Shaytaan to put you in such a situation ever
again, and beg and implore you Lord Most Gracious in all humility to forgive
you; it is expected that you will find your Lord Most Merciful and Forgiving.
Beloved Sister, regardless of whatever happened, never
ever despair of your Lord’s Infinite and Endless Mercy; He has promised that He
will turn in Mercy to whoever seeks sincere forgiveness from Him, and wipe out
every sin they might have committed from their Book of Records. Not only that, The Mercy and Grace of our
Lord Most Gracious on His believing and repenting slaves is such that not only
has He promised to wipe out our evil deeds if we seek His forgiveness, He has
Promised in His Glorious Quran that He, from His Mercy and Grace, will change
the evil deeds in our Book of Records as good righteous deeds! Allah-o-Akbar! Allah-o-Akbar!
Allah-o-Akbar! How can one who
believes despair of the Limitless and Infinite Mercy of their Lord Most
Gracious, Most Merciful!!!
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 25 Surah Furqaan verses 63-71:
The (true) servants of
the Merciful are those who walk humbly on the earth. When the ignorant people behave insolently towards them, they say, “Peace to you”; (And those) who pass their nights in
prostrating themselves and standing before their Lord and pray, “O our
Lord, save us from the torment of
Hell, for its torment is killing! It is an evil abode, and an evil resting place”. (And those) who, when they spend are neither extravagant, nor miserly, but keep the golden mean between the two extremes. (And those) who do not invoke any god but Allah
Alone, nor kill a soul unjustly, which Allah has forbidden, nor commit adultery… He who does this shall
be punished for his sin, and his
torment shall be doubled on the Day of Resurrection, and he shall abide in a state of ignominy; EXCEPT THE ONE WHO MAY HAVE REPENTED (AFTER
THOSE SINS), AND HAVE BELIEVED AND DONE
RIGHTEOUS DEEDS. For then, Allah will change his evil deeds into good
deeds, and He is very Forgiving and
Merciful. In fact, one who repents and does righteous deeds, returns to Allah as one rightly should!
Hadith Qudsi 34
The Messenger of
Allah (saws) said that Allah Tabarak wa Taala says: “O son of Adam, so long as
you call upon Me and ask of Me, I shall forgive you for what you have done, and
I shall not mind. O son of Adam, were
your sins to reach the clouds of the sky, and were you then to ask forgiveness
of Me, I would forgive you. O son of
Adam, were you to come to Me with sins nearly as great as the earth, and were
you then to face Me, ascribing no partner to Me, I would bring you forgiveness
nearly as great as it!”
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2357 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Mas'ud
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "He who
repents of a sin is like him who has committed no sin."
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to
Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only
Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in
Islam,
Burhan
