Ask forgiveness from girl
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa
Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
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this question:
Salaam Brothers, I would like to remain
anonymous. and please do not disclose any of my details online.
My question is, I have known a girl for 3
years, and have asked her to marry me, and advised her i will go to her
parents, but she seems reluctant. Now i have cut all relations with her and
made taubah. I would like to know, whether i Have to ask her for any
forgiveness, for having this unlawful relationship, or will my taubah be
accpted by allah swt. ?As i have I have stated to her that it cannot go on like
this.
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Answer:
Ask forgiveness from girl
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask
for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever
He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that
there is no one (no idol, no person, no
grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai,
nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
If you have accused her of something which she did not do,
or have taken something from her which you are unable to return back to her,
etc. then indeed it would be a better form of repentance to seek the
forgiveness of the person.
But if you wish to break the relationship because you do
not see a future in it, or she does not wish to develop the relationship into
marriage, there is absolutely no need to speak to her again on the matter or
seek her forgiveness. The seeking of
your repentance and forgiveness directly from your Merciful Lord and Creator
would suffice.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah
Zumur verses 53-54: (O Prophet) say: “O My servants who have wronged their own
souls….Do not despair of Allah’s Mercy!
Surely, Allah forgives all
sins. He indeed is the All
Forgiving, All Merciful. Return to your Lord and submit to Him before
the scourge overtakes you; for then you
may get no help from anywhere.”
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah
Anaam verse 54: When those come to you who believe in Our Signs, say: "Peace be on you! Your Lord had inscribed for Himself (the rule
of) Mercy. Verily if any of you did evil
in ignorance, and thereafter repented
and amended (his conduct), Lo! He is
Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale
Imraan verse 135-136: Allah likes such good people very much, who, if ever they commit a base deed or wrong
their own soul by the commission of a sin,
remember Allah instantly, and ask
for forgiveness from Him for their shortcomings. For who,
but Allah, can forgive sins? (And Allah loves those) who do not knowingly
persist in the wrongs they did. These
will be rewarded with forgiveness from Allah,
and with Gardens beneath which canals flow, and they will reside therein forever! How excellent is the reward of those who do
good deeds!
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to
Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only
Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,
Burhan