Why marry if one can fulfill need by masturbation?
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum
wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.
(May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has
asked this question:
Respected Burhan Bhai As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi
wa Barakatuh I sent you a
question in last June but till date I did not get any reply so I am again
sending the question which is as follows.What is the
logic that in Islam Self masturbation is prohibited
while the medical science describe Masturbation a normal phenomenon such as
breathing eating etc. Now I would like to write my question in details .I have
two elder brothers both are married Take the case of my elder brother his
wife want that he should stop meeting his family members ( including parents )
for ever .Take the case of my second brother when he forget to bring some thing
such as cosmetics etc his wife goes to her parents house in protest and the
result my brother get tensed and now take my case I am earning well that I can
easily marry but I am scared even from the name of marriage as I think if I married
I am also going to face same problems as my brothers are facing now .I am
25 year old and frankly speaking I too have sexual desire which I fulfill by masturbating
.When I can fulfill my sexual urge by Masturbating what is the need of marriage
for me , as Masturbation keeps me free from mental tensions which my
brothers are facing .Reply soon.
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Answer:
Why marry if one can fulfill need
by masturbation?
In the
name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness.
Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray,
none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no
person, no grave, no prophet, no imam,
no dai,
nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
The act
of masturbation is strictly prohibited in Islam, and must be avoided by the
believers.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter24 Surah Noor verse 30: O Prophet, enjoin the
believing men to restrain their gaze,
and guard their private parts.
This is a more righteous way for them.
Allah has knowledge of whatever they do.
Allah has
commanded the believers to lower their gaze, and guard their chastity. This is a more righteous way for them. The Prophet (saws) warned us against
committing ‘zina’ of the eyes, ‘zina’ of
the feet, ‘zina’
of the hands, etc. If one’s eyes are
constantly watching sexual movies, magazines, etc., it would be considered ‘zina’ of the eyes. If one goes to the place to commit ‘zina’ or to the place of sexual movies, magazines, etc., it
would be considered ‘zina’ of the feet. Similarly, the act of masturbation, could be considered a ‘zina’
of the eyes, or hands, etc. It is a sin and
an evil act, and
must be avoided by the believers.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 3.129 Narrated
by Alqama
While I was walking with Abdullah he said, "We were in the
company of the Prophet (saws) and he (saws) said, 'He who can afford to marry
should marry, because it will help him refrain from looking at other women, and
save his private parts from committing illegal sexual relation; and he
who cannot afford to marry is advised to fast, as fasting will diminish his
sexual power.' "
Your Question: When I
can fulfill my sexual urge by Masturbating what is the need of marriage for me , as Masturbation keeps me free from mental
tensions which my brothers are facing
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith
3096 Narrated by Anas ibn Malik
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "When a man marries, he has
fulfilled half of the religion; so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining
half."
Beloved
brother, it would not be intelligence, nor considered righteous in the sight of
Allah Subhanah, nor natural, if one is able to get married, but
chooses not to follow this Sunnah simply because one
is able to fulfill his natural physical needs through illegal channels of
satisfactions! If every man in the
world followed this chain of thought, there would soon come a time when the
human race would become extinct; and if your father and my father followed this
procedure, neither you nor me would come into
existence!
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 23 Surah Muminoon verses 1-7:
1 The Believers must (eventually) win through.
2 Those who humble themselves in their
prayers;
3 Who avoid vain talk;
4 Who are active in deeds of charity;
5 Who abstain from sex
6 Except with those joined to them in the marriage bond, or (the
captives) whom their right hands possess; for (in their case) they are free
from blame.
7 But those whose desires
exceed those limits, are transgressors
If one
tries to fulfill his natural sexual desires out of the bonds of legal marriage,
they will indeed be deemed transgressors in the sight of Allah Subhanah, and will be called upon to give a full account of
their transgression in the Just Court of Allah Subhanah
on an Inevitable Day.
Fulfilling
ones natural and legal sexual desires is only a part of the institution and
sacred bond of marriage, and a recommended Sunnah of
the Messenger of Allah (saws); so much so, that the Messenger of Allah (saws)
said that the man who has married has fulfilled half of his deen!
Rather
than abstaining from following the Sunnah and
marrying, and fearing that the same will befall you what befell your brothers
in marriage; it would be best and righteous to take the advice of the Messenger
of Allah (saws) and seek the right woman in marriage.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.27 Narrated
by Abu Huraira
The Prophet (saws) said, "A woman is married for four
things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So
you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."
Whatever
written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance,
and whatever of error is of me. Allah
Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your
Brother in Islam,
Burhan