I want to marry but cannot find a groom

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Assalamualaikum,I am a 24 year old girl, unmarried. Me and my family have been looking for a groom for me from last 3yrs but we are not able to find someone suitable or maybe the proposals dont click. A year back i had got engaged but then it didnt work out due to certain reasons. Now again we are looking either we dont like someone, or they dont like us, or if we like someone they dont reply us. I dont understand what to do. Some people tell my mother someone has done magic for your daughter not to get married and you should open faal and do something so that the spell is removed. I dont beleive in all these things but i want dont want my mom to get into this faal matters. What should we do so that we can find a groom fast for me? Even i am aging and even i am fedup of meeting people and seeing their sons showing my photographs. Alhamdulillah i pray 5times a day do all my azkaars and all but still its taking time. PLease give me some sincere advise on this issue.Jazakallah

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Answer:

I want to marry but cannot find a groom

My dear beloved sister in Islam, if all the Jinns and all the magicians of the world were to get together and plot and plan to bring about any harm upon anyone, they would not even be able to damage even one hair on the body of that individual without the precise Will and Permission of Allah Subhanah, the Lord of the Worlds!  Thus one should neither fear the Jinns, nor the magicians, but rather one should fear Allah their Lord, and keep their full trust and belief in Him and Him Alone.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan verse 160:

If Allah helps you none can overcome you: if He forsakes you who is there after that that can help you?  In Allah then let believers put their trust.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 33 Surah Ahzaab verse 3:

And put your trust in Allah Alone;  and enough is Allah as a Disposer of affairs.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 9 Surah Taubah verse 51:

Say: "Nothing will happen to us except what Allah has decreed for us:  He is our Protector"; and on Allah let the believers put their trust

Your statement: Some people tell my mother someone has done magic for your daughter not to get married and you should open faal and do something so that the spell is removed.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 185: Ramadan is the month in which the Quran was sent down: this Book is a Perfect Guidance for mankind and consists of clear Teachings which show the Right Way, and are a Criterion of the Truth and falsehood.

The Glorious Quran was revealed by Allah Subhanah as a Book of Guidance and not as a recipe to foretell or find out what the future holds for one, with regard to worldly or personal matters like sick, marriage problem etc.  Allah has revealed His Guidance, sent His Messengers, bestowed man with intelligence and the power of reasoning, and one must follow the Guidance, and use their bestowed intelligence, wisdom and experience in determining the path that is best suited to them in all matters.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 31 Surah Luqmaan verse 34: Verily the knowledge of the Hour is with Allah (Alone).  It is He Who sends down rain and it is He (Alone) who knows what is in the wombs.  Nor does anyone know what it is that he will earn on the tomorrow: nor does anyone know in what land he is to die.  Verily with Allah is full knowledge and He is acquainted (with all things).

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 72 Surah Jinn verses 25-27: Say (O Prophet (saws)): "I know not whether the (punishment) which ye are promised is near or whether my Lord will appoint for it a distant term.”He (Alone) knows the Unseen, nor does He make any one acquainted with His Mysteries except (what He Wills to) a Messenger whom He has chosen.”

It is absolute misguidance and a manifestation of the abomination of ‘shirk’ to determine one’s future in the life of this world by randomly opening a page of any book, or even (Allah forbid) the Glorious Quran! The people who open these so-called ‘faals’ and the people who solicit their future from such unscrupulous ‘moulvis’ and ‘scholars’, both are in manifest sin and will be held severely accountable in the Court of the Lord Most Majestic for making a complete mockery of the Guidance of Allah Subhanah!

If anyone using any method whatsoever, be it ‘faal’, or reading of the palms, or looking at the stars, or the heavenly bodies, or any other thing whatsoever….claims to know or foretell the future, know with total and absolute conviction that the person who makes such claims is an absolute, confirmed, and manifest liar!  There is no one in creation, and we reiterate, absolutely no one in creation who knows or can tell what will happen to anyone in the ‘unseen’ or in the future…..Allah Subhanah Alone and Absolutely Alone Knows the seen and the unseen; and He Alone Knows what is past, what is present, and what the future holds!

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4563        Narrated by Abu Sa'id al-Khudri Allah's Messenger (saws used to seek refuge in Allah from jinn and the evil eye in men till the Mu'awwidhatan (Surah 113 Al-Falaq and Surah 114 An-Naas) were revealed, after which he (saws) made use of them and abandoned everything else.

If ever one fears any evil from any quarter, the guidance of the Messenger of Allah (saws) dictates that one recite the Muawwidhaat (Surahs 113 Al-Falaq and 114 An-Naas), seeking refuge and putting their complete trust and faith in the Power and Strength and Protection

of Allah Subhanah Alone; it is expected that their Lord Most High will protect them from any and all evil and no evil or harm will be able to approach them from any quarter. 

If one fears any evil from any quarter of the unseen and does anything else, like using a ‘taaweedh’, or an amulet, or a charm, or sprinkle water, or do absolutely anything else other than seeking refuge in their Lord and reciting the ‘Muawwidhaat’ (Surahs 113 Al-Falaq and 114 An-Naas)…..then it would be deemed that they have put their trust in a thing other than Allah Subhanah, and all such forms and rites would constitute the evil manifestation of ‘shirk’ in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.

Your statement: Please give me some sincere advice on this issue. Jazakallah

Dear and beloved sister in Islam, beseech and implore your Lord Most Bounteous as often as you can and beseech Him in all humility, fear, and hope to give you success in the eternal life of the Hereafter.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 186: And if  My servants ask you,  O Prophet, concerning Me,  tell them that I am quite near to them.   I hear and answer the prayer of the suppliant, when he calls on Me.  So let them respond to My call and believe in Me.  (Convey this to them), perhaps they may be guided aright!

