My problem is that often some thing negative comes in my mind for eg: About sex only. Then my organ becomes erect and some sticky substance of 2-3 drops comes out. I want to clear that is this a sperm. We have to take bath after this happens.
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Assalamalaikum,
I'm working in Saudi Arabia. My problem is that often some thing negative comes
in my mind for eg: About sex only.
Then my organ
becomes erect and some sticky substance of 2-3 drops comes out. I want to
clear that is this a sperm. We have to take bath after this happens. Before I
use to masturbate a lot, while seeing sex movies, or seeing nude photos of
magazines. I studied in a residential college away some 500 kms
from my house. And when I'm in college some friends of mine masturbate my organ
by rubbing my organ with their hands. I feel very nice at that time. I know
this is haram all these things in Islam but the
complete surroundings with this bad habits and complete domination of different
religions. Muslims are very few. I think only 1%. But after coming to
I heard that after every 40 days sperms gets ejaculated. But before I used to
masturbate, I didn't recognize it. But now after passing 50-55 days also I
didn't get the ejaculation completely but only 3-4 drops of sticky substance
comes out that to when I think about sex or think about the affair with my
previous girl friend or think about the couples that got married and how they
make love. By promise I had never had an intercourse with any one or with my
girl friend in my life. Listen, I want to clear everything and I want to get
rid of all these bullshit things.
Please don't take me wrong. I feel ashamed to talk all this with Imam or ulama. I'm Muslim and having the complete knowledge of
Islam also. I used to pray 5 times and read QURAN also. Please tell me that if
3-4 drops comes out then we have to take bath or just get cleaning the organ
and washed the area completely under the belly with fresh water.
I had stopped masturbating but sometimes when I went to sleep something comes
in mind about sex and then I lay down organ touching a bed and start rubbing my
organ with bed or sometimes with a pillow. I never use hand while rubbing. And
ejaculation happens. So, I want to know this is also masturbating. I do this if
only when 40 days completes and after that also ejaculation never comes. Please
tell me ejaculation comes very soon. I don't want to ejaculate so soon.
I want to get rid with all these things but still some semi-nude pictures I used
to have a glance. After seeing I get realize the thing
what I had done is
wrong. What shall I do? Often I used to think about sex and used to think that
I'm doing sex with some female. Please tell me how to avoid this bad habit. I
want to become a nice guy. Sometimes I feel ashamed of my self why I'm living
in this world.
This is very
important email. I want to get rid of all these bullshit things. I'm from a
well-educated and respectable family. In my family I
only become like this due to study in a residential college and bad company of
my friends.
Please brother
mail me as soon as possible. Allah taala will give u
ajar for this.
Answer:
In the name of Allah, We praise Him,
seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can
misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We
bear witness that there is no one (no idol,
no person, no grave, no
prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone,
and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of
His Messengers.
Your Question: My problem is that often some thing negative
comes in my mind for eg: About sex only. Then my
organ becomes erect and some sticky substance of 2-3 drops comes out. I
want to clear that is this a sperm. We have to take bath after this happens.
There are two types of liquids
which come out of the male organ when he is sexually aroused. The few drops
that initially come out are called ‘madhi’, and the
full ejaculation is called ‘mani’. Another way to recognize the difference if
one has released ‘madhi’ or ‘mani’
is: When ‘madhi’ is released, the sexual arousal is
increased, and when ‘mani’ or full ejaculation is
released, the sexual arousal comes to an end.
Thus, in the case that you have
described above, it is evident that the sticky substance of
2-3 drops of liquid are ‘madhi’. One does not have to take a full bath after
‘madhi’ to purify himself;
if he simply washes his private parts and all the places where this ‘madhi’ might have touched, he will be considered pure and
the full ‘ghusl’ or bath is not obligatory on him.
In the case of full ejaculation
or ‘mani’, a full ‘ghusl’
is obligatory to purify oneself.
Your Statement: I heard that after every 40 days sperms gets
ejaculated.
It has not been scientifically
proven that every male ejaculates automatically every 40 days, or in any number
of days. This all depends on the
individual, and varies considerably with each person.
