Obey husband or Allah.

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As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)

 

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Dear Sir

 

My husband wants me to look beautiful for him and he encourages me to go to a parlor to remove the unwanted hair around the Eyebrow. But according the Islam we should not remove the hair around the eyebrow. But our elders say that we should listen to husband. So what shall I do?

 

Thanks & Regards

 

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Answer:

 

Obey husband or Allah

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 34:

34   Men are the protectors and maintainers of women because Allah has given the one more than the other, and because they support them from their means.  Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient and guard in (the husband's) absence what Allah would have them guard (their chastity, their husband’s honor, property, etc.)

 

Respected sister in Islam, it is not merely the ‘elders’ who say that a righteous believing wife should ‘listen’ to her husband….but rather it is no less than Allah and His Messenger (saws) who have Guided and Commanded the righteous believing wife to be devoutly obedient to all the lawful commands of her husband!

 

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3272        Narrated by Abu Hurayrah

When Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) was asked which woman was best he replied, "The one who pleases (her husband) when he looks at her, obeys him when he gives a (lawful) command, and does not go against his wishes regarding her person or property by doing anything of which he disapproves."

 

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 285         Narrated by Abu Hurayrah

The Prophet (saws) said: ‘Had it been permissible that a person may prostrate himself before another, I would have ordered that a wife should prostrate herself before her husband.’

 

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 286         Narrated by Umm Salamah

The Prophet (saws) said: ‘If a woman dies while her husband was pleased with her, she will enter Paradise.’

 

Your Question: ……My husband wants me to look beautiful for him and he encourages me to go to a parlor to remove the unwanted hair around the Eyebrow. But according the Islam we should not remove the hair around the eyebrow.

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3696        Narrated by An-Nawwas ibn Sam'an

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "A creature is not to be obeyed when it involves disobedience to the Creator."

 

Respected sister in Islam, the same Allah and His Messenger (saws) who have guided the believing wife to be devoutly obedient to the lawful commands of her husband have absolutely and categorically forbidden the believers to obey any command from anyone in creation if it involves disobedience of the Lord Creator!

 

Regardless of whosoever it may happen to be…be it one’s elders, or even one’s own parents or one’s husband, etc….if the command or order they give is against the Command and Guidance of Allah and His Messenger (saws)….that unlawful command of theirs will be rejected and not obeyed in the least! 

 

If one’s husband (or anyone else in creation) commands one’s wife to bow down, or invoke, or worship a deity other than Allah Subhanah….or they command their wife to stop wearing the ‘hijaab’….or they command their wife to leave her obligatory fasts or prayers….or they command their wife to lie, cheat, steal, kill, etc…..the wife is not to obey such unlawful commands of her husband, if indeed she fears Allah and the Last Day; for such commands are absolutely against the Commands and Guidance of her Lord Creator! 

 

Sahih Al-Bukhari  7.815        Narrated by Abdullah

Allah has cursed those women who practice tattooing and those who get themselves tattooed, and those who remove their eye-brow hairs, and those who create a space between their teeth artificially to look beautiful, and such women as change the features created by Allah.  Why then should I not curse those whom the Prophet (saws) has cursed?

 

When the Messenger of Allah (saws) has invoked the curse of Allah Subhanah on the women who remove or shape their eye-brow hairs……absolutely regardless of how much one’s husband (or anyone or anything else in creation!) desires it, the wife should categorically reject such an unlawful command of her husband, if indeed she fears Allah and the Last Day! 

 

Obedience to one’s loved one’s command (be it one’s elders, parents, or husband, etc.) is and should always be and remain subservient to the Commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws). Always!  

 

If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws),   one can be assured of never ever being misled;   but if one believes, obeys and follows any other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of being led astray.  

 

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone.  Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

 

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

 

 

Burhan

 

 
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