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2257        Narrated by Abu Sa'id al-Khudri The Prophet (saws) said, "Any Muslim who makes a supplication containing nothing which is sinful, or which involves breaking ties of relationship, will be given for it by Allah one of three things: He will give him swift answer, or store it up for him in the next world, or turn away from him an equivalent amount of evil."  Those who heard it said they would then make many supplications and he replied that Allah was more ready to answer than they were to ask.

Nu'man b. Bashir reported that the Prophet (saws), said, "Verily supplication is worship."Narrated by Ahmad and Sunan.

Abu Hurairah reported, "The Prophet (saws) said, "Nothing is more dear to Allah than one's supplication to Him.''  Narrated by Tirmidhi and Ibn Majah.

Salman reported that the Prophet (saws), said, "Your Lord, the Blessed and the Exalted One, is Modest and Generous, and He loathes to turn away His servant empty-handed when he raises his hands to Him in supplication."Narrated by Ahmad and Ibn Hibban.

Abdallah b. 'Umar reported that the Prophet (saws) said, "Hearts are like vessels, some more attentive and capacious than others. When you supplicate Allah you should be certain of being answered, and know that Allah does not answer a supplication that comes from a careless and inattentive heart." Narrated by Ahmad

My dear and beloved sister, if one is facing some trials in his/her life, it is best to be patient and remember Allah and supplicate him to make these trials easy for you.


Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale-Imraan verse 200:

200    O ye who believe! Practice ‘sabr’ (persevere in patience and constancy): vie in such‘sabr’ (perseverance); strengthen each other; and fear Allah; that ye may prosper.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 153:

153    O ye who believe! Seek (Allah’s) help with ‘sabr’ (patient perseverance) and prayer: for Allah is with those who practice ‘sabr’ (patiently persevere).

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 31 Surah Luqman verse 17:

17      (And Luqman said:) "O my son! Establish regular prayer enjoin what is just and forbid what is wrong: and bear with ‘sabr’ (patient constancy) whatever betide thee; for this is firmness (of purpose) in (the conduct of) affairs.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verses 45-46:

45      Nay! Seek (Allah's) help with ‘sabr’ (patient perseverance) and prayer: it is indeed hard except to those who bring a lowly spirit.

46      Who bear in mind the certainty that they are to meet their Lord and that they are to return to Him.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 103 Surah Al-Asr verses 1-3:

1        By (the token of) time.

2        Verily (all of) mankind is in (severe) loss!

3        Except such as have faith and do righteous deeds; and (join together) in the mutual teaching of Truth and of ‘sabr’ (patience and constancy).

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 7 Surah Aaraaf verse 126:

126    "But thou dost wreak thy vengeance on us simply because we believed in the Signs of our Lord when they reached us!  O Our Lord! Pour out on us ‘sabr’ (patience and constancy) and take our souls unto thee as Muslims (who bow to thy will)"!

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 11 Surah Hud verses 9-11:

9        If We give man a taste of Mercy from Ourselves and then withdraw it from him, behold! He is in despair and (falls into) blasphemy.

10      But if We give him a taste of (Our) favors after adversity hath touched him, He is sure to say "All evil has departed from me!"; behold! He falls into exultation and pride.

11      Not so do those who show ‘sabr’ (patience and constancy), and work righteousness; for them is forgiveness (of sins) and a great reward.

 Al-Muwatta Hadith 58.7

Malik related from Ibn Shihab from Ata ibn Yazid al-Laythi from Abu Said al-Khudri that some people of the Ansar asked some things from the Messenger of Allah (saws) and he (saws) gave to them. Then they asked him (saws) again, and he (saws) gave to them until he (saws) used up what he had. Then he (saws) said, "What wealth I have, I will not hoard from you. Whoever has forbearance, Allah will help him. Whoever tries to be independent, Allah will enrich him. Whoever tries to be ‘saabir’ (patient), Allah will give him ‘sabr’(patience), and no one is given a better or vaster gift by Allah than ‘sabr’ (patience and constancy)."

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 9.268         Narrated by Thabit Al Bunani

The Prophet (saws) said, 'No doubt, ‘sabr’ is (best practiced or displayed) at the first stroke of a calamity!’

The Prophet (saws) said in an authentic narration: “On the Day of Judgment, Allah will take a person who lived his whole worldly life in trials and tribulations of poverty, ill-health, no children, no authority and misery. Then the All Merciful will just dip this person into one of the rivers of Paradise for a split second, and then ask him: “Did you ever face any trials or tribulations or misery in your life gone by?”. The person will reply: “I swear by you O Allah,I do not even know what is misery or tribulation.” Then Allah will take a person who lived a great life in this world, with abundance of wealth, health, children, honor and authority, and dip him for a split second in Hell-Fire. Then the All Mighty will ask him: “Did you ever enjoy and have peace in the life gone by?”. This person will reply: “I swear by You, O Allah, I do not even know what peace and enjoyment mean!””

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 13 Surah Raad verse 28-29: The people who have accepted (the Message), their hearts find comfort in the remembrance of Allah. Note it well!,that is Allah’s remembrance Alone that brings contentment to the hearts! Blessed are those who have accepted the Message and done righteous deeds. They will have a good end.

May Allah make your trials easy, and guide us to remember Him at all times. May Allah grant us patience when in trial and make us thankful for the favors He has bestowed upon us. May Allah guide you and us all to understand the guidance of the Holy Quran. May Allah have mercy on all mankind and guide whoever wants to be guided to the Straight Path.Ameen.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your Brother in Islam,

Burhan

 

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