Your Statement: Please don't take me wrong. I feel ashamed to
talk all this with Imam or ulama.
Dear Brother, Islam is a
Your Question: I had stopped masturbating but sometimes when
I went to sleep something comes in mind about sex and then I lay down organ
touching a bed and start rubbing my organ with bed or sometimes with a pillow.
I never use hand while rubbing. And ejaculation happens. So, I want to know
this is also masturbating. I do this if only when 40 days completes and after
that also ejaculation never comes. Please tell me ejaculation comes very soon.
I don't want to ejaculate so soon.
If you are awake and in full
senses, and rub your organ against the bed, or pillow, or anything else whilst
you have full control over your actions… it will all be considered
masturbation… which is a sin in Islam.
But if you are asleep, and have
a ‘wet-dream’; that is something beyond your control, and thus there is no sin
in that. Both ways, it will be
obligatory on the brother to have a full bath or ‘ghusl’
to purify himself.
Your Question: I want to get rid with all these things but
still some semi-nude pictures I used to have a glance. After seeing I get realize
the thing what I had done is wrong. What shall I do? Often I used to think
about sex and used to think that I'm doing sex with some female. Please tell me
how to avoid this bad habit. I want to become a nice guy. Sometimes I feel
ashamed of my self why I'm living in this world.
The act of masturbation is
prohibited in Islam, and must be avoided by the believers. But just to put it into perspective, the sin
of masturbation is not as grave as the sin of ‘zina’
(adultery or fornication). But it definitely
is a sin, and an evil act, and must be avoided by the believers.
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter24 Surah Noor verse 30:O Prophet, enjoin
the believing men to restrain their gaze, and guard their private parts. This
is a more righteous way for them. Allah
has knowledge of whatever they do.
Allah has commanded the
believers to lower their gaze, and guard their chastity. This is a more righteous way for them. The act of ‘zina’
(fornication or adultery) is a great sin in Islam. The Prophet(saws)
warned us against committing ‘zina’ of the eyes, ‘zina’ of the feet, ‘zina’ of the
hands, etc. If one’s eyes are
constantly watching sexual movies, magazines, etc. it would be
considered ‘zina’ of the eyes. If one goes to the place to commit ‘zina’ or to the place of sexual movies, magazines, etc., it
would be considered ‘zina’ of the feet. Similarly,
the act of masturbation, could be considered a ‘zina’ of the eyes, or hands, etc. It is a sin and an evil act, and must be
avoided by the believers.
It has been
reported in an authentic narration, that the Messenger of Allah (saws) said,
"O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it
helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty; and whoever is not able to
marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power."
Thus if one is unable to control
his sexual desire, he should get married, rather than get involved in
committing sins like masturbation and ‘zina’
(fornication or adultery). And if one
is unable to marry, he should fast, as the Messenger of Allah (saws) says, that
fasting reduces the person’s sexual desire, and thus will stay away from
committing sin.
Whatever one might have done in
the past, Allah’s door of Taubah and Repentance is
always open, until the hour of death approaches the person. All one has to do to wipe out all his
previous sins is turn to Allah in sincere repentance and Taubah,
and make a solemn covenant with Allah that he will never repeat the sin again…
and then, strive to keep his word. The
Merciful Lord, if He Wills, will forgive all the
previous sins.
It is reported in
an authentic narration that the Messenger of Allah (saws) said: “All the Children of Adam are sinners; and
the best of these sinners is the one who asks (Allah) for forgiveness!”
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verses 17-18:Note it well
that Allah’s acceptance of repentance is for those people only, who commit an
evil in ignorance, and then repent of it soon after. Allah again turns kindly to such people, for
Allah is All Knowing, All Wise. But
there is no repentance for those people who persist in their evil deeds until
the dying hour comes to anyone of them; then he says, “Now I repent!.” Nor is
repentance for them who die as unbelievers.
For such people, We have prepared a painful torment.
Whatever written of Truth and
benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error
is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He
is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,
