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Mu' meneen Brothers and
Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa
Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be
upon all of you)
One of our
brothers/sisters has asked this question:
Dear brother Burhan,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.
does this come under the topic of masturbation if there is foreplay by using
hands to touch and message each others (ie husband and wife) sexual organs before actual intercourse. Please give
evidence from sunnah
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Answer:
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In
the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for
His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He
allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there
is no one (no idol, no person, no grave,
no prophet, no imam, no dai,
nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 222:
They ask you about the (women’s) monthly courses. Say, “It is a state of impurity; so keep apart from the women during their
monthly courses and do not approach them until they are clean. When they have cleansed themselves, then you may go to them in the manner
ordained for you by Allah. Most surely
Allah loves those people who refrain from evil and keep themselves pure and
clean.
There is absolutely no ‘purdah’ or veil between the husband and the wife in Islam. They may touch, play, fondle, massage, etc. each other wherever they wish, including their sexual organs, before and/or after their intercourse. If in the course of touching and massaging each other, even if one or both of them has an orgasm, it would be perfectly legal and acceptable in Islam.
The Messenger of Allah (saws) said, "Do everything
(during the woman’s menstruation) except intercourse." (Related by
Muslim, Tirmidhi, Abu Dawood)
The only
things Allah and His Messenger have forbidden in a sexual relationship between
husband and wife is:
Some
scholars have also voiced their opinion against touching either of the
partner’s sex organs with the mouth (oral-sex). But because nothing is mentioned in the
Quran and Sunnah about this specific topic,
the scholars have not said it is forbidden… The most some have said is
that one should fear Allah and stay away from this act as it is considered
impure, unclean and unhealthy.
Other
than this, the husband and wife have all
the liberty with regarding to sex in their relationship.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,
Burhan