Please let me know whether we can have sex with our wife in the month of Ramadhan or not
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Please let me know whether we can have sex with our wife in the month of
Ramadhan or not
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Sex with wife in Ramadhan
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask
for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever
He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that
there is no one (no idol, no person, no
grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai,
nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah
Baqarah verse 187:
187 Permitted to you on the night of the fasts is the approach to your
wives (for sexual intercourse). They are your garments. And ye are their garments. Allah knows what ye used to do secretly among
yourselves; but He turned to you and forgave you; so now associate with
them (sexual intercourse) and seek what Allah hath ordained for you and
eat and drink until the white thread of dawn appear to you distinct from its
black thread; then complete your fast till the night appears; but do not
associate with your wives while ye are in retreat in the mosques (during
‘itikaaf’). Those are limits
(set by) Allah; approach not nigh thereto.
Thus doth Allah make clear His signs to men that they may learn
self-restraint.
It is absolutely permissible and lawful for a husband and
wife to enjoy conjugal relations with each other during the nights or
non-fasting hours in the month of Ramadan, if they wish to do so. But if is absolutely prohibited and a sin in
Islam to have conjugal relations with one’s wives during the fasting hours or
while one is in the state of ‘itikaaf’ during Ramadan.
Abu Hurairah reported that a man came to the
Messenger of Allah (saws) and said: "I am destroyed, O Messenger of Allah
(saws)!" The Prophet (saws) asked: "What has destroyed
you?" He said, "I had
intercourse with my wife during a day of Ramadan." The Prophet (saws) asked: "Are you able
to free a slave?" He said,
"No". The Prophet (saws) asked: "Is it possible for you to fast
for two consecutive months?" He said, "No." The Prophet (saws)
asked: "Is it possible for you to feed sixty poor people?" He said,
"No." The Prophet (saws) said:
"Then sit." A basket of dates
was brought to the Prophet (saws) and he said to the man: ‘Give this in
charity.’ The man said: "To someone poorer than us? There is no one in
this city who is poorer than us!"
The Prophet (saws) laughed until his molar teeth could be seen and said:
"Go and feed your family with it!"
Related by the Muslim and Bukhari.
If one is unable to control one’s desires for any reason
and were to perform the actual act of sexual intercourse with ones wife while
in the state of fasting, it would indeed be a grave sin in the Sight of
Allah. The atonement for this sin as
prescribed by the Messenger of Allah (saws) is that the person should either
free a slave, or (if he is unable to do that) fast for two consecutive months,
or (if he is unable to do even that) feed sixty poor people! Such is the enormity of the sin and the
atonement of having sexual intercourse with one’s wife while one is in the
state of fasting.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to
Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only
Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan