Leave wife if parents order
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SalamAlaikum,Respected
Brother.
Is it an authentic
narration ( Hadith ) that one should leave one`s wife and children if one`s
Parents order to do so ?? i came across this Hadith few days back , just wanted
to know whether it is in Bokhari and Muslim ??
Please reply ASAP.
Jazak Allah.
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Answer:
Leave wife if parents order
In the name of Allah, We praise
Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none
can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright.
We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam,
no dai, nobody!) worthy of
worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His
slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Sahih Al-Bukhari
Hadith 4.583 (part) Narrated by
Ibn Abbas
After Ismael's
mother (Hajra) had died, Prophet
Ibraheem (a.s.) came after Ismael's marriage in order to see his family that he
had left before, but he did not find Ismael there. When he asked Ismael's wife about him, she replied, 'He has gone
in search of our livelihood.' Then he
asked her about their way of living and their condition, and she replied, 'We
are living in misery; we are living in hardship and destitution,' complaining
to him. He said, 'When your husband
returns, convey my salutation to him and tell him to change the threshold of
the gate (of his house).' When Ismael
came, he seemed to have felt something unusual, so he asked his wife, 'Has
anyone visited you?' She replied, 'Yes,
an old man of so-and-so description came and asked me about you and I informed
him, and he asked about our state of living, and I told him that we were living
in a hardship and poverty.' On that
Ishmael said, 'Did he advise you anything?' She replied, 'Yes, he told me to
convey his salutation to you and to tell you to change the threshold of your gate.' Ismael said, 'It was my father, and he has
ordered me to divorce you. Go back to your family.' So, Ismael divorced her and married another woman from amongst
them (i.e. Jurhum).
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith
4940 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Umar
I had a wife whom I
loved but whom my father, Umar disliked. He told me to divorce her and when I
refused, Umar went to Allah's Messenger
(saws) and mentioned the matter to him.
Allah's Messenger (saws) then told me to divorce her.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith
4928 Narrated by Abud Darda
When a man came to
him and said, "I have a wife whom my mother commands me to divorce,"
he replied to him that he had heard Allah's Messenger (saws) say, "A parent is the best of the gates of
Paradise; so if you wish, keep to the gate, or lose it."
There are indeed several
authentic narrations, whereby the
Messenger of Allah (saws) recommended that the husband divorce his wife because
the parents of the husband had commanded their son to do so.
But one must try to understand
the state of the believing and pious parents like Prophet Ibraheem (a.s.) and
Hadrat Umar (r.a.), for it is
inconceivable that they would advise their children to divorce their wives for
trivial or petty reasons.
If a parent is God-fearing and
pious, and commands their children to divorce their wives because of a valid
reason in the deen, then they should be
obeyed. But if the parents command
their children to divorce their righteous wives for petty reasons like money,
or caste, or looks, or color, etc.;
then there is no sin on the son if he does not obey them in this matter.
Whatever written of Truth and
benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error
is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He
is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in
Islam,
