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As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)

 

One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

asalam alykom O rahmat allah o barakato,
My question is about my brother-in-law, he had stopped talking to his brother for a while now, and i wasn`t sure if that was a sin or not! now if it is a sin, can i try to talk him in to talking to his brother again or should i just mind my own business???

Thank you and god bless you all. 

 

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Answer:

 

Break relation with brother

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 13 Surah Ar-Raad  verse 25:

As for those who break their covenant with Allah after confirming it, who cut asunder relationships which Allah has bidden to be joined, and spread chaos on the earth,  their’s shall be the curse, and they shall have a wretched abode in the Hereafter.

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Bakarah verse 27:

And He leads astray only those who disobey Allah,  who break Allah’s covenant after ratifying it, who cut asunder relationships what Allah has ordered to be joined, and who produce chaos on the Earth.   These are indeed the people who are the losers.

 

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.17 Narrated by Abu Huraira

The Prophet (saws) said, "The word 'Ar-Rahm (womb) derives its name from Ar-Rahman (i.e., one of the names of Allah) and Allah said: 'I will keep good relation with the one who will keep good relation with you (the womb, i.e. kith and kin), and sever the relation with him who will sever the relation with you (the womb, i.e. kith and kin).

 

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.15 Narrated by Anas bin Malik

Allah 's Messenger (saws) said, "Whoever loves that he be granted more wealth and that his lease of life be prolonged, then he should keep good relations with his kith and kin."

 

Sahih Muslim Hadith 6212     Narrated by Abdullah ibn Umar

Allah's Messenger (saws) said: ‘It is not permissible for a believer to have estranged relations with his brother beyond three days.’

 

It is absolutely impermissible, forbidden, and an abomination of a sin in the Sight of Allah for one to break or sever ties or relationships of blood which the Lord Himself has created for them! 

 

Your Question: ….can i try to talk him in to talking to his brother again or should i just mind my own business???
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chatper 49 Surah Hujuraat verse 10:

10      The believers are but a single brotherhood: so make peace and reconciliation between your two (contending) brothers: And fear Allah that ye may receive Mercy.

 

Not only is it permissible in Islam for one to strive to make peace between two estranged or contending brothers, it is a duty the Lord Most High has laid upon the believers to do so! 

 

Although the guidance of Islam is to always speak and say nothing but the truth, the Messenger of Allah (saws) said that even if one had to invent or forge something or say a ‘lie’ in their effort to reconcile the differences between two estranged believers, one would not be considered a liar in the Sight of Allah Subhanah!   

 

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 3.857         Narrated by Um Kulthum bint Uqba

That she heard Allah's Messenger (saws) saying, "He who makes peace between the people by inventing good information or saying good things, is not a liar."

 

Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 4902  Narrated by Umm Kulthum bint Uqbah al-Umawiyyah

The Prophet (saws) said: “He who forged in order to put things right between two persons did not lie.” The version by Ahmad ibn Muhammad and Musaddad states the the Prophet (saws) declared: “The liar is not the one who puts things right between people, saying what is good and increasing good.”

 

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone.  Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

 

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

 

 

Burhan