Can Muslim do sex with his wife by using Condom to control birth.
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Being a Muslim Married I would like to ask some questions on the Sex topic :
1.Can Muslim do sex with his wife by using Condom to control birth or it is not
permissible in Islam and it is a Sin in Islam?
2.Can Muslim do sex with his wife by kissing her Vagina or it is not
permissible in Islam and it is a Sin in Islam?
3.Can Muslim do sex with his wife through her Anus or it is not permissible in
Islam and it is a Sin in Islam?
Above answer will be very helpful to me in order not to do any Sin if it is not
permissible in Islam
Jazak Allah
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Answer:
Use condoms sex
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His
help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide,
and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear
witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness
that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah
Baqarah verse 223:
223 Your wives are as a tilth unto you; so
approach your tilth (for sexual intercourse) when or how ye will.
Abu Dhar al-Ghafari reported: ‘The Messenger
of Allah (saws) said: “there is a reward for you [even] in sex with your
wife."’ The companions asked: ‘O Messenger of Allah (saws) is there a
reward if one satisfies his passion?" He (saws) said: "Do you know
that if he satisfies it unlawfully he has taken a sin upon himself? Likewise, if he satisfies it lawfully, he is
rewarded."
Related by Ahmad and Muslim.
Islam has allowed the husband and the wife in marriage
every possible liberty to enjoy conjugal relations with each other, except
three:
Other than the above three restrictions, one may enjoy
conjugal relations with one’s wife any place, any time, and any how their
heart’s desire.
Q-1: Can
Muslim do sex with his wife by using Condom to control birth or it is not
permissible in Islam and it is a Sin in Islam?
Islam has permitted the spacing of children in a marriage,
if one wishes to do so. It has been
reported in authentic narrations that some of the noble companions of the
Messenger of Allah (saws) used to practice ‘coitus-interruptus’, whereby the
male organ is removed from the female organ just before ejaculation.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.136 Narrated by Jabir
We used to practice ‘coitus interruptus’
during the lifetime of Allah's Messenger (saws) while the Qur'an was being
Revealed.
Most of the scholars of Islam are of the opinion, that
there is no harm if one wishes or tries to space the birth of one’s child, or
even uses one of the modern forms of birth control (condoms, pills, etc.) to
space the ages of their children. But
all of them are absolutely unanimous in their opinion that any form of
permanent birth control is absolutely forbidden in Islam.
But if one were to stop or limit the number of their
children only because of the fear of how they will provide for them or feed
them….then such a fear and belief is absolutely against the guidance of Allah
and His Messenger (saws), and a grave sin in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah
Anaam verse 140:
Most surely they became losers, who, in
their folly and ignorance killed their own children; and made unlawful what Allah had provided
them as sustenance, falsely ascribing
prohibitions to Allah. Surely, they
went astray and were not at all rightly guided.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah
Anaam verse 151 (part):
You should not kill your children for
fear of poverty; for We provide sustenance for you and will provide sustenance for
them also.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 17 Surah
Israa verse 31:
Do not kill your children for fear of
want; for it is We Who provide for them, and for you as well. Indeed, their killing is a heinous
crime!
Q-2: Can
Muslim do sex with his wife by kissing her Vagina or it is not permissible in
Islam and it is a Sin in Islam?
To derive pleasure by touching ones spouse’s private parts
with the mouth is what is known as ‘oral sex’.
Such an act is obviously unnatural, unhealthy, unhygienic, unclean,
impure and this act is not found even in any of the lower animate
creations!
Because oral sex is a new deviation of mankind, it finds
specific mention neither in the Quran nor the Sunnah!
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 7 Surah
Aaraaf verse 157:
157 Those who follow the Messenger, the ‘Ummi’ (unlettered) Prophet
(Mohammed (saws)) whom they find mentioned in their own (Scriptures); in the
Law and the Gospel; for he (Prophet Mohamed (saws)) commands them what is just
and forbids them what is evil: he allows them as lawful what is
‘tayyibaat’ (good and pure) and prohibits them from what is ‘Khabaayith’ (bad,
evil and impure); He releases them from their heavy burdens and from
the yokes that are upon them. So it is
those who believe in him, honor him, help him, and follow the Light which is
sent down with him: it is they who will prosper."
But since the permissibility/impermissibility of this
specific act of what is known today as ‘oral sex’ is not mentioned by name or
act anywhere in the Quran and the Sunnah, the God-fearing and the pious amongst
the scholars in Islam have abstained from declaring it ‘haraam’; the most they
have said is that the act is from the ‘khabaaith’ (impure) and thus closer to
the haraam than to the halaal, and the believers should fear Allah and abstain
from it.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 3.267 Narrated by An Numan bin Bashir
The Prophet (saws) said "Both the halaal
(lawful) and the haraam (unlawful) things are (made) obvious, and in between
them are (suspicious) doubtful matters.
So whoever forsakes those doubtful things lest he may commit a sin, will
definitely avoid what is clearly unlawful; and whoever indulges in these
(suspicious) doubtful things bravely, is likely to commit what is clearly
illegal. Sins are Allah's Hima (i.e.
private pasture) and whoever pastures (his sheep) near it, is likely to get in
it at any moment."
Given the unbelievable liberty Islam has granted to the
husband and the wife to enjoy conjugal relations in their sacred bond of
marriage, in our humble opinion, it would be best for the believers who
sincerely fear Allah and the Last Day to strive to abstain from this doubtful
act of ‘oral sex’; and Allah Alone Knows Best.
Q-3: Can
Muslim do sex with his wife through her Anus or it is not permissible in Islam
and it is a Sin in Islam?
Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2157 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
The Prophet (saws) said: ‘He who has
intercourse with his wife through her anus is accursed.’
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3192 Narrated by Khuzaymah ibn Thabit
The Prophet (saws) said, "Allah is not
ashamed of the Truth! Do not have
intercourse with women through the anus."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3195 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Abbas
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "Allah
will not look at a man who has intercourse with a man or a woman through the
anus."
Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 3895 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
The Prophet (saws) said: ‘If anyone resorts
to a diviner and believes in what he says or has intercourse with his wife when
she is menstruating, or has intercourse with his wife through her anus:
he has nothing to do with what has been sent down to Muhammad (saws)!’
Allah and His Messenger (saws) have specified as
absolutely unlawful and prohibited for a believer who sincerely fears Allah and
the Last Day to enjoy conjugal relations with his wife through her anus.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only
due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me
alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is
the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan
