Limitations of Sex in Islam
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were forwarded to me by a brother and i have been unable to come up with proper
answers. please shed some light on them. JazakAllah Khair. Omer "1- Please
let me know that what are the limits of sexual relations in a married life
between both partners ? 2- Can husband kiss and suck the breasts of his wife ?
3- Is it fair to kiss & lick the secret part ( vagina/pussy) of the wife ? 4-
Can a husband offer his wife to suck his penis ? 5- Can a husband suck &
drink milk of his wife after her pregnancy ?"
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Answer:
In the name of Allah, We praise
Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none
can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright.
We bear witness that there is no one (no idol,
no person, no grave, no
prophet, no imam, no dai,
nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Your question:
Please let me know that what are the limits of sexual relations in a married
life between both partners?
What we can do for you here,
without going into too much detail, is list the few things that are
forbidden. As is the principle with
the concept of haraam in Islam, everything that which is not listed as haraam
is considered legal for the believers.
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 222:They ask you about the (women’s) monthly
courses. Say, “It is a state of
impurity; so keep apart from the women during their monthly courses and do not
approach them until they are clean.
When they have cleansed themselves, then you may go to them in the
manner ordained for you by Allah.
Most surely Allah loves those people who refrain from evil and keep
themselves pure and clean.
The things which Allah and His
Messenger have specifically forbidden in a sexual relationship between husband
and wife is:
Anal sex.
Having sexual intercourse with
the wife during her menses.
Some scholars have also voiced
their opinion against touching either of the partner’s sex organs with the
mouth. But because nothing is
mentioned in the Quran and Sunnah, the scholars have not said it is forbidden…
The most they have said is that one should fear Allah and stay away from this
act as it is considered impure, unclean and unhealthy, and thus disliked.
Other than this, the husband and
wife have all the liberty with regarding to sex in their relationship.
Rather than list all the things
which are allowed, we will try to clear a few misconception which are commonly
held. If other than these, you have any
particular questions or doubts regarding the sexual relationship between
husband and wife, you are welcome to
write back to us, and we will try our
best to answer them to the best of our ability.
Please note again, that other than the above three things
mentioned as forbidden, the partners
have all the liberty in regards to sex.
There is absolutely no
restriction regarding positions… lying down, sitting, standing, whatever.
There is no ‘purdah’ or veil
between the husband and wife in Islam.
Touching all parts of the body
is legal.
When the women is in her menses
period, only her ‘private’ part is not to be touched or entered, and should be
kept covered. Other than that, the
partners are free to enjoy their relationship during this period.
There is absolutely no
restriction in Islam for the husband to touch, fondle, kiss, suck, etc. the
breasts of his wife, if he wishes to do
so.
Your question: Is it fair to kiss & lick the secret part (
vagina/pussy) of the wife ?
Your question: Can a
husband offer his wife to suck his penis ?
Although this act is not in the
list of the prohibited in Islam, almost all the scholars in Islam are unanimous
that the sexual organs of the male and female are unlean, unhealthy, and
impure, and should not be touched with the mouth of the believing man and
woman. The scholars are of the opinion
that there is absolutely no restrictions in touching the organs with the hands,
but the mouth, wherewith a believer recites the Quran and does the Dhikr or
remembrance of Allah Subhanah, must not be subjugated to such unclean
places.
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 7 Surah Aaraat verse 157:(So, now mercy has been assigned to
those) who follow this Messenger, the Gentile Prophet, whose mention they shall
find in the Torah and the Gospel with them.
He enjoins them to do good and forbids them from evil; he makes
pure things lawful for them and impure things unlawful; he relieves
them of their burdens and frees them from the shackles (of rites and rituals)
that bound them. For this reason,
those alone who believe in him, support him, succour him, and follow the Light
that has been sent down with him shall attain true ‘success’.
We definitely cannot say it is
haraam, because this specific act is not included in the list of haraam or
forbidden things in sex by Allah and His Messenger (saws). The most one can say is that it is unclean,
impure, unhealthy and thus disliked, and if one wants to stay pure on his
faith, he should try and abstain from it.
There is no harm if the husband
(accidentally) drinks the milk of his wife after her pregnancy. Although, in Islam, if one drinks the milk
of a woman, that woman becomes illegal for him to marry…. But the scholars of
Islam are unanimous in their opinion, that this condition only applies if one
drinks the milk of a woman like his mother, or another woman, in his infancy
and childhood … and not when he is an adult.
Whatever written of Truth and
benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error
is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He
is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in
Islam,
