I`m a non married lady of age 20. there was a person of age 25. who said he will marry me and our family meet and after there talks some problem happen and relation drop now we can`t marry
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Sir,
I`m a non married lady of age 20. there was a person of age 25. who said he
will marry me and our family meet and after there talks some problem happen and
relation drop now we can`t marry. but in this time phrase i did sex with him.
now we both want to Tooba (Mafi) what we have done, how can we do that ?.
what we both should do and secondly will it come under rape but we both had our
wishes.?
he is going to marry another lady next year. will it affect his life?
or
will it affect my life?
Awaiting
for reply.
Thanks
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Answer:
Illegal Sex repent
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask
for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever
He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that
there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam,
no dai, nobody!) worthy of
worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His
slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Your Question: now
we both want to Tooba (Mafi) what we have done, how can we do that?.
Whatever deeds one might have done, if one turns to Allah Subhanah in sincere
Taubah and seeks forgiveness, Allah
Subhanah has promised in the Holy Quran that He will forgive all the sins of
such a believer, even if one has
committed the gravest sin of all: ‘Shirk’!
Not only that, our Lord is so
Merciful and Generous, that He not only
will forgive the sins of the believer,
He will change his evil deeds done into good deeds!
The conditions or ways to seek sincere Taubah or
Repentance from the Merciful Lord are:
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah
Zumur verses 53-54:
(O Prophet) say: “O My servants who have wronged
their own souls….Do not despair of Allah’s Mercy! Surely,
Allah forgives all sins. He indeed
is the All Forgiving, All Merciful. Return to your Lord and submit to Him before
the scourge overtakes you; for then you
may get no help from anywhere.”
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale
Imraan verse 135-136:
Allah likes such good people very much,
who, if ever they commit a base deed or
wrong their own soul by the commission of a sin, remember Allah instantly, and ask for forgiveness from Him for their
shortcomings. For who, but Allah,
can forgive sins? (And Allah loves
those) who do not knowingly persist in the wrongs they did. These will be rewarded with forgiveness from
Allah, and with Gardens beneath which
canals flow, and they will reside
therein forever! How excellent is the
reward of those who do good deeds!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 25 Surah
Furqaan verses 63-71:
The (true) servants of the Merciful are those
who walk humbly on the earth. When the
ignorant people behave insolently towards them,
they say, “Peace to you”; (And
those) who pass their nights in prostrating themselves and standing before
their Lord and pray, “O our Lord, save
us from the torment of Hell, for its
torment is killing! It is an evil
abode, and an evil resting place”. (And those) who, when they spend are neither extravagant, nor miserly,
but keep the golden mean between the two extremes. (And those) who do not invoke any god but
Allah Alone, nor kill a soul
unjustly, which Allah has
forbidden, nor commit adultery… He who
does this shall be punished for his sin,
and his torment shall be doubled on the Day of Resurrection, and he shall abide in a state of
ignominy; EXCEPT THE ONE WHO MAY HAVE
REPENTED (AFTER THOSE SINS), AND HAVE
BELIEVED AND DONE RIGHTEOUS DEEDS. For
then, Allah will change his evil deeds
into good deeds, and He is very
Forgiving and Merciful. In fact, one who repents and does righteous
deeds, returns to Allah as one rightly
should!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah
Anaam verse 54:
When those come to you who believe in Our
Signs, say: "Peace be on you! Your Lord had inscribed for Himself (the rule
of) Mercy. Verily if any of you did evil
in ignorance, and thereafter repented
and amended (his conduct), Lo! He is
Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."
Your Question: will
it come under rape but we both had our wishes.?
The heinous crime of rape would occur when a man forces
the woman to have sexual intercourse with him against her will; but if both the
man and the woman indulge in consensual illegal sexual intercourse it would be
classified as ‘zina’ or fornication, which is also a grave sin in the Sight of
Allah Subhanah.
Your Question: he is
going to marry another lady next year. will it affect his life?
or will it affect my
life?
When one commits any deed, that deed itself may naturally lead
to certain consequences which must be borne by those who commit the deed.
If it be the Will of Allah, He may Will to expose the evil
of the ‘zina’ committed, and the woman may become pregnant as a result…which in
turn would effect their life. Or if it
be His Will, the couple who tried to commit the heinous sin of ‘zina’ in secret
are caught red-handed while in the act, which may effect their reputation and
honor in front of their loved ones and the society they live in for the rest of
their lives. Or it may be that Allah
Subhanah covers their sin from the rest of mankind and gives them the
opportunity to seek sincere repentance from their Lord Most Merciful for their
transgression.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to
Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only
Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in
Islam,
Burhan
