Do we have the right to kiss our husbands in puplic, and if not why...
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Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
do we have the right to kiss our husbands in
puplic, and if not why...
i heard its because it give bad influence to the muslims who r not premitted to
do so yet!!! but if we truely believe, we wont get tempted?!?!??! im
confused!
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Answer:
Kiss husband in public
In the name of Allah, We
praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah
guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide
them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam,
no dai, nobody!) worthy of
worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His
slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Your Question: do we have the right to kiss our husbands
in puplic,
Sahih
Al-Bukhari HadithHadith 1.8 Narrated
byAbu Huraira
The Prophet
said, "’Eeman’ (faith or belief) consists of more than sixty branches; and
‘Haya’ is a part of ‘Eeman’!"
The Arabic term
"Haya" covers a large number of concepts which are to be taken
together in the above context; amongst them are self respect, modesty,
bashfulness, shyness, coyness, scruple, etc.
The physical relation
which Allah Subhanah has made lawful for a husband and a wife to enjoy when
united in the sacred institution of marriage is something that they should do
in their absolute privacy; and not as a show for the public at large to see. For a wife to kiss her husband or for a
husband to kiss a wife in public is against the very nature of ‘haya’ or
bashfulness, and anything that is against the nature of ‘haya’ cannot be
acceptable, permissible or encouraged in the perfect way of life called
Al-Islam.
Whether or not the
lustful kissing of a husband and a wife in public gives a bad influence or
tempts others is debatable; but to put on public display what the very nature
of ‘haya’ or bashfulness dictates should only be done in one’s privacy is not
only against the guidance of Allah and His Messenger (saws), but against the
very etiquette of righteousness which the guidance of Islam upholds and
encourages.
Your Statement: but if we truely believe, we wont get
tempted?!?!??!
Sahih
Al-Bukhari Hadith 3.254 Narrated
by Ali bin Al Husain
The wives
of the Prophet (saws) were with him in the mosque (while he (saws) was in
Itikaf) and then they departed and the Prophet (saws) said to his wife, Safiya
bint Huyai, "Don't hurry up, for I shall accompany you". The Prophet (saws) went out and in the
meantime two Ansari men met him and they looked at the Prophet (saws) and
passed by. The Prophet (saws) said to
them, "Come here. She is (my wife) Safiya bint Huyai." They replied, "Subhan Allah, (How dare
we think of evil) O Allah's Messenger (saws)! (we never expect anything bad
from you)." The Prophet (saws) replied, "The Shaytaan
circulates in the human being as blood circulates in the body, and I was afraid
lest the Shaytaan might insert an evil thought in your minds."
Sahih
Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.609 Narrated
by Ibn Abbas
I did not
see anything so resembling minor sins as what Abu Huraira said from the Prophet
(saws), who said, "Allah has written for the son of Adam his inevitable
share of ‘zina’, whether he is aware of it or not: The ‘zina’ of the eye is the
looking (at something which is sinful to look at), and the ‘zina’ of the tongue
is to utter (what it is unlawful to utter), and the inner self wishes and longs
for (zina) and the private parts turn that into reality or refrain from submitting
to the temptation."
Sahih
Al-Bukhari Hadith 4.95 Narrated by Abu
Said Al Khudri
Allah's Messenger
(saws) ascended the pulpit and said, "Nothing worries me as to what will
happen to you after me, except the temptation of worldly blessings
which will be conferred on you."
My dear and beloved
brother, it is a thorough misconception that if one is a true believer, he will
not be tested or visited by temptations; for the Shaytaan circulates in the
human being just like the blood circulates in one’s body, and it is this
accursed enemy of man who inevitably and tirelessly invites and inspires man
towards temptation! Except for the Noble
Prophets of Allah who are sinless, none is safe from the tests of temptations!
Allah Says in
the Holy Quran Chapter 79 Surah Naziaat verses 34-41:
34 Therefore when there comes the Great Overwhelming (The Day of
Judgment!)
35 The Day when man shall remember (all) that he strove for.
36 And Hell-Fire shall be placed in full view for (all) to see.
37 Then for such as had transgressed all bounds
38 And had preferred the life of this world
39 The Abode will be Hell-Fire;
40 And for such as had entertained the fear of standing before their
Lord's (Tribunal) and had restrained (their) soul from lower desires
41 Their abode will be the Garden.
Beloved brother, the
Promise of Allah’s
If one trusts, obeys,
and follows the guidance and commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of never ever being
misled; but if one believes, obeys and
follows any other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws),
one can be assured of being led astray.
Whatever written of
Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever
of error is of me alone. Allah Alone
Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,
