Questions on Sex 2

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(1) During fasting sexual intercourse is Haram, it isclearly mentioned in Quran, there is no doubt. but I want to know can we sleep with our husband during fast, can kiss each other, If my husband fondle or press my breast or I touches his organ then there is any affect in our Fast.

(2) Can We slept together complete naked embracing each other whole night and put bed sheet on us.

(3) My husband fingering my xxxx (private part), and I got ejaculation, are it is forbidden, and if we do so can ghusul is obligatory on me.

(4) Once my husband offered me his penis to suck, for his pleasure I sucked, then he ejaculated in my mouth, little of semen I swallowed, can it is forbidden.  If he offer me again what can I do, I don't want to make him angry. Pls advice, if I do so and if

it is sin , the sin on me or my husband.

(5) Sometimes I masturbate my husband Organ, and he got ejaculate, some drops of semen will fall on my dress, is semen is unclear, can I make prayer on the same dress without washing.

(5) We are living in S/Arabia in single bedroom flight with our child who is 1 year old, we use to have intercourse after his sleep, sometimes he will awake when we are busy in intercourse, then what we can do, it is haram or any unpleasing work.

(7) sometime my husban making love with me infront of our son (not intercourse) only kissing and fondling pressing and kissing the breast, if I ask him not to do, then he will tell I will get another time to make love with you.  Sometime he offers me his penis for play to fondle etc, this act will not seen by our child, my husband playing with my child on his chest and I am playing with his penis from bottom, is it is Haram.

(8) When I was pregnant my husband clear the hair of my secret parts, at that time I was not able to do it properly due to my stomach. Now also he asking to do so, can I accept his offer, and he also asking me to clear his hair of private parts too.

(9) If we take bath together in bathroom, it permissible and during bath if my husband have intercourse in standing position in bath room there is any harm.

(10) Last question is when I in my period, my husband use to play with my buttocks and and anus hole with finger and rubbing his penis over my anus hole (not Putting inside) and ejaculating. Is this haram.

Sorry for taking your precious time, pls reply me numberwise and clear my doubts in your earliest.  Pls don't misunderstand me, I told you what are fact.

 

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Questions on Sex 2

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol,  no person,  no grave, no prophet,  no imam,  no dai,  nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

 

Your Statement:  May Almighty Allah bestowed His Blessing upon you, realy you are rendering a great service to help brothers & sisters to clear their doubts.

May Allah Subhanah reward you with the best of this world and the Hereafter for your kind comments of encouragement for our humble efforts in the propagation of the Truth.    We humbly hope,  beg,  and pray the Merciful Lord  accept our humble and weak efforts,  forgive us our shortcomings,  and save you, us,  and all the believers from the torment of the Hell Fire.  Ameen.

 

Q-(1):  During fasting sexual intercourse is Haram, it is clearly mentioned

in  Quran, there is no doubt.  but I want to know can we sleep with our husband during fast, can kiss each other, If my husband fondle or press my breast or I touches his organ then there is any affect in our Fast.

There is absolutely no harm if a husband and wife sleep together when fasting,  or they kiss each other,  of the husband fondles or presses the breast of his wife,  of his wife touches the private part of the husband;  these things do not invalidate the fast.

What does invalidate the fast is if something is released from the private parts of the man or the woman,  or man and woman actually engage themselves in intercourse.   Thus if one is unable to control him/her self,  they should abstain from this act while fasting,  as there is always a fear that in such situations one may lose control and thus may engage in actual sexual intercourse,  or something might be released from the private parts due to arousal.

 

But if one has control over his/her self, the deeds that you have listed by themselves do not invalidate the fast in any way.

 

Q-(2):  Can We slept together complete naked embracing each other  whole night and put bed sheet on us.

There is absolutely no veil or purdah between the sacred relationship of a husband and a wife in Islam.   It is absolutely permissible for a husband and a wife to sleep,  stand,  sit,  or do whatever they wish whole night or whole day,  with or without a bed-sheet or any covering!  

 

(3) My husband fingering my xxxx (private part), and I got ejaculation, are it is forbidden, and if we do so can ghusul is obligatory on me.

There is absolutely no harm for the husband to touch or play with the private parts of his wife,  or for the wife to touch or play with the private parts of her husband.  

 

If this results in an ejaculation for the husband,  the ghusl is obligatory on him;  and if this results in an ejaculation for the wife,  the ghusl is obligatory on her.

 

Q-(4) : Once my husband offered me his penis to suck, for his pleasure I sucked, then he ejaculated in my mouth, little of semen I swallowed, can it is forbidden.  If he offer me again what can I do, I don't  want to make him angry. Pls advice, if I do so and if it is sin , the sin on me or my husband.

