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Salaam Brothers, I would like to remain anonymous. and please do not disclose any of my details online.

 

My question is, I have known a girl for 3 years, and have asked her to marry me, and advised her i will go to her parents, but she seems reluctant. Now i have cut all relations with her and made taubah. I would like to know, whether i Have to ask her for any forgiveness, for having this unlawful relationship, or will my taubah be accpted by allah swt. ?As i have I have stated to her that it cannot go on like this. 

 

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Answer:

 

Ask forgiveness from girl

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person,  no grave, no prophet,  no imam,  no dai,  nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

 

If you have accused her of something which she did not do, or have taken something from her which you are unable to return back to her, etc. then indeed it would be a better form of repentance to seek the forgiveness of the person.

 

But if you wish to break the relationship because you do not see a future in it, or she does not wish to develop the relationship into marriage, there is absolutely no need to speak to her again on the matter or seek her forgiveness.  The seeking of your repentance and forgiveness directly from your Merciful Lord and Creator would suffice.

 

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah Zumur verses 53-54: (O Prophet) say: “O My servants who have wronged their own souls….Do not despair of Allah’s Mercy!  Surely,  Allah forgives all sins.   He indeed is the All Forgiving,  All Merciful.   Return to your Lord and submit to Him before the scourge overtakes you;  for then you may get no help from anywhere.”

 

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam verse 54: When those come to you who believe in Our Signs,  say: "Peace be on you!  Your Lord had inscribed for Himself (the rule of) Mercy.  Verily if any of you did evil in ignorance,  and thereafter repented and amended (his conduct),  Lo! He is Oft-Forgiving,  Most Merciful."

 

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan verse 135-136: Allah likes such good people very much, who,  if ever they commit a base deed or wrong their own soul by the commission of a sin,  remember Allah instantly,  and ask for forgiveness from Him for their shortcomings.  For who,  but Allah,  can forgive sins?   (And Allah loves those) who do not knowingly persist in the wrongs they did.   These will be rewarded with forgiveness from Allah,  and with Gardens beneath which canals flow,  and they will reside therein forever!   How excellent is the reward of those who do good deeds!

 

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me.  Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

 

Your Brother in Islam,

 

 

Burhan