Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,

As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.  (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)

 

One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

In case of Divorce, do children stay with their father ? Looking at mother`s love for her children, how can mother be deprived of her children ? More so because father cannot provide the time, attention and love of a mother. 

 

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Answer:

 

Custody of children divorce

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person,  no grave, no prophet,  no imam,  no dai,  nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

 

In the unfortunate event of a divorce in Islam, the Shariah Law states that all children will remain in the custody of the mother until they reach the age of understanding and puberty; and it will be the responsibility of the father to provide the financial means for their upkeep.

 

Once the children reach the age of understanding, the father has a right to move the Shariah Court if he wishes to gain custody of the children.  The Shariah Court Judge will then ask the children whom they wish to live with; their mother or their father; and whatever decision made by the children will be enforced by the Shariah Judge.  The decision who gains the custody of the children in a divorce neither rests with the mother, the father or the Shariah Court Judge; but Allah Subhanah has placed this right of decision in the hands of the children.  The Shariah Court Judge will only enforce the decision of the children, and give the parent who lost the custody fair visitation rights.

 

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me.  Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

 

Your Brother in Islam,

 

 

Burhan