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Aslamo Alikum.

 

I am very glad to receive your reply for my earlier question regarding sex chat between husband and wife..

 

Sir, my question is clear to some extent but still i need to clarify exactly what i want to ask is that while talking to wife if you reach the stage that you feel that u feel that u have already got your SEMEN out or you need to masturbate...

 

so is this allowed to talk to that extent that you require to pass through above said situation while talking on phone. if yes then after semen is discharged u need to have ghusl (both husband and wife) ...??

 

sir, looking forward to your reply at very earliest.

same is required to make sure that we are in not engaged in any kind of sin...

 

thanking you..

 

your brother..

 

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Answer:

 

Ejaculation while talking

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person,  no grave, no prophet,  no imam,  no dai,  nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

 

Your Question: what i want to ask is that while talking to wife

if you reach the stage that you feel that u feel that u have already got your SEMEN out or you need to masturbate...

so is this allowed to talk to that extent that you require to pass through above said situation while talking on phone.

Although it is highly unlikely that the male semen is ejaculated without physical stimulation, if such a release does happen by itself without physical stimulation while a husband and wife are talking on the phone or net, there is absolutely no harm and no sin either upon the husband or the wife. 

 

But if the person were to physically stimulate himself/herself or masturbate, regardless of whether during conversation or after, then indeed it would be considered a sin.

 

Your Question: if yes then after semen is discharged u need to have ghusl (both husband and wife) ...??

Fiqh-us-Sunnah Fiqh 1.10

Wadi is a thick white secretion discharged (by some people) after urination. It is considered impure.  Aishah said, " Wadi comes out after urination. The person should wash the private parts and perform ablution.  It is not necessary to perform ghusl. This is related by Ibn al-Mundhir.  Ibn 'Abbas related that "mani” (ejaculation or full sexual discharge) requires ghusl.  As for “madhi” (prostatic fluid or initial sexual discharge) and ‘wadi’ they require a complete purification."  This is related by al-Athram.  Al-Baihaqi has it with the wording, "Concerning ‘madhi’ and ‘wadi’, he said, 'Wash your sexual organs and perform the same type of ablution as you perform for prayer."'

 

Other than urine, there are basically three types of discharges that are released from one’s private organs:

1. Wadi (a thick white secretion immediately after uniration by some people)
2. Madhi (a sort of slow release of lubricant just prior to a full sexual discharge)
3. Mani (a full sexual discharge)

 

If only Wadi or Madhi is released, one does not require a ‘ghusl’ or full bath to purify himself; one must wash his private parts and the part of his clothes or body where the ‘wadi’ or ‘madhi’ has touched, do the wudu, and he would be available for prayer.

 

If Mani or full sexual discharge is released, then it becomes absolutely obligatory for the person who has experienced the full discharge to perform a ‘ghusl’ or full bath to purify oneself.

 

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me.  Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

 

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

 

 

 

Burhan