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Dear Brother Assalamu alekum

 

First of all I would like to thank you for your precious and valuable services to Ummah of Islam for providing the excellant information about Islam. My Question is as follow:

 

My wife is always talking bad about my parrents and some time she is cursing who of my family because of their attitude which I feel from Heart very bad and I hate these things. I am always in tension because of this, I tried my best to convience her but failed and still she is doing the same. What should I do as Husband and son of my parrents. Please send your valuable advise on my E-mail address. Allah will reward you.

 

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Answer:

 

Wife cursing parents

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person,  no grave, no prophet,  no imam,  no dai,  nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

 

May Allah Subhanah reward you with the best of this world and the Hereafter for your kind comments of encouragement for our humble efforts in the propagation of the Truth.    If our humble and modest efforts have helped even one brother or sister get closer to Allah and His Deen of Truth, then we would consider ourselves indeed fortunate to have been given this opportunity by the Lord Most Merciful to serve in His Cause.  We hope,  beg,  and pray the Merciful Lord  accepts our humble and weak efforts,  forgives us our shortcomings,  and saves you, us,  and all the believers from the torment of the Hell Fire.  Ameen.

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 34: Men are the protectors and maintainers of women because Allah has given the one more than the other and because they support them from their means.  Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husband's) absence what Allah would have them guard.

 

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.4  Narrated by Abdullah bin Amr

Allah's Messenger (saws) said. "It is one of the greatest sins that one should curse his parents."  It was asked (by the people), "O Allah's Messenger (saws)! How does one curse his parents?"  The Prophet (saws) said, "It happens whon one abuses the father of another, and the latter abuses the father and mother of the former.”

 

It would be absolutely unacceptable for a believing woman, who sincerely believes in Allah and the Last Day, to curse or revile the parents of anyone, leave alone the parents of her own husband!  Such behavior should be absolutely unacceptable to the self-respect of any righteous man.

 

One should first and foremost talk to the wife with patience and wisdom to stop her from this evil habit; and if there is no improvement he should abstain from sharing the bed with her in his effort to manifest his severe disapproval of her evil habit.  If even after this there is no improvement, then he should first threaten her with divorce, and if even then she does not stop, then the only righteous step to take would be to actually divorce and separate from such a person who reviles and rebukes one’s parents.  It should be absolutely and utterly unacceptable for the self-respect of any believer that he allow his wife to revile and rebuke his parents in any way!  If the man does divorce his wife under these circumstances, there would be no sin upon him.

 

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me.  Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

 

Your Brother in Islam,

 

 

Burhan