Girl will leave islam if no marriage.

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Assalamwalekum
i am sarfaraz from india .and i want to ask you that i love one hindu girl but she has now started reading namaz and quran as well.she is ready to do everything for me but my mother does not agree to this ,so accordingly i beleive i should go with whatever my mother says as mother has a special place and is said not to be disobedient to mother, but i fear if i leave her she might as well leave islam ,i am in dillema please guide me according to islam .

 

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Girl will leave islam if no marriage

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 25 Surah Furqaan verse 54:

54      It is He Who has created man from water: then has He established relationships through blood and (through) marriage: for thy Lord has Power (over all things).

 

Islam guides that a marriage is not merely a union of two people who love each other, but rather a sacred union that unites two whole families….thus if one is faced with a situation whereby their son is so in ‘love’ with an eligible girl (believer, chaste, etc.) and the parents of the boy are satisfied with the character and the practice of religion of the girl…..they should accede with the choice and request of their son.

 

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith  7.27         Narrated by Abu Huraira

The Prophet (saws) said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."

 

Although the consent of the boy’s parents is not an obligatory condition of a marriage in Islam, it would only be piety and righteousness on the part of the son to make sure that he has the approval and consent of his parents before he marries the girl.  If for any reason one finds that their parents are just not willing to consent to their choice, it would be better to marry another girl whom the boy and the parents both approve of….for marriage is but a ‘Sunnah’ (voluntary), but to obey one’s parents is ‘Fard-ayn’ or absolutely obligatory upon every believer who sincerely believes in Allah and the Last Day.

 

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4941        Narrated byAbu Umamah

A man said, "O Messenger of Allah (saws) what rights can parents demand from their children?"  He (saws) replied, "They are (or your relation with them will determine) your Paradise and your Hell!"

 

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 3.821         Narrated by Anas

The Prophet (saws) was asked about the ‘Grave Sins’, and He (saws) replied, "They are:--

(1 ) To join others in worship with Allah,

(2) To be undutiful to one's parents,

(3) To kill a person (which Allah has forbidden to kill)

(4) And to give a false witness."

 

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4928        Narrated by Abud Darda

When a man came to him and said, "I have a wife whom my mother commands me to divorce," he replied to him that he had heard Allah's Messenger (saws) say, "A parent is the best of the gates of Paradise; so if you wish, keep to the gate, or lose it."

 

Your Question: i am sarfaraz from india .and i want to ask you that i love one hindu girl but she has now started reading namaz and quran as well.she is ready to do everything for me

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 221:

221    Do not marry idolatrous women until they believe; a slave woman who believes is better than an idolatrous woman even though she allure you.  Nor marry (your girls) to idolaters until they believe: a man slave who believes is better than an idolater even though he allure you.  They (idolaters, disbelievers) do (but) beckon you to the Fire; but Allah beckons by His Grace to the Garden (of Bliss) and forgiveness, and makes His Signs clear to mankind: that they may celebrate His Praise.

 

Respected brother in Islam, as much as the hindu sister might allure you, it is categorically forbidden for a believer who sincerely fears Allah and the Last Day to marry an idolatrous women until she sincerely accepts Islam as her way of life.

 

If the sister sincerely believes in the Truth of Islam and of her own will is wiling to revert to the deen of Islam, then and only then would it be lawful for you to marry this woman of your choice.

 

Your Question: …..but i fear if i leave her she might as well leave islam ,i am in dillema please guide me according to islam .

One should accept Islam because one believes in its absolute Truth, not because the acceptance of Islam and becoming a ‘muslim’ might bring them some paltry material or worldly benefit, or makes them eligible to marry a believer!  If you fear that sincere ‘eman’ or faith has not entered the sister’s heart, or you believe that the revert sister has accepted Islam only because it makes her eligible to marry you, or you fear that her faith in Allah and the Last Day is so weak that were you to decline to marry her, she would revert back to her pagan religion…..then it would only be piety and righteousness on your part in the Sight of the Lord that you decline to marry such a woman…if indeed you do not want to be included amongst those who would be in severe loss in this world and the Hereafter.

 

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith  7.27         Narrated by Abu Huraira

The Prophet (saws) said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."

 

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone.  Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

 

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

 

 

Burhan

 

 
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