My wife does not know i have done this as no one told her this. but i want her back.

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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

Dear Sir,


I in Dubai and my wife is in pakistan. I wrote divorce 3 times in a papers 4 months back and asked my friend to sign it. he read only one paper and gave me back without signing it. he didnt read other papers and i destoyed these papers.


2 months back i said i divorce my wife 3 times infront of my mother and one month back i said 3 times divorce infront of my friend.


my wife does not know i have done this as no one told her this. but i want her back. is she divorced i did this in her asence. will this be considered 3 as divorces or 2 ? is there any chance i can have her back? please advise

 

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Answer:

 

Three irrevocable divorce

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verses 229-230:

229    A (revocable) divorce is only permissible twice: after that the parties should either hold together on equitable terms or separate with kindness.  It is not lawful for you (men) to take back any of your gifts (from your wives) except when both parties fear that they would be unable to keep the limits ordained by Allah.  If ye (judges) do indeed fear that they would be unable to keep the limits ordained by Allah there is no blame on either of them if she give something for her freedom. These are the limits ordained by Allah; so do not transgress them.  If any do transgress the limits ordained by Allah such persons wrong (themselves as well as others).

230    So if a husband divorces his wife (irrevocably for the third time) he cannot after that remarry her until after she has married another husband and he has divorced her.  In that case there is no blame on either of them if they reunite provided they feel that they can keep the limits ordained by Allah.  Such are the limits ordained by Allah which He makes plain to those who understand.

 

Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2189  Narrated by Abu Hurayrah

The Prophet (saws) said: ‘There are three things which, whether undertaken seriously or in jest, are treated as serious: Marriage, divorce and taking back a wife (after a divorce which is not final).’

 

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3292        Narrated by Mahmud ibn Labid

When Allah's Messenger (saws) was informed about a man who had divorced his wife, declaring it three times without any interval between them, he (saws) arose in anger and said, "Is a mockery being made of the Book of Allah Who is Great and Glorious, while I am amongst you?"  As a result a companion got up and asked, "O Messenger of Allah (saws) shall I kill him?"

 

The absolute majority of the scholars are of the opinion that if one pronounces three divorces to one’s wife at one time, they will count as three and an absolutely irrevocable divorce will be established in the marriage.  That was the ruling of even the noble companions of the Messenger of Allah (saws) of the stature of Hadrat Abdullah ibn Abbas (r.a.) and of Hadrat Abu Hurayrah (r.a.), etc.

 

Al-Muwatta Hadith 29.37

Yahya related from Malik from Ibn Shihab from Muhammad ibn Abd ar-Rahman ibn Thawban that Muhammad ibn Iyas ibn al-Bukayr said, "A man divorced his wife three times before he had consummated the marriage, and then it seemed good to him to marry her. Therefore, he wanted an opinion, and I went with him to ask Abdullah ibn Abbas and Abu Hurayra on his behalf about it, and they said, 'We do not think that he should marry her until she has married another husband.'

 

Al-Muwatta Hadith 29.1

Yahya related from Malik that he had heard that a man said to Abdullah ibn Abbas (r.a.), "I have divorced my wife by saying I divorce you a hundred times. What do you think my situation is?" Ibn Abbas (r.a.) said to him, "She was divorced from you by three pronouncements, and by the (other) ninety-seven, you have mocked the Aayat of Allah."

 

Your Statements: I wrote divorce 3 times in a papers 4 months back and asked my friend to sign it…….2 months back i said i divorce my wife 3 times infront of my mother and one month back i said 3 times divorce infront of my friend.

my wife does not know i have done this as no one told her this

If you have pronounced or declared divorce to your wife three times, regardless of whether verbally or in writing, regardless of whether your wife was present when you made the declarations or not….because you chose to use all your three divorce rights in the marriage, an absolutely irrevocable divorce has now been established between you and your wife in the marriage in the Sight of Shariah Law and in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.

 

Your Question: is there any chance i can have her back? please advise

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 230:

230    So if a husband divorces his wife (irrevocably for the third time) he cannot after that remarry her until after she has married another husband and he has divorced her.  In that case there is no blame on either of them if they reunite provided they feel that they can keep the limits ordained by Allah.  Such are the limits ordained by Allah which He makes plain to those who understand.

Because you chose to declare three (or more) divorces unto your wife, an absolutely irrevocable divorce has now been established in the marriage and it would be absolutely unlawful for you to remarry the same woman again, unless and until your ex-wife happened to marry someone else, and her new husband, of his own free will happens to divorce her, or he dies.

 

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Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

 

 

Burhan

 

 
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