The Quran and Sunnah are silent on this issue,  and no one asked the Prophet(saws) about this issue,  nor did he ever mention anything about it.   Thus one cannot say it is ‘haraam’.    And because this act is a later development and deviation of man, we have to rely on the jurists amongst the scholars for an opinion.

The scholars are almost unanimous in their opinion,  that this act of ‘blow-job’ is un-natural, unclean and impure,  and thus closer to the forbidden in Islam.  Some scholars have also termed it absolutely forbidden.

 

The Messenger of Allah(saws) said that in Islam, “The ‘halaal’ is evident,  and the ‘haraam’ is also evident.  Between the ‘halaal’ and the ‘haraam’ there are some gray matters,  and anyone who also stays away from these gray matters,  has indeed purified his soul.”

 

Q-(5):  Sometimes I masturbate my husband Organ, and he got ejaculate, some drops of semen will fall on my dress, is semen is unclear, can I make prayer on the same dress without washing.

Sahih Muslim Hadith 566      Narrated byAisha

A person stayed in the house of Aisha and in the morning began to wash his garment. Aisha said: “In case you saw it (i.e. drop of semen), it would have served the purpose (of purifying the garment) if you had simply washed that spot;  and in case you did not see it, it would have been enough to sprinkle water around it, for when I saw that on the garment of the Messenger of Allah (saws), I simply scraped it off and he offered prayer, while putting that on.”

 

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 1.229         Narrated by Aisha

I used to wash the traces of Janaba (semen) from the clothes of the Prophet (saws),  and he used to go for prayers while traces of water were still on it (water spots were still visible).

 

In light of the above narrations from Hadrat Aisha (r.a.),  it would suffice if you could wash the places where the semen has fallen,  and be available for prayer.   If the semen has dried,  there is no harm in scraping the semen with the nails.

 

Sahih Muslim Hadith 572      Narrated by Aisha

Abdullah ibn Shihab al-Khawlani reported: I stayed in the house of Aisha and had a wet dream (and perceived its effect on my garment), so (in the morning) I dipped both (the clothes) in water. This (act of mine) was watched by a maid-servant of Aisha and she informed her. She (Aisha) sent me a message:  “What prompted you to act like this with your clothes?”  He (the narrator) said: “I told that I saw in a dream what a sleeper sees.”  She said: “Did you find (any mark of the fluid) on your clothes?”  I said: “No.”  She said: “Had you found anything you should have washed it. In case I found that (semen) on the garment of the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) dried up, I scraped it off with my nails.”

 

Q-(6):  We are living in S/Arabia in single bedroom flight with our child who is 1 year old, we use to have intercourse after his sleep, sometimes he will awake when we are busy in intercourse, then what we  can do, it is haram or any unpleasing work.

There is absolutely no harm or sin if a husband and wife engage in sexual intercourse in presence of a new-born or infant who has not reached the age of recognition.   But it would be prudent and purer to apply common-sense and abstain from engaging in sexual intercourse in front of a child above recognition age (about 12 months).

 

Q-(7):  sometime my husban making love with me infront of our son (not intercourse) only kissing and fondling pressing and kissing the breast, if I ask him not to do, then he will tell I will get another time to make love with you.  Sometime he offers me his penis for play to fondle etc, this act will not seen by our child, my husband playing with my child on his chest and I am playing with his penis from bottom, is it is Haram.

There is absolutely no harm or sin in the husband playing sexually with the wife in the presence of a new-born or infant who has not reached the age of recognition,  especially if he cannot see, or understand,  or wonder what is happening.

 

Q-(8):  When I was pregnant my husband clear the hair of my secret parts,

At that time I was not able to do it properly due to my stomach. Now also he asking to do so, can I accept his offer, and he also asking me to clear his hair of private parts too.

There is absolutely no veil or hijaab between a husband and a wife in the sacred relationship of marriage.   There is absolutely no harm or sin if the husband clears the unwanted hair of the wife,  or the wife clears the unwanted hair of the husband,  if they wish to do so.

 

Q-(9):  If we take bath together in bathroom, it permissible and during bath if my husband have intercourse in standing position in bath room there is any harm.

There is absolutely no harm or restriction in the husband and wife having a bath together,  or having sexual intercourse in the bathroom in a standing,  sitting,  or any position they may wish.

 

Q-(10):  Last question is when I in my period, my husband use to play with

my buttocks and and anus hole with finger and rubbing his penis over my anus hole (not Putting inside) and ejaculating. Is this haram.

There is absolutely no harm if the husband plays with the flesh of the buttocks of his wife;  but he should avoid touching or penetrating the hole with his finger or with his penis,  as this act is considered impure,  unclean,  unhealthy and unnatural.    As long the husband does not ejaculate in the (back) hole itself,  he may ejaculate anywhere he wishes.

 

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me.  Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

 

Your Brother in Islam,

 

 

Burhan

 

 

 

 

 

 

    

 

 

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