How we can make sure that she is sincerely praying to allah s t , for forgiveness and she is now feeling guilty about what she did.

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I would like to discuss an issue here. Please help and guide me on this issue...


This is related to unfaithfulness of wife. If a wife has been unfaithful towards her husband by keeping relationship with other person and did Zina, can the husband leave/talak her even if she is in pregnant state ?.


According to some answers given here , it is said that, if your wife is asking for fogiveness for the sin- zina, she has performed, you should forgive her.


But how we can make sure that she is sincerely praying to allah s t , for forgiveness and she is now feeling guilty about what she did.


The biggest question is should/Can i forgive her ? and how should i make sure that she wont repeat this sin again in future ?


please guide me on this issue...

 

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Zina of wife

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

 

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 17 Surah Israa verse 32:

Do not even go near ‘zina’ (fornication or adultery) for it is a very indecent thing and a very evil way!

 

Zina (adultery) is considered amongst the gravest sins in Islam.  One can only imagine the severity of the sin by the punishment Allah and His Messenger (saws) have decreed for this abomination.  If one is living in an Islamic State and gets convicted in a Shariah Court of the sin of zina (adultery), the punishment prescribed by Allah and His Messenger (saws) for the life of this world is that the convict should be stoned to death!!   And if the person dies without making ‘Taubah’ or seeking sincere repentance for their transgression from Allah Subhanah before they meet with their appointment of death, their punishment of the Hereafter in the Just Court of Allah Subhanah would be much more severe and lasting!!   

 

Dear and beloved brother in Islam, as a believing and God-fearing husband of a wife who has transgressed the bounds of the Lord and committed the absolute abomination of ‘zina’, you have two lawful options in Islam:

 

Option-1: If you honestly believe that your wife committed the evil of ‘zina’ in ignorance, fears Allah and His Day of Accounting, and is sincerely ashamed and repentant for her abomination of a crime….and you can bring yourself to forgive her, it would be best to forgive her her sin and save your marriage.

 

Option-2: But if you see that your wife neither fears Allah nor the Day of Judgment, nor is she ashamed nor repentant for her transgressions….and given half an opportunity she would indulge in the same transgression again; it is incumbent and obligatory upon you as a husband who sincerely fears Allah and the Last Day to immediately and permanently separate from such an impious and immoral wife through divorce.  It would simply not befit the characteristic of a believing husband who sincerely fears Allah and the Last Day to agree to remain married to a woman who insists or continues to commit adultery.

 

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3655        Narrated by Abdullah ibn Umar

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "There are three people to whom Allah has forbidden Paradise: one who is addicted to wine, an undutiful son, and a cuckold who agrees to his womenfolk's adultery."

 

Your Question: ….can the husband leave/talak her even if she is in pregnant state ?.

If the husband fears that his wife is unrepentant at her grave sin of ‘zina’, or fears that she might indulge in the same transgression again…..he is well within his rights to initiate a divorce proceedings against her, regardless of whether she happens to be pregnant or not.

 

Your Question: …if your wife is asking for fogiveness for the sin- zina, she has performed, you should forgive her.

If Allah forbid, one’s wife is guilty of the abomination of ‘zina’, and the husband honestly believes that his wife committed the evil of ‘zina’ in ignorance, fears Allah and His Day of Accounting, and is sincerely ashamed and repentant for her abomination….and the husband can bring himself to forgive her, it would be best to forgive her her sin and save their marriage.

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 24 Surah Noor verse 22 (part):

…..let them (the believers) forgive and overlook: do you not wish that Allah should forgive you? For Allah is Oft-Forgiving Most Merciful.

 

Just as one who sincerely repents after transgressing one of the prescribed Boundaries of the Lord wishes that their Lord Most Merciful would forgive them….the Lord Most Gracious guides the believers that if one amongst them violates their trust or their rights, they too should show liberality towards them and forgive and overlook their faults.

 

Your Question: But how we can make sure that she is sincerely praying to allah s t , for

forgiveness and she is now feeling guilty about what she did.

Respected brother, the act of ‘taubah’ or repentance is a condition of the heart and something between the person and their Lord Alone….and the truth remains that no human being can peek into the heart of another and verify whether or not the ‘taubah’ done by that person is genuine or not.

 

Although there is no absolute way of making sure whether or not the ‘taubah’ of one who has sinned is authentic or not….one would have a very good indication one way or the other by examining the manifestation of the person.  If one who has transgressed the prescribed bounds of Allah Subhanah in ignorance and are absolutely genuine in their repentance, one would find that such people would tend to spend long hours prostrating in the audience of their Lord seeking repentance, shedding tears in fear of standing in their Lord’s Tribunal on that Inevitable and Tumultuous Day of Judgment, and striving their utmost to amend their conduct by increasing the doing of good deeds.  It would be almost impossible for a loved one not to witness the dramatic and visible change that takes place in the life, behavior and attitude of one who has made sincere repentance.

 

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone.  Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

 

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

 

 

Burhan

 

